4. Introduction to Kids’ Turn and Goals for TodayWho Are We? Kids’ Turn was one of the first divorce education programs in the United States when it was founded in 1988, addressing a problem affecting 50% of the children in our country before they reach the age of eighteen The primary goal, to help children ease through the difficulties they experience when parents separate, has not changed in 23 yearsKids’ Turn Program Goals: 1. Reduce conflict in reorganizing families 2. Help parents re-engage with their parenting duties 3. Give children a ‘voice’ in the separation experience 4. Help children learn they are not alone in the experience 5. Help family members new skills to help manage their emotions and their lives during family reorganization
4. Introduction to Kids’ Turn and Goals for Today (cont.)Distinctive Characteristics:Six week attendance commitment by parents AND childrenKids’ Turn’s programs are educational, not therapyEvidence basedComprehensive revision of the curriculum to includeelements of Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
4. Introduction to Kids’ Turn and Goals for Today (cont.) The EvidenceIn April, 2011, Dr. Jeffrey Cookston, San Francisco state University, published the results of his four year longitudinal study of the efficacy of Kids’ Turn programs. Dr. Cookston reported that Kids’ Turn:• Reduces parent conflict• Reduces parent alienation• Reduces internalization of negative behaviors by childrenTo view Dr. Cookston’s entire research report, go to www.kidsturn.org Practitioners
4. Introduction to Kids’ Turn and Goals for Today (cont.) Kids’ Turn and Emotional Intelligence (EQ)In 2004, we were approached by CNET Founder, Halsey Minor, who had just completed a Kids’ Turn workshop with his ex-wife and children. It was at Halsey’s suggestion, and with his philanthropic support, that we reframed and restructured the Kids’ Turn curriculum to include Emotional Intelligence.Emotional Intelligence (EQ) concepts weredeveloped by Dr. Daniel Goleman andothers in the 1980’s. They have beenadopted nationally and internationally bycorporations, the military, governmentsand educational systems.
4. Introduction to Kids’ Turn and Goals for Today (cont.) Why EQ?• Most of the divorce ‘facts’ on which the old curriculum was based, are now in the public domain• It is contemporary• It helps families manage emotions when they are out of control in ways that can be scary or frightening to children• EQ principles have application to other life difficulties• It requires interactive methodology• It offers hope and optimism to children and parents• It draws on human characteristics that predate language
4. Introduction to Kids’ TurnPiloted in 2010 and Goals for Today (cont.) The resulting curriculum, The Kids’ Turn Way, is another distinctive element differentiating Kids’ Turn from other divorce education programs in the United States. Published with copyright in 2011.
4. Introduction to Kids’ Turn and Goals for Today (cont.)Training Goals:• Become acquainted with one another, individually and with our respective agencies;• Familiarize participants with Kids’ Turn agency• Review The Kids’ Turn Way EQ Approach (content)• Review The Kids’ Turn Way curriculum delivery structure• Review details related to Kids’ Turn families• Become Certified to deliver The Kids’ Turn Way• Other?
17. Day #1 Conclusion The Value of Humor 1. It cuts stress in half2. Lowers blood pressure3. Increases your energy4. Promotes happiness5. Stimulates the immune system6. Promotes healing (physical and emotional)7. Positive humor fosters a positive attitude8. Promotes social flexibility9. Increases endorphins ( feel good chemicals)10. Bonds us to one another and reducessocial conflict
24. The Kids’ Turn ParticipantsHere is how I describe myself (ethnicity) My AgeAfrican-American 10.3% 20-30 years 3.9%Asian American 6.4% 30-40 years 45.5%Caucasian 60.3% 40-50 years 41.6%Latino 12.8% Above 50 9%Native American 0Pacific Islander 1.3%Other 9% Education Gender High School 9.1% Male 35.5% AA Degree (2 yrs. College) 14.3% Female 64.5% College (4 yrs.) 35.1% Post Graduate 32.5% Other 9%
24. The Kids’ Turn ParticipantsParenting Skills The Reason I attended Kids’ TurnExcellent 36% Court-Ordered 43.7%Pretty Good 50.7% Referred by Attorney 18.1%Average 6.7% Self-Referred 30.8%I need to Improve 6.7% Other 7.4%
24. The Kids’ Turn Participants Level of Family Conflict Before Kids’ Turn After Kids’ TurnHigh – Off the Charts! 48% 20.8%Moderate 36.4% 35.1%Low 15.6% 32.5%I cannot judge 1.3% 11.7%
24. The Kids’ Turn Participants Program ElementsRegistration Process Workshop MaterialEasy 74.4% Excellent – Just What I needed 39.3%Hard 17.9% Satisfactory 42.9%Other 7.7% Not satisfactory 14.2% Other 3.6%Workshop LocationConvenient 74.4% Office StaffInconvenient 19.2% Excellent 27.6%Other 6.4% Above Average 27.7% Average 34.2%Workshop Date and Time Below Average 10.5%Convenient 79.9%Inconvenient 13.0% Workshop StaffOther 9.1% Excellent 52.6% Above Average 17.9% Average 19.2% Below Average 8%
24. The Kids’ Turn ParticipantsI would recommend Kids’ Turn to my friendsYes 66.7%No 16.7%Not sure 17.9%
25. The Mechanics of Delivery (cont.) Alternative: Link to www.surveymonkey.com sent to parents between weeks 5 & 6.
25. The Mechanics of Delivery (cont.) Be Prepared!
26. Conclusions Edges Final Questions When we walk to the edge of all the light we have And take the step into the darkness of the unknown, We must believe one of two things will happen There will be something solidLeader Certification for us to stand on, Or we will be taught how to FLY!