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  • 1. By Julen N. Harris
  • 2.
    • Having sex or thinking about starting?
    • Not sure what safer sex is?
    • Not sure how to talk to your partner about it?
    • Worried about a friend having unsafe sex?
  • 3.
    • You will learn:
      • The facts about safer sex
      • How to protect yourself
      • How to talk to your partner about safer sex
      • Where to find teen-friendly sexual healthcare in your neighborhood
  • 4.
    • The Facts
  • 5.
    • Vaginal sex (penis in vagina)
    • Oral sex (mouth on penis, vagina, or anus)
      • a.k.a. “going down”, “blow job”, “eating out”
    • Anal sex (penis in butt)
  • 6.
    • Safer sex is consensual . That means you and your partner both want to have sex without feeling pressured.
    • Safer sex is with someone you feel comfortable with and trust.
    • Safer sex means that you and your partner are protected from sexually transmitted infections ( STIs ) and unwanted pregnancy.
    • Safer sex means that you and your partner talk about sexual choices together.
  • 7.
    • Not having sex is the only sure way to prevent pregnancy and STIs.
    • It’s okay to wait.
  • 8.
    • Safe sex is great sex!
  • 9. ?
  • 10.
    • Chlamydia
    • Gonorrhea
    • Genital Herpes
    • HPV (can cause genital warts)
    • HIV
  • 11.
    • Semen (cum)
    • Vaginal fluid
    • Blood
    • Skin-to-skin contact with a herpes blister or genital wart
    And YES , you can get STIs from oral sex!
  • 12.
    • Itching in your genital area
    • Burning when you pee
    • Discharge that smells or is yellow/green in color
    • Bumps, sores, blisters or rashes in your genital area
    • These may be signs of a STI.
    • You should get checked out and get treated right away!
    • AND , you could have a STI without any signs!
    • So….
  • 13.
    • Because it is the only way to know for sure if you have a STI!
    • You should get tested every 3-6 months.
    • For more info about STIs, go to: Teens Health - All about STIs
    • (We’ll tell you where you can go get tested at the end)
  • 14.
    • I’ve had sex lots of times without a condom and I’ve never been pregnant or gotten someone pregnant.
    • So far, you’ve been lucky.
    • You are taking a chance every time you have unprotected sex.
    • Don’t depend on “pulling out” because pre-cum can get a girl pregnant!
  • 15.
      • 1 out of 9
      • teen girls from Washington Heights/Inwood
      • gets pregnant ²
      • That’s one of the highest rates in NYC!
  • 16.
    • How do you protect yourself and your partner?
  • 17.
    • A male condom is placed on a guy’s penis when it is hard, BEFORE any sex happens
    • A condom covers the penis and catches semen
  • 18.
      • Check out these websites!
      • For easy steps to use a male condom, click here:
        • How to use a male condom
      • To watch a video demo of these steps, click here:
        • Video- How to use a condom
  • 19.
    • A female condom goes inside the vagina
    • The closed end lines the inside of the vagina
    • The penis goes into the open end outside of the vagina
  • 20.
      • Check out these websites!
      • For easy steps to use a female condom, click here: How to Use the Female Condom
      • To watch a video demo of these steps, click here: Video- How to use the female condom
  • 21.
    • The male and female condom should NOT be used at the same time because they can break from rubbing together.
    • Condoms can protect you during oral sex too! Try flavored ones!
    • For oral sex on a girl, dental dams can protect you.
      • For more info, click here: Dental Dams
  • 22.
    • Well, not always.
    • In Washington Heights/Inwood
    • less than half
    • of adults who had sex with more than 1 person last year
    • used a condom
    • the last time they had sex ³
    • That’s a lot of people having unsafe sex!
  • 23.
    • They must be used
    • the right way
    • every time
    • you have sex!
    You can get FREE condoms here in the resource center!
  • 24.
    • DO check the expiration date.
    • DON’T unroll the condom before putting it on.
    • DON'T keep condoms in your wallet or back pocket too long– keep them away from heat in a drawer, purse, or backpack.
    • DO use plenty of water-based or silicone-based lube.
    • DON'T use baby oil, lotion, or Vaseline as lube—they can make condoms break!
    • DO carry condoms so that you'll always be ready.
    • (It’s OK for girls to carry condoms too!)
    • DON’T just rely on your partner to have condoms. Share the responsibility!
  • 25.
    • For a funny video of some these do’s and don’ts, click here:
      • Marvin and Lisa - Condom Do's and Don'ts
  • 26.
    • You can also prevent pregnancy with hormonal birth control until you are ready to have a baby.
    • 3 types teen girls use most:
      • “ The pill”
      • “ The shot” – Depo Provera
      • “ The ring” – Nuva Ring
    • But remember! Birth control DOES NOT prevent STIs!
      • Use condoms AND birth control for double safety!
    • For more info about birth control options, click here: Birth Control Info
  • 27.
    • You used a condom but it broke or slipped off?
    • You got caught up in the “heat of the moment” and had sex without a condom?
    • You or your partner forgot to take a birth control pill?
  • 28.
    • Plan B (a.k.a. emergency contraception or “the morning-after-pill”) is the ONLY way to prevent pregnancy AFTER sex.
    • It is a pill that can work up to 5 days after unprotected sex, but it works best the sooner you get it.
      • It is not the abortion pill!
    • If you are 17 or older, you can get Plan B from a drug store or clinic. If you are under 17, you will need to go to a clinic.
    • Click here for more info: Plan B Info
      • Or call: 1-888-NOT2LATE
      • Click here for videos with more info: ec123.org
  • 29. How do you talk to your partner about using protection?
  • 30.
    • You should talk to your partner about using a condom BEFORE you start having sex.
      • It’s OK to be nervous!
      • Choose a time and place where you feel relaxed.
      • DO NOT wait until the “heat of the moment” to talk about using a condom for the first time.
    • Speak up! This is no time to be shy. Be clear that you will only have sex with a condom.
    • Follow through! Live up to your choice to have safe sex every time .
  • 31.
    • Even if you have been with your partner for a long time, using condoms DOES NOT mean that you love or trust each other any less!
      • You are still at risk for pregnancy and STIs!
  • 32.
    • Talking to your partner about safe sex might feel awkward.
    • Talking to you partner can be even harder if... ⁴
      • He/she wants to have a baby when you don’t
      • He/she is a few years older than you
      • Either of you is drunk or high
    • If your partner does not agree with you about using condoms, it can be hard to stand up for yourself.
  • 33.
    • Many teens feel pressured to have sex without a condom
    • Many teens want to use condoms, but don’t tell their partner because they worry that their partner will think they do not trust them or are cheating ⁵
    • If you’re afraid that your partner will get very angry or break up with you because you ask to use a condom, you should think about whether this is a good relationship for you.
    • Check out these sites for more info about healthy relationships:
      • Is your relationship healthy?
      • More Info on Healthy Relationships
  • 34.
    • If your partner says they don’t want to use a condom, have these comebacks ready to pull out of your back pocket….
  • 35.
    • Your partner says: “Condoms suck. They are so uncomfortable."
      • You say: “They might feel weird at first, but you’ll get used to it. Plus, we can have fun trying different kinds.”
      • or
      • You say: “Well I only feel comfortable having sex with a condom.”
      • or
      • You say: “How about we try a different brand? Maybe if it feels tight, you need a Magnum.”
  • 36.
    • Your partner says: “I can’t feel anything with a condom on.”
      • You say: “Let’s try putting more lube on the inside and outside of the condom t0 make it feel better.”
      • or
      • You say: “But we’ll both be able to enjoy sex more knowing that we’re being safer.”
      • or
      • You say: “You really won’t feel anything if we don’t use a condom because there won’t be any sex.”
  • 37.
    • Your partner says: “Stopping to put on a condom totally kills the mood.”
      • You say: “It won’t if you let me put it on for you.”
      • or
      • You say: “Worrying about getting pregnant totally kills my mood.”
  • 38.
    • Your partner says: “We don’t need a condom. I always pull out in time, don't worry."
      • You say: “But if we use one you don’t have to think about pulling out and we can enjoy it more.”
      • or
      • You say: “But you can’t control pre-cum, and that can get me pregnant too.”
  • 39.
    • Your partner says: “Can we do it without a condom just this once?”
      • You say: “Once is all it takes to get pregnant.”
      • or
      • You say: “I always use a condom, just to be safe.”
      • or
      • You say: “I don’t want to take any chances.”
  • 40.
    • Your partner says: “But we’ve been together for so long already and you’re the only one I’m having sex with.”
      • You say: “And I’m only having sex with you too, but let’s go get tested together first. Plus, we can get birth control to make sure we don’t get pregnant.”
      • or
      • You say: “I know it’s been awhile, but why stop using condoms now? Let’s just keep playing it safe.”
  • 41.
    • Your partner says: “Don’t you trust me? I’m not gonna give you anything.”
      • You say: “Of course I trust you, but we should still be safe and use a condom.”
      • or
      • You say: “It’s not that I don’t trust you, but we could get pregnant and I’m not ready for that.”
      • or
      • You say: “It’s not that I don’t trust you, but I always use condoms no matter what.”
  • 42.
    • Your partner says: “But I love you. And if you love me, we don’t need to use condoms.”
      • You say: “I love you, but love doesn’t protect against getting pregnant. Condoms do.”
      • or
      • You say: “I love you, and if you love me, you’ll put on a condom.”
      • or
      • You say: “I do love you, so that’s why I want to use a condom to protect us both.”
  • 43.
    • Your partner says: “Even if we get pregnant, we can raise the baby together.”
      • You say: “That would be great when we are both ready to be parents, but I’m just not ready for that right now.”
      • or
      • You say: “I am glad you feel that way, but I still think that for right now, it is better for us to use condoms.”
  • 44.
    • Your partner says: “But we’ve already been doing it without a condom. Why should we start using one now?”
      • You say: “But we shouldn’t have been. I was worried about getting you pregnant. And I don’t want to go through that stress again.
      • or
      • You say: “I didn’t know until now how big a risk we were taking. Using a condom will protect both of us. It might feel different but it will still feel good!”
  • 45.
    • You always have the right to say NO to sex!
    • Be prepared! Don’t let sex “just happen” without a condom.
    • Be strong! Don’t let your partner convince you that you don’t need a condom.
    • You never know till you ask! Your partner could feel the same way you do about safe sex!
    • Here’s one guy who knows how to play it safe:
      • Safer Sex with a Condom
  • 46. So wrap it up! ⁶
  • 47.
    • You can’t just talk to your partner about safe sex once. Remember that talking to your partner about sexual choices is part of a healthy relationship .
    • Be aware of your body and your partner’s – if something seems wrong, don’t ignore it! Go get a check-up!
      • But don’t forget that you might not know something is wrong without getting tested first!
    • Make using condoms and getting tested part of your health routine!
  • 48.
    • Project STAY Clinic (at Farrell)
      • 610 W. 158 th St. at Riverside Dr.
      • (646)-284-9739
      • http://hhpc.chyden.com/STAYweb/web/stay/
    • Young Men’s Clinic (Males only)
      • 21 Audobon Ave. at 166 th St.
      • (866)-463-2778
      • www.youngmensclinic.org
    • Dyckman Clinica de las Americas
      • 175 Nagle Ave. at Dyckman St
      • (212)-544-2001
    Outside of the Project STAY Clinic
  • 49.
    • For more info, check out these great websites for teens:
      • www.facebook.com/chataboutthat
      • www.amplifyyourvoice.org
      • www.sexetc.org
      • www.itsyoursexlife.com/
      • www.kidshealth.org/teen
    Thanks for watching! Stay safe!
  • 50.
    • Kaiser Family Foundation. (2006). Sexual health statistics for teenagers and young adults in the United States. Retrieved December 12, 2010. http://www.kff.org
    • New York City Department of Health and Mental Hygiene. (2009).Teen pregnancy in New York City: 1997-2007.
    • Olson, E.C., Van Wye, G., Kerker, B., Thorpe, L., Frieden, T.R. (2006). Take Care Inwood and Washington Heights. NYC Community Health Profiles, 19, 1-16.
    • Bauman, L.J., Karasz, A., & Hamilton, A. (2007). Understanding failure of condom use intention among adolescents: Completing an intensive preventive intervention. Journal of Adolescent Research, 22, 248-274.
    • Brown, L.K., et al. (2008). Condom use among high-risk adolescents: Anticipation of partner disapproval and less pleasure associated with not using condoms. Public Health Reports, 123, 601-607.
    • Lil Wayne featuring Kanye West and Static Major. 2008. Lolipop Remix. htp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d_HhAfmuUQQ&feature=related
    • Other references consulted:
    • Brady, S.S., Tschann, J.M., Ellen, J.M., & Flores, E. (2009). Infidelity, trust, and condom use among Latino youth in dating relationships. Sexually Transmitted Disease, 26, 227-231.
    • Gebhardt, W.A., Kuyper, L., & Greunsven, G. (2003). Need for intimacy in relationships and motives for sex as determinants of adolescent condom use. Journal of Adolescent Health, 33 , 154-164.
    • Manlove, J., Ryan, S.J., & Franzetta, K. (2007). Contraceptive use patterns across teens’ sexual relationships: The role of relationships, partners, and sexual histories. Demography, 44, 603-621.
    • Thomas, R., Cahill, J., & Santilli, L. (1997). Using an interactive computer game to increase skill and self-efficacy regarding safer sex negotiation: Field test results. Health Education & Behavior, 24, 71-86.
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    • Websites consulted:
    • American Social Health Association. http://www.ashastd.org/condom/condom_negotiation.cfm
    • Amplify your voice. http://www.amplifyyourvoice.org
    • Australian Government Department of Health and Ageing. http://www.health.gov.au/internet/sti/publishing.nsf/Content/excuses
    • CHAT Manhattan. http://facebook.com/chataboutthat
    • Maternidad Latina. http://www.nchealthystart.org/aboutus/maternidad/vol3no3.htm
    • Scarleteen. http://www.scarleteen.com
    • Sexuality and You.ca. http://www.sexualityandu.ca/teens/contraception.aspx
    • TeensHealth. http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/
    • The Pleasure Project. http://www.thepleasureproject.org/
    • TORCH. Doctors for Teens in New York City. http://www.prochoiceny.org/doctors4teens/