What is Bullying?It is hurting or being meanto someone- repeatedlyand on purpose. Bullyingcomes in many forms.
Types of Bullying Physical Attacks: Such as hitting, pushing, or kicking. Verbal Attacks: Such as unwanted sexual advances, gestures or remarks. Social Bullying: Which may involve spreading rumors or leaving people out of groups or activities. *Anyone can bully- or be bullied.
Why Should I learn aboutBullying?Because it’s a serious problem. It canlead to a lot of lasting pain andunhappiness.
People who are bullied: May feel bad about themselves, which can make it hard to concentrate and learn. People who bully: May grow up to have trouble in school, at work, and with the law *Young people need to know that adults are ready to help.
Some Facts about Bullying: People Who Bully: May do it because they are Angry Frustrated People Who Are Bulled: May keep to themselves, This makes them easier targets than people who are surrounded by friends. If people who bully think someone is weaker, they may target that person. Or, they may target someone they are jealous of. Bullying Can Happen: At a school or on the school bus At a park or playground At home In “cyberspace”
Bullying Isn’t Just Part of Growing Up: There have always been people who bully. But that doesn’t make bullying OK. Bullying hurts everyone- including those who bully. And everyone can help stop the problem. Adults Can Help: It’s good to learn how to handle arguments and avoid fights on your own. But sometimes adults give you advice on how to handle a bullying situation. Fighting is Never the Answer: Don’t believe what you see on TV or in the movies. Fighting and violence lead to more pain and shame- and possibly serious injury. There are much better ways of dealing with bullying.
When Someone Bullies, Everyone Feels the Effects Fear: Bullying makes everyone afraid- even those who aren’t targets. No one knows who will be bullied next. Shame: The person who is bullied may feel worthless and powerless, And someone who witnesses bullying may feel ashamed for not doing something to stop it. Hopelessness: If bullying isn’t stopped, some people may think that nothing can protect them from harm.
Effects Continued Violence: Remember- violence is never a good way to deal with bullying. It can only make the problem worse. And carrying a weapon may lead to more trouble. Loss of Freedom: Fear of bullying may cause some people to avoid certain places or activities. Avoiding people who bully affect your success or the fun you have at school. Absence from School: Some people may become so frightened of bullying that they stop going to school altogether. In fact, fear of violence is a major reason for dropping out of school. *Don’t wait until bullying gets out of hand. Seek help right away!
How to Handle Bullying: Tell the Person to Stop: Stand tall and look the person in the eye. Speak calmly and confidently. You could say: “Leave me alone” “Don’t say that to me” Then walk away. Keep your Cool: People who bully want to see you upset. Disappoint them by keeping a lid on your emotions until you’re someplace safe. This shows that the person’s words and actions don’t have power over you. Practice Makes Perfect: It’s hard to say when you’re scared and under pressure. Practice ways to respond to bullying- before trouble occurs.
Don’t Fight Back: Fighting is not a good way to deal with bullying. Someone is likely to be hurt physically or emotionally. You could also get in serious trouble. Focus on how to avoid violence instead. Don’t Trade Insults: You may be tempted to insult someone who had insulted you. But you shouldn’t “trash talk.” It may lead to physical violence. Talk to an Adult you Trust: For example, tell a parent, teacher, or counselor about the bullying. He or she may be able to help stop it. Remember it’s not your fault and it’s OK to tell! *Targets of bullying never “deserve” it. What everyone deserves is respect!
More Tips on Handling Bullying: Use Humor: Saying something funny can help relax a tense situation- and give you the chance to get away safely. But try not to cause embarrassment, If you make fun of or humiliate the person bullying, especially in front of others, it may only add to his/her anger. Stick with friends whenever possible: There’s safety in numbers. People who bully are less likely to target a group. Stay Safe: If the person who is bullying has a weapon, or if you’re afraid for your safety, don’t argue or fight back. Get help fast! Go someplace safe and tell an adult right away. *If you’re bullied online, do not respond. Tell an adult immediately.
If you see or hear bullying: Don’t laugh at or join: The teasing or gossip. This shows that you oppose bullying. Find others who don’t support bullying And speak up together. You could say: “Cut it out.” “That’s disrespectful.” “That’s not funny.” Offer your support To the person who was bullied. You could say a few kind words in private, or ask if he/she is OK. Small gestures can mean a lot. *Bullying doesn’t have to rule the school. You can help erase it!
Being the Target of Bullying Isn’t easy Get Help: There’s nothing wrong with getting help with a serious problem. If you or someone you know is the target of bullying, tell a parent, a teacher, or other adult. Talk about your feelings: If you feel hopeless, depressed, or lonely, don’t keep those feelings bottled up. A parent, school counselor, or other trusted adult can help. Relieve Stress: Exercise is a good way to stay healthy and relieve stress. It can also help you feel better about yourself
Built Your Self-Esteem Know Your Strengths: Everyone is good at something. Spend sometime thinking about what you can do well. Give yourself some credit. Set Goals: Having goals and working for them can help you feel successful. Set challenging goals, for example getting better grades or making the team. Start a Hobby: Special interests and activities give you a chance to enjoy yourself. They help you gain new skills. And they can help you meet new people who like the same things you do.
Where to get Help Community Youth Programs: Any program that helps build confidence and friendships will help make you a less likely target for bullies. Look into: Boys or girls clubs Religious Organizations Scouting programs Counseling: Remember, if you’re having trouble dealing with your feelings, ask for help. Counseling may be available from a: School counselor School support group Private therapist The Internet: Visit these helpful websites: www.StopBullyingNow.hrsa.gov www.GetNetWise.org
Say Goodbye to Bullying! Understand That bulling is a serious problem. Learn How to respond when a person starts bullying. Offer Support To people who are bullied. Tell An adult if you or someone you know is being bullied.