Marriage seminar


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Slides from our 'Marriage Matters: Reviving the Romance' presentatrion at Spring Harvest Skegness 2010

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    1. 1. marriage matters principles and practises 1
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    3. 3. And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Saviour of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives... Ephesians 5:21-28 (NLT) 3
    4. 4. love power trust 4
    5. 5. power love 5
    6. 6. power trust 6
    7. 7. Philippians If you've gotten anything at all out of following 2:1-4 Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life, (The if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care - then do me a Message) favour: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don't push your way to the front; don't sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don't be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand. 7
    8. 8. ... a God-given opportunity to learn how to love ... 8
    9. 9. let God in Don’t just invite God to your wedding - invite him into your marriage. Seek agreement on your foundational values: find meaning in mission. 9
    10. 10. be willing to work Love beyond feelings: commit beyond convenience. Look to the long return. Learn what works: fix what fails 10
    11. 11. be friends first Build foundations of friendship. Cheer like champions: believe the best of each other. Nurture, don’t nag. 11
    12. 12. deal with the real Kill your expectations of perfection: abandon unhealthy comparisons. Build on every positive: grow good habits, beat bad ones. 12
    13. 13. learn to listen to learn Discover the joys of difference. Embrace your greatest critic. Use words well. Never say the lesson’s over. 13
    14. 14. weave a web Free one another up for friendships. Establish joint role models. Have people who pray for you. 14
    15. 15. take time Find sabbath times and spaces just for two. Commit to common pastimes. Watch over the gatepost times of days, weeks, years. 15
    16. 16. make a safe space Create an emotional safety zone. Guard against intruders: put protection above popularity. 16
    17. 17. plan for pressure Don’t be taken by surprise: prepare the actions you will take when pressures rise. Seek God in times of stress. Be careful who you share your struggles with. 17
    18. 18. savour the seasons Be aware of changing contexts: accept each phase for what it brings. Be patient in times of waiting. Remember friendship, and return. 18
    19. 19. Dual careers. Two become three. Outnumbered by children. Mid-life crises. Parent issues Ageing gracefully. Greying agefully... 19
    20. 20. marriage matters principles and practises 20
    21. 21. You call to our broken hearts. You see our craving for companionship Our desperation for depth And dependency. You notice our need to be known Yet you know we are afraid To be familiar You feel that we fear your freedom Yet you see our hearts
    22. 22. And hungry for the healing That is promised and assured We come to you
    23. 23. You accept our condition, You receive our resolution, Our deep determination: To press on, to wrestle, Pursuing restoration. Let all that is in us be open To your operation NOT closed to your correction NOT averse to your intervention As you reshape our souls
    24. 24. And hungry for the hope That is promised and assured We come to you
    25. 25. You restore your image in us, You sine our scratched surface. You find diamonds Where there has been dullness, And bring gloss Where there has been gloom Pouring peace into places Perverted by past pains You re-paint our planet
    26. 26. And hungry for the Heaven That is promised and assured We come to you