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The Power Of Choice

  1. 1. PLAN  Srila Prabhupada on choice  Stimulus-response, being proactive  How do we make choices?  Exercises  Choice Map  Judger, Swithcing and Learner Questions  Learner/Judger Chart  A-B-C-C Choice Process  The Top 12 Questions for Change  What will you choose?  Krsna Questions
  2. 2. Srila Prabhupada On Choice
  3. 3.  the conditioned living beings contact material association by their own choice, SB 1.13.50  The living entities are also His marginal potency, and by their own choice they can live in either the transcendental or material worlds. SB 2.2.14  The Lord is thus the proprietor of the fields both of nescience and of cognition, and it remains the choice of the living entity to exist in either of the above regions. SB 2.6.21
  4. 4.  the living entities, being superior energy to matter, have choice and discrimination either to surrender unto the Lord or to surrender unto material nature. SB 2.6.36  even in the material nature there is a chance of an independent choice by the living entity, and according to his choice the material energy offers him different varieties of material bodies. SB 2.9.2  Every living entity, however small or big he may be, has the choice of independence. SB 3.13.9
  5. 5.  If we depend on the choice of the Supreme Personality of Godhead, we will receive benedictions in greater opulence than we desire. SB 3.21.28  it is his free choice to accept a spiritual body or a material body, but once the body is accepted he has to enjoy or suffer the consequences. SB 3.26.8
  6. 6.  A living entity is not forced to come into the material world. He makes his own choice, being attracted by beautiful women. Every living entity has the freedom to be attracted by material nature or to stand as a hero and resist that attraction. SB 4.25.25  The living entity's constitutional position is very minute, and he can be misled in his choice. He may choose to imitate the Supreme Personality of Godhead. SB 4.29.26-27
  7. 7. "We all need an education in the obvious."
  8. 8. How do we make choices?
  9. 9. Based on what?  Paradigms, perceptions, conceptions, opinions  Principles (Rodick)  Values  Likes and dislikes  Preyas and sreyas (marchmellow)  Favorable and unfavorable
  10. 10. Stimulus - Response  Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In those choices lie our growth and our happiness.
  11. 11. Being Proactive  1. We can decide within ourselves how all that happens to us is going to affect us. 2. Between stimulus and response is our the freedom to choose our response. 3. Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. 4. The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person. 5. I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday.
  12. 12. Being Proactive  6. It’s not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us. 7. What matters most is how we respond to what we experience in life. 8. It is inspiring to realize that in choosing our response to circumstances, we can powerfully affect our circumstances. 9. Look at the weaknesses of others with compassion, not accusation. It’s not what they’re not doing or should be doing that’s the issue. The issue is our own chosen response to them and what we should be doing. 10. We are responsible for our own effectiveness, for our own happiness, and ultimately, for most of our circumstances.
  13. 13. Summary Of The Human History Summary of life: CHALLENGE - RESPONSE
  14. 14. Question Thinking is a system of tools for transforming thinking, action, and results through skillful question asking—questions we ask ourselves as well as those we ask others.
  15. 15.  Great results begin with great questions  A question not asked is a door not opened  Self-questions and interpersonal questions  Problem-oriented or solution-oriented  Judger or Learner
  16. 16. EXERCISES 1. What questions are you aksing yourself daily? What questions produce what results? 2. Change thought-statement into question and see the effect
  17. 17. Judger Questions  What's wrong?  Who's to blame?  How can I prove I'm right?  How can I protect my turf?  How can I be in control?  How could I lose?  How could I get hurt?  Why is that person so clueless?  Why bother?
  18. 18. Learner Questions  What works?  What am I responsible for?  What are the facts?  What's the big picture?  What are my choices?  What's useful about this?  What can I learn?  What is the other person feeling, needing, wanting?  What's possible?
  19. 19. Learner/Judger Chart Judger Mindsets Learner Mindsets Judgmental (of self and/or others Accepting (of self and others) Reactive and automatic Responsive and thoughtful Know-it-already Values not-knowing Inflexible and rigid Flexible and adaptive Either/or thinking Both/and thinking Self-righteous Inquisitivee Afraid of difference Values difference Personal perspective only Considers perspectives of others Defends assumptions Questions assumptions Possibilities seen as limited Possibilities seen as unlimited Primary mood: protective Primary mood: curiouss We all have both mindsets, and we have the power to choose where we operate from in any moment
  20. 20. Learner/Judger Chart Relationships Judger Learner Win-lose relationships Win-win relationships Feels separate from others Feels connected with others Fears differences Values differences Debates Dialogues Criticizes Critiques Listens for: right/wrong, agree/disagree, differences Listens for: facts, understanding, commonalities Feedback perceived as rejection Feedback perceived as worthwhile Seeks to attack or defend Seeks to resolve and create We all relate from both mindsets, and we have the power to choose how we relate in any moment
  21. 21. A-B-C-C Choice Process  A – Aware: Am I in a judger ?  B – Breathe: Do I need to step back, pause, and look at this situation more objectively?  C – Curiosity: Do I have all the facts? What’s happening here?  C – Choose: What’s my choice?
  22. 22. Judger Questions  Who’s to blame?  What’s wrong with me?  Why am I such a failure  How could I lose?  How can I prove I’m right?  How can I be in control?  Why are they so clueless and frustrating?  How did I get stuck with the worst team?  Why bother?
  23. 23. Switching Questions  Am I in Judger?  Where would I rather be?  How can I get there?  What are the facts?  How else can I think about this?  What assumptions am I making?  Is this what I want to feel?
  24. 24. Switching Questions  Is this what I want to be doing?  What am I missing or avoiding?  How can I be more objective and honest?  What is the other person thinking, feeling, needing, and wanting?  What humor can I find in this situation?  What’s my choice right now?
  25. 25. Learner Questions  What happened? What’s useful about this? What do I want? What can I learn? What is the other person thinking, feeling, needing, and wanting? How can this be a win-win? What’s possible? What are my choices? What’s best to do now?
  26. 26.  Accept Judger, practice Learner  Curiosity: Fast track to Learner
  27. 27. The Top 12 Questions for Success  1.What do I want? 2.What are my choices? 3.What assumptions am I making? 4.What am I responsible for? 5.How else can I think about this? 6.What is the other person thinking, feeling, needin g, and wanting?  7.What am I missing or avoiding?  8.What can I learn . . . from this person or situation? . . . from this mistake or failure? . . . from this success? 9.What questions should I ask (myself and/or others?) 10.What action steps make the most sense? 11.How can I turn this into a win-win? 12.What is possible?
  28. 28. The 10 Tools of Question Thinking Tool 1. Empower Your Observer Tool 2. Use the Choice Map as a Guide Tool 3. Put the Power of Questions to Work Tool 4. Distinguish Learner and Judger Mindsets and Questions Tool 5. Make Friends with Judger Tool 6. Question Assumptions Tool 7. Take Advantage of Switching Questions Tool 8. Create Learner Teams Tool 9. Create Breakthroughs with Q-Storming® Tool 10. Ask the Top Twelve Questions for Success
  29. 29. What will you choose?  Judger  Learner  Create your own favorite questions?  Inspirational questions
  30. 30. Krsna Questions  What is the most Krsna conscious thing to do in this situation?  How can I see this through the eyes of sastra?  What would please Krsna here?  What would Prabhupada do in this situation?  What would I do now if Prabhupada was watching?  What is the spiritual test that I have to pass here?  What can I learn from this that will help me be more Krsna conscious?  How is this an opportunity to surrender to Krsna?
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