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How questions influence the quality of our life and service
SB 1.2.5
 Verse / O sages, I have been justly questioned by you.
Your questions are worthy because they relate to Lord
Kr...
athato brahma jijnasa
 One should inquire into the Supreme
 Now one should inquire about Brahman
 He inquires about the...
athato brahma jijnasa
 human life is meant for understanding the ultimate
cause
 one should inquire about the Supreme So...
ARJUNA’S QUESTIONS
 BG 1.32-35: O Govinda, of what avail to us are a
kingdom, happiness or even life itself when all thos...
Inquire
 Just try to learn the truth by approaching a spiritual
master. Inquire from him submissively and render
service ...
SRIMAD BHAGAVATAM
QUESTIONS BY THE SAGES
1. What is the ultimate good for people in general?
2. What is the essence of all...
THE PURPOSE OF ASKING
QUESTIONS
1. Understand the devotee well
2. Help them understand themselves
3. Clarify what they wan...
WHY QUESTIONS?
 Great results start with great questions
 Questions > Thinking > Action > Results
 Quality of questions...
WHAT QUESTIONS TO ASK?
 What questions we want to ask?
 What questions should we ask?
 What questions are we avoiding?
...
TYPES
 Open-ended and closed-ended
 Questions for yourself
 Questions for others
 Solution-focused
 Problem-focused
...
POWER OF A RIGHT QUESTION
 The question that saved concentration camp
prisoner’s life.
EINSTEIN
 “If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life
depended on the solution, I would spend the first 55
minutes d...
INTELLIGENT QUESTIONS
 Who am I?
 Why am I suffering?
 Why do I have to die?
 What happens after death?
 How can I be...
DEVOTEE QUESTIONS
 How can I please Krsna?
 How can I please Srila Prabhupada?
 How can I please my spiritual master?
...
BENEFITS
 Clarity
 Focus
 Intelligence
 Expanding possibilities
 Wisdom
 Connection with the Supersoul
EXCELLENT QUESTIONS
 What one thing, if you would do superbly well
everyday, would make the greatest positive difference
...
EXCELLENT QUESTIONS
 What are your strengths, talents, skills, good
qualities?
 What do you want?
 What one great thing...
EXCELLENT QUESTIONS
 What's great about this problem?
 What can I learn from this?
 How can I improve in every area of ...
EXCELLENT QUESTIONS
 What do you want to have in your life - excuses
or results?
 What can I do better today than I have...
COUNTERPRODUCTIVE QUESTIONS
 Why are you so bad?
 Why you don’t understand what’s good for you?
 When are you going to ...
EXERCISE
Pair up and help each other discover 3 questions
that will change the quality of life
Question Thinking is a system
of tools for transforming thinking,
action, and results through skillful
question asking—qu...
 Great results begin with great questions
 A question not asked is a door not opened
 Self-questions and interpersonal ...
EXERCISES
1. What questions are you aksing yourself daily? What
questions produce what results?
2. Change thought-statemen...
Judger Questions
 What's wrong?
 Who's to blame?
 How can I prove I'm right?
 How can I protect my turf?
 How can I b...
Learner Questions
 What works?
 What am I responsible for?
 What are the facts?
 What's the big picture?
 What are my...
Learner/Judger Chart
Judger Mindsets Learner Mindsets
Judgmental (of self and/or others Accepting (of self and others)
Rea...
Learner/Judger Chart
Relationships
Judger Learner
Win-lose relationships Win-win relationships
Feels separate from others ...
A-B-C-C Choice Process
 A – Aware: Am I in a judger ?
 B – Breathe: Do I need to step back, pause, and look at
this situ...
Judger Questions
 Who’s to blame?
 What’s wrong with me?
 Why am I such a failure
 How could I lose?
 How can I prove...
Switching Questions
 Am I in Judger?
 Where would I rather be?
 How can I get there?
 What are the facts?
 How else c...
Switching Questions
 Is this what I want to be doing?
 What am I missing or avoiding?
 How can I be more objective and ...
Learner Questions
 What happened?
What’s useful about this?
What do I want?
What can I learn?
What is the other person th...
TIPS
 Accept Judger, practice Learner
 Curiosity: Fast track to Learner
The Top 12 Questions for Change
 1.What do I want?
2.What are my choices?
3.What assumptions am
I making?
4.What am I res...
The 10 Tools of Question Thinking
Tool 1. Empower Your Observer
Tool 2. Use the Choice Map as a Guide
Tool 3. Put the Powe...
What will you choose?
 Judger
 Learner
 Create your own favorite questions?
Krsna Questions
 What is the most Krsna conscious thing to do in this
situation?
 How can I see this through the eyes of...
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Excellent Questions For Excellent Life
Excellent Questions For Excellent Life
Excellent Questions For Excellent Life
Excellent Questions For Excellent Life
Excellent Questions For Excellent Life
Excellent Questions For Excellent Life
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  1. 1. How questions influence the quality of our life and service
  2. 2. SB 1.2.5  Verse / O sages, I have been justly questioned by you. Your questions are worthy because they relate to Lord Krsna and so are of relevance to the world's welfare. Only questions of this sort are capable of completely satisfying the self.  Purport / Satisfaction of the soul can only be obtained by questions and answers on the subject of Krsna.
  3. 3. athato brahma jijnasa  One should inquire into the Supreme  Now one should inquire about Brahman  He inquires about the real value of life, which is called brahma jijnasa  In the human form of life one should put many questions to himself and to his intelligence  In the human form of life the living entity must inquire about his spiritual identity
  4. 4. athato brahma jijnasa  human life is meant for understanding the ultimate cause  one should inquire about the Supreme Soul  must inquire about his constitutional position  one must try to inquire about life's goal  Now let us begin to inquire about the Supreme Absolute Truth
  5. 5. ARJUNA’S QUESTIONS  BG 1.32-35: O Govinda, of what avail to us are a kingdom, happiness or even life itself when all those for whom we may desire them are now arrayed on this battlefield? O Madhusudana, when teachers, fathers, sons, grandfathers, maternal uncles, fathers-in-law, grandsons, brothers-in-law and other relatives are ready to give up their lives and properties and are standing before me, why should I wish to kill them, even though they might otherwise kill me?
  6. 6. Inquire  Just try to learn the truth by approaching a spiritual master. Inquire from him submissively and render service unto him. The self-realized souls can impart knowledge unto you because they have seen the truth.  BG 4.34
  7. 7. SRIMAD BHAGAVATAM QUESTIONS BY THE SAGES 1. What is the ultimate good for people in general? 2. What is the essence of all scriptures? 3. What is the reason for Krsna's appearance in this world? 4. In what way is Lord taking part in creating, maintaining and annihilating creations? 5. Please describe different activities of different incarnations of the Lord! 6. Where has dharma took shelter after Krsna's disappearance from this world?
  8. 8. THE PURPOSE OF ASKING QUESTIONS 1. Understand the devotee well 2. Help them understand themselves 3. Clarify what they want 4. Discover new options, opportunities, possibilities and advantages 5. Identify and remove obstacles 6. Make an action plan 7. Take action
  9. 9. WHY QUESTIONS?  Great results start with great questions  Questions > Thinking > Action > Results  Quality of questions influences quality of life
  10. 10. WHAT QUESTIONS TO ASK?  What questions we want to ask?  What questions should we ask?  What questions are we avoiding?  What questions will benefit this person the most?
  11. 11. TYPES  Open-ended and closed-ended  Questions for yourself  Questions for others  Solution-focused  Problem-focused  Appreciative inquiry
  12. 12. POWER OF A RIGHT QUESTION  The question that saved concentration camp prisoner’s life.
  13. 13. EINSTEIN  “If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on the solution, I would spend the first 55 minutes determining the proper question to ask, for once I know the proper question, I could solve the problem in less than five minutes.”
  14. 14. INTELLIGENT QUESTIONS  Who am I?  Why am I suffering?  Why do I have to die?  What happens after death?  How can I become happy?  Why are some people more successful than others?  What do I want to be, do and have?
  15. 15. DEVOTEE QUESTIONS  How can I please Krsna?  How can I please Srila Prabhupada?  How can I please my spiritual master?  How can I please the devotees?  How can I serve them?  When will that day come ... ? (kabe habe bolo)
  16. 16. BENEFITS  Clarity  Focus  Intelligence  Expanding possibilities  Wisdom  Connection with the Supersoul
  17. 17. EXCELLENT QUESTIONS  What one thing, if you would do superbly well everyday, would make the greatest positive difference in your life? (question about personal habits / best practices)  What can you learn from this?  How can you turn this problem into an opportunity?  What and who inspires you the most?  Are you ready to pay the price?
  18. 18. EXCELLENT QUESTIONS  What are your strengths, talents, skills, good qualities?  What do you want?  What one great thing would you dare to dream if you knew you could not fail? (question about an exciting goal)  What I am grateful for?
  19. 19. EXCELLENT QUESTIONS  What's great about this problem?  What can I learn from this?  How can I improve in every area of my life?  What can I give today?  How can I serve today?  What one thing, if you would do superbly well every single day, would have a greatest positive impact on your life (or on any particular area)?
  20. 20. EXCELLENT QUESTIONS  What do you want to have in your life - excuses or results?  What can I do better today than I have done yesterday?  If not you - who? If not now - when?  Do you spend time or invest time?  What has to happen for you to feel ... successful, happy, loved, fulfilled, love?  What are your rules or conditions for happiness?
  21. 21. COUNTERPRODUCTIVE QUESTIONS  Why are you so bad?  Why you don’t understand what’s good for you?  When are you going to change / shape up / grow up?  How could you do such a thing?
  22. 22. EXERCISE Pair up and help each other discover 3 questions that will change the quality of life
  23. 23. Question Thinking is a system of tools for transforming thinking, action, and results through skillful question asking—questions we ask ourselves as well as those we ask others.
  24. 24.  Great results begin with great questions  A question not asked is a door not opened  Self-questions and interpersonal questions  Problem-oriented or solution-oriented  Judger or Learner
  25. 25. EXERCISES 1. What questions are you aksing yourself daily? What questions produce what results? 2. Change thought-statement into question and see the effect
  26. 26. Judger Questions  What's wrong?  Who's to blame?  How can I prove I'm right?  How can I protect my turf?  How can I be in control?  How could I lose?  How could I get hurt?  Why is that person so clueless?  Why bother?
  27. 27. Learner Questions  What works?  What am I responsible for?  What are the facts?  What's the big picture?  What are my choices?  What's useful about this?  What can I learn?  What is the other person feeling, needing, wanting?  What's possible?
  28. 28. Learner/Judger Chart Judger Mindsets Learner Mindsets Judgmental (of self and/or others Accepting (of self and others) Reactive and automatic Responsive and thoughtful Know-it-already Values not-knowing Inflexible and rigid Flexible and adaptiv Either/or thinking Both/and thinking Self-righteous Inquisitive Afraid of difference Values difference Personal perspective only Considers perspectives of others Defends assumptions Questions assumptions Possibilities seen as limited Possibilities seen as unlimited Primary mood: protective Primary mood: curious We all have both mindsets, and we have the power to choose where we operate from in any momen
  29. 29. Learner/Judger Chart Relationships Judger Learner Win-lose relationships Win-win relationships Feels separate from others Feels connected with others Fears differences Values differences Debates Dialogues Criticizes Critiques Listens for: right/wrong, agree/disagree, differnces Listens for: facts, understanding, commonalities Feedback perceived as rejection Feedback perceived as worthwhile Seeks to attack or defend Seeks to resolve and create We all relate from both mindsets, and we have the power to choose how we relate in any moment
  30. 30. A-B-C-C Choice Process  A – Aware: Am I in a judger ?  B – Breathe: Do I need to step back, pause, and look at this situation more objectively?  C – Curiosity: Do I have all the facts? What’s happening here?  C – Choose: What’s my choice?
  31. 31. Judger Questions  Who’s to blame?  What’s wrong with me?  Why am I such a failure  How could I lose?  How can I prove I’m right?  How can I be in control?  Why are they so clueless and frustrating?  How did I get stuck with the worst team?  Why bother?
  32. 32. Switching Questions  Am I in Judger?  Where would I rather be?  How can I get there?  What are the facts?  How else can I think about this?  What assumptions am I making?  Is this what I want to feel?
  33. 33. Switching Questions  Is this what I want to be doing?  What am I missing or avoiding?  How can I be more objective and honest?  What is the other person thinking, feeling, needing, and wanting?  What humor can I find in this situation?  What’s my choice right now?
  34. 34. Learner Questions  What happened? What’s useful about this? What do I want? What can I learn? What is the other person thinking, feeling, needing, and wanting? How can this be a win-win? What’s possible? What are my choices? What’s best to do now?”
  35. 35. TIPS  Accept Judger, practice Learner  Curiosity: Fast track to Learner
  36. 36. The Top 12 Questions for Change  1.What do I want? 2.What are my choices? 3.What assumptions am I making? 4.What am I responsible for? 5.How else can I think about this? 6.What is the other person thinking, feeling, needing, and wanting?  7.What am I missing or avoiding?  8.What can I learn . . . from this person or situation? . . . from this mistake or failure? . . . from this success? 9.What questions should I ask (myself and/or others?) 10.What action steps make the most sense? 11.How can I turn this into a win-win? 12.What is possible?
  37. 37. The 10 Tools of Question Thinking Tool 1. Empower Your Observer Tool 2. Use the Choice Map as a Guide Tool 3. Put the Power of Questions to Work Tool 4. Distinguish Learner and Judger Mindsets and Questions Tool 5. Make Friends with Judger Tool 6. Question Assumptions Tool 7. Take Advantage of Switching Questions Tool 8. Create Learner Teams Tool 9. Create Breakthroughs with Q-Storming® Tool 10. Ask the Top Twelve Questions for Success
  38. 38. What will you choose?  Judger  Learner  Create your own favorite questions?
  39. 39. Krsna Questions  What is the most Krsna conscious thing to do in this situation?  How can I see this through the eyes of sastra?  What would please Krsna here?  What would Prabhupada do in this situation?  What would I do now if Prabhupada was watching?  What is the spiritual test that I have to pass here?  What can I learn from this that will help me be more Krsna conscious?  How is this an opportunity to surrender to Krsna?
  40. 40. http://gitacoaching.blogspot.com akrura@gmail.com
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