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  1. 1. Top PersonalDevelopment Strategies By Karen Ruby Copyright 2010 All Rights Reserved
  2. 2. Here are some of the top personal development strategies that can befound on my site, A Meaningful Existence. Many people have used thesestrategies to make lasting changes in their life and Im sure that you can,too.Please visit my site for more ways that you can use personal developmentstrategies for putting meaning into your life. Page 2
  3. 3. The First Step In Finding Meaning For Your LifeLife today is so busy. From the time we get up in the morning until the timewe go to bed, most of us are just scrambling to keep up with all thedemands placed on our time.If it’s not our spouse, it’s work demanding something from us. If it’s notwork, then it’s our kids. If it’s not our kids, then it’s the family. If it’s not thefamily, then it’s the community.It can all get pretty overwhelming, especially if you are not clear on whatyou value in life or if you have never taken the time to actually determinewhat has meaning to you.Here’s a quick exercise for you to do to find out what’s really important toyou.Performing this exercise is the first step in finding meaning for your life.Grab a piece of paper and a pen and slowly read through the followingwords. Write down about 10-15 words that you know (know, not think) areimportant to you as a human being.Which words resonate with you?There’s no judging here so don’t select the words that you think you wantto be someday. Select what’s important and relevant for the person youare today.Go through the list and only select the words that speak to your heart. • Abundance • Acceptance • Accomplish • Action • Acquire • Admiration • Adventure • Amusement • Artistic Page 3
  4. 4. • Assist• Attain• Attentive• Attractive• Aware• Beautiful• Bonding• Brave• Build• Calm• Capable• Coach• Communication• Community• Compassion• Compete• Connection• Contentment• Control• Courage• Danger• Daring• Dedication• Dependable• Design• Devotion• Direct• Dream• Educate• Encouragement• Energize• Engage• Enjoy• Excellence• Experiment• Expert• Facilitate• Fame• Family• Freedom• Friendship• Fun• Glamour Page 4
  5. 5. • Grace• Gratitude• Greatest• Guide• Health• Holy• Honesty• Honour• Humility• Humour• Imagination• Impact• Improvement• Independent• Influence• Informative• Ingenuity• Instruct• Integrity• Invest• Joy• Laughter• Learn• Love• Loyalty• Marriage• Mastery• Model• Open-minded• Opportunistic• Originality• Passion• Patience• People• Perfection• Perseverance• Persistence• Planner• Pleasure• Provide• Relationships• Religious• Resilience Page 5
  6. 6. • Responsible • Risk • Romance • Satisfaction • Security • Sensitivity • Sensual • Serenity • Serve • Sex • Spirit • Sports • Stimulate • Strength • Tenderness • Thoughtful • Trilling • Touch • Triumph • Trustworthy • Truth • Understand • Uplift • Wealth • Wisdom • WorkNow that we have the 10-15 words from the list that spoke to you, gothrough your list word by word and narrow down your selection to 5 wordsthat mean the most to you. If there is a word that’s missing from the list,then add it.When you’ve narrowed down the list to your top 5 words, then you haveselected the values that mean the most to you.Now, ask yourself – are you living your life according to these values?In order to find meaning in your life, you must be very clear on what youvalue in your life so not only can you recognize the values when theyhappen but also so that you can move towards those values. Don’t bepulled in directions or perform actions that do not adhere to your values.Examine your daily decisions to see if they fit against what you’ve chosenas your most important values in life. Page 6
  7. 7. “It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” –Roy DisneyYour values list will determine what’s most important in your life. Spentyour valuable time on earth according to these values and make decisionsthat reflect what’s important to you.One more question - Are you pretending to be something that you’re not?Go through your list so that the values represent your true authentic self. Page 7
  8. 8. The Next Step In Finding Meaning For Your LifeIn my last article, The First Step in Finding Meaning for Your Life, you wentthrough a huge list of words and selected the 15 words that had animportant meaning to you. Then you narrowed down that list to the 5 wordsthat meant the most for your life.These words were your values. What’s next?After finding the values that mean the most to you and your life, the nextstep is making the necessary changes in your life so that you are livingaccording to those values.You should be centering your life on the values that you selected asmeaning the most for your life.Some people may be already living their life congruent to their values, butif you are not of those people, now’s the time to change your life to suitwhat you values you selected as being the most important.Change can be very scary, but so is living an incongruent life.When you went through the word list and selected the 5 words that meantthe most to you, those words then became part of your awareness of whatyou want to be in your life.It behooves you to live according to those values otherwise you will haveconflict and be susceptible to anything or anyone that enters your life.Knowing that one value is important while another is not means that youare able to make decisions in your life that are authentic for you. Page 8
  9. 9. Let’s say that your 5 values were: • Love • Learn • Freedom • Independent • AdventureThink about your life and the values that you selected as having the mostmeaning in your life. Ask yourself if you are currently expressing thosevalues right now in your life.Do you have lots of Love in your life right now? Are you Learning? Do youhave Freedom and Adventure in your life? Are you Independent?If not, what changes are you going to make in your life so that you areliving according to your values?Ask yourself what do you need to add to your life or remove from your lifeso that you are living authentically with the values that you said meant themost to you.What do you need to do to bring more Love in your life? What changes doyou need to make so that your need for independence, adventure andfreedom are fully expressed in your life?It helps to make a list of changes that you need to make in your life so thatyou are really living according to your top values.For example, write down 3 necessary changes that you are willing to makeso that you will have more Love in your life: 1. Nurture my relationship with my spouse and be attentive when they come home from work. 2. Tell my children every day how much I love them and appreciate them. 3. Schedule time every day to take better care of myself. Page 9
  10. 10. You should do this for each of your top values. It’s okay if you can’t comeup with 3 changes per value as you might already be living your lifeaccording to that value.Use the power of your values as motivating forces so that you can super-charge your life and make the necessary changes so that you are living ameaningful existence. Page 10
  11. 11. Using Visualization To Get To Point Z From Point APicture it. You’ve got some ideas of what you want to accomplish in life,but you’re not really sure how to get them out of your head and make themreal.Why not try visualization? Visualization is a powerful technique that cannot only motivate you to go after what you want in life, but it can be used tocreate a picture of yourself when you have already completed the goal.It sounds funny but using visualization and planning backwards to Point Zfrom Point A can get you moving forward in life, especially when you don’tknow what your next step is.Visualize yourself at the end point, Point Z, where you have alreadyaccomplished what you set out to do.Now, visualize everything that you did to get to that point. Work backwardsand see the steps in reverse order.For instance, let’s say that you want to buy a home in the next 5 years.Visualize yourself waking up in your own home, going downstairs andmaking yourself a coffee and eating breakfast in your breakfast area. Canyou smell the coffee and taste your morning bagel. Hmmm, hmmm good.Notice the decor and all of the knickknacks around you. Are there anypictures on the fridge? Picture those, too.Visualize yourself walking through your house. How many rooms does ithave? How big (or small) is it? How many bathrooms does it have? Whatcolour are the walls in the living room? What kind of furniture do you own?What kind of backyard do you have? Can you smell the freshly mownlawn? Or maybe there is a pool out in the back, which is right besides yourstainless steel deluxe BBQ.Visualize everything that you want in this house. Page 11
  12. 12. Now, visualize yourself physically writing the mortgage payment. Howmuch is it? For arguments sake, let’s say your mortgage payment is $2000per month. See your hand actually writing the mortgage cheque.Now you might be wondering where on earth are you going to get $2000per month to pay a mortgage?This is where the visualization and planning backwards to Point Z fromPoint A really shines. Because you’ve already visualized yourself with thecompleted goal of owning your own home, think of everything that youalready did to make this happen.Point Z is you owning your own home.Point A is you renting a 1-bedroom apartment today.What has to happen between Point Z and Point A?You tell me. If you’ve visualized owning that home, then you’ve alreadymade it happen and it’s real to you.Was Point C on your journey moving to the city where you visualizedowning your home?Maybe Point H was you canceling your cable bill, magazine subscriptions,selling some of your stuff, and forgoing expensive vacations so that youcan start your house deposit account using a high-interest or money-market fund.Was Points L through F giving up every weekend so that you were able togo and look at houses with your realtor?Tell me, was Point B going to your boss and asking for a long-overdueraise so that you earned more money and were able to start saving thedifference between what your rent was and what your mortgage paymentwould be?Only you can decide what you did on this journey. It’s your goal.If you’ve managed to really be in the moment of waking up in that house,living in it, smelling it, and feeling what it would be like to own that house,you will find the motivation and know what you have to do to own thathouse. Page 12
  13. 13. Think of your goal as already being accomplished and plan backwards toPoint Z from Point A.Then, work that plan until you reach Point Z.Easy, eh? Page 13
  14. 14. Do You Recognize Yourself In These 6 Stages of Change?It may seem like people are changing all of a sudden around us. Theperson who suddenly decides to join a gym and then you see themworking out every day. Or the person who suddenly decides to quitsmoking. Or, how about the person who suddenly ends a long-distancerelationship? What about the person at work who has suddenly decided toleave their job and start their round-the-world trip?It may seem like these decisions were made quickly, but there are variousstages of change that these people went through internally before youbecame aware of the external changes.Back in the 1970s, James Prochaska and Carlo DiClemente developed theSCM Model (Stages of Change Model) to theorize the various behaviouralchanges that a person goes through on their way to a successful change.An understanding of these stages and the model can help you (and others)understand where you are on the spectrum so that you are ready toadvance to the next level. There’s no use fooling yourself that you areready for change when you’re not.Lasting change only comes when you go through the various stages. Thestages do not have to be progressive and it’s up to the person to decide atwhat stage they are in and how they will progress (or regress) to the otherstages.Of course, this is only one model, but it’s a powerful one to explain humanbehaviour and can help people understand how they can make lastingchanges in their lives.I read about this model years ago when I wanted to change careers. Itreally helped me recognize if I was really ready for change or if I justunsatisfied with my current job situation and I think it can help you, too.The Stages of Change1. Precontemplation Page 14
  15. 15. The Precontemplation stage is where you are not ready to acknowledgethat you need to change. For instance, if you’re smoker you defend yourbad habit to others when they nag you to quit.Maybe you’re okay with your career of basket-weaving and no one canconvince you that you need a new marketable career, even though you’rebeing evicted and can’t pay your bills.You don’t see that you have a problem that needs changing.2. ContemplationThe Contemplation stage is where you realize that something has tochange but you’re not sure what it is or if you really want to make a changeor not.At this stage, you’re thinking and thinking and thinking that something hasto change in your life but you’re still kind of wishy-washy about the wholething.I mean, you know that you could lose a little bit of weight but you’reconvinced that you have a healthy relationship with your spouse and theydon’t seem to mind (so much).So what if it bothers you a little that you have no money at the end of theweek because you spent it buying STUFF – after all, it’s going to be spenton something, right?You’re not yet prepared to make any changes in your life, but you’rethinking hard about the consequences of not changing.3. PreparationThe Preparation stage is what is says it is. You are preparing to make achange in your life. You are gathering information and thinking ofchanging, but you haven’t taken any real action yet.This is where you start talking to other people who have already made thechange that you want to make. You make a list of blogs and are starting togather materials such as networking with other entrepreneurs because youthink you want to make that career change. Or you sign up to receivesome travel brochures on various countries that you would live to move to. Page 15
  16. 16. You are determined to make a change and your motivation is high. You’restarting to research everything that you need to know about making yourchange because you want to move to the next stage.4. ActionThe Action stage is where you and others actually see you making thechange in your life. You have already decided to change and you are nowready to take action. You are walking your talk. There’s no stopping youbecause you have already determined that some behaviour in your life hasto change and you are following through.You’ve done your research and you know what you have to do and aredoing it in this stage. You’re actively trying different techniques to stopsmoking.Or you’ve joined the gym and are going every day. You’re writing downeverything that goes past your lips into your food diary.You’ve started your blog and are now writing consistently. You believe inyourself and are taking positive action to change your life.5. MaintenanceThe Maintenance stage is where you continue to take action on yourchange. You are progressing and continuing to change.This is where you continue going to the gym every day. You are continuingto use the smoking-cessation patches because you know that to stop atthis stage means a relapse.It’s really important when you are at this stage to renew your commitmentto your new behaviour, avoid temptations and to have systems in place sothat you don’t relapse.For instance, you hire technical people to help you on your blog’s design oryou start to accept guest-posts. You develop a system for working outevery day. You enlist your friends and family by telling them that you’ll paythem $100 if they ever see you light up again.6. Termination (or Relapse) Page 16
  17. 17. The Termination stage is where the new behaviour you adapted is now apart of your life. This can also be the relapse stage where you haveabandoned the change and have relapsed to where you were before.You are now a non-smoker. Your whole mindset has changed toincorporate the new behaviour into your life. You self-identify as a blogger,or as an entrepreneur, or as a world-traveler or whatever-the-case-may-be.If you have relapsed, that’s a normal stage of the change model. Everyoneslips and makes mistakes. But, the best thing is for you to try again. Maybeyou failed at your first business model. Try a different one.You ate the ice cream and gained 5 lbs back. Or you haven’t blogged in amonth. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Just recognize the stage that youfound yourself in, and regress back to the Action or Maintenance stage.Start again.There is no shame is starting over. Lasting change takes time anddetermination.Do you recognize any of these stages in your life? I certainly do! I’mcurrently in the Action stage where it comes to this blog. Prior to October oflast year, I was definitely in the Contemplation stage. Regarding mycareer, I think I’m in the Preparation stage as I investigate new avenues ofmaking a living.What do you think? Is this a useful model for you to recognize the variousstages of change and how you can progress (or regress) to ensure thatyour change is lasting? Page 17
  18. 18. 10 Things You Can Do Right Now To Improve Your LifeHere are 10 things you can do right now to improve your life:1. Accept yourself for who you are right now. Accept all your imperfectionsand idiosyncrasies because that’s what makes you unique. There are over 6billion people on this planet, but there is only one You.2. Write down or review all your goals in life and then take action right nowon one of them. What can you be doing right now that will bring you closerto what you really want in life?3. Turn off the computer (after you read this article, of course), turn off yourphone, turn off the TV, turn off anything that distracts you from doingsomething of importance in your life. Take time right now to look withinyourself and find out what is important to you. Close your eyes andmeditate if that helps you. The most amazing answers come from withinus, as long as we can quiet everything and really listen. Right now, listen toyourself.4. Take the time to play. Play with your children, or your pets or theneighbour’s children’s pets. Life doesn’t have to be such a struggle and soserious all the time. Take the time to rediscover what you liked to do whenyou were a child and play like one right now.5. Look around your space and get rid of some stuff that has been clutteringup your life. Our environments affect us so much. Why are you putting upwith that ugly old knick-knack that your stepmother’s great aunt gave youfor your wedding ten years ago? Get rid of anything that doesn’t have greatsentimental value, brings you joy or makes you happy. Go through yoursurroundings right now and get rid of things that you hate.6. Get some exercise. Right now, go for a walk, pop an exercise DVD inthe player, dance around your room, skip rope or start sparing with animaginary opponent. Do something that makes the blood flow andenergizes you. Keep doing this every day and you will notice thedifference. It doesn’t take a lot of effort to incorporate exercise andmovement into your life. Page 18
  19. 19. 7. Go around your home and do something that has been on your to-dolist. Fix that wobbly chair. Throw out those old magazines that have beenlying in the garage for months. Take out the caulking gun and re-caulk thebathroom tub. Clean out your underwear drawer. Do that one thing thathas been taking up so much room in your mind and which you have beenmeaning to do. Just do it right now so that it will be done and so you willnot have that task sucking up your energy again and again whenever youthink you should be doing it. Just get it done right now.8. Review your finances and take stock of all your assets and liabilities.Gather up all of your monthly bills, credit card statements (even the onesyou are scared to open), investment statements, taxes, and other financialstatements. Add up everything you owe and everything you own. Don’t bescared if you owe more than what you own. Get your head out of the sandand face whatever the number turns out to be and make a plan to get outof debt. Decide right now that you will stop digging the hole deeper andthat you will start from wherever you are to get your finances in order.9. Right now, decide that you will devote time and energy into your most-important relationships. Get out your calendar and make a recurring datewith your spouse. Create a weekly family movie or game night. Go to yourfolks home for Sunday dinner, every Sunday. Call your friends more oftenand let them know what’s going on in your life. Invite your relatives over toyour house at least once a month. Either devote time to your most-important relationships or find new ones so that your social connections donot whither. Having a close support network is one of the greatest joys inlife.10. If you are having any issue in your life that has been in your life foryears and you’ve tried to deal with it on your own, then it’s time to talk to aprofessional. No matter what your issue is, there is a professional who canhelp you. They will be objective and have special training, which you donot have. Call one today so that you can start the process.There are a ton of other things you can do to improve your life right now.What are you going to do to change your life right now? Page 19
  20. 20. Show Me Your Plan And I’ll Tell You Your FutureYou have a plan your life, right?No, you don’t? Really?Well, have you come to the right place then!A meaningful existence doesn’t just happen by accident, you know. Youhave to plan. As the old saying goes, “If you don’t know where you aregoing, then any road will take you there.”You want to make your own path in life and not be at the mercy ofsomeone else’s plan, right?Planning your future takes TIC – Time, Introspection and Commitment. Oh,and you’ll need to take Action, too. So, I guess it takes TICA.TimeIt takes a lot of time to actually sit down and document your future. Itshould be done when you are in a positive mental state and are relaxed. Isuggest taking either a few days (at a minimum) and set aside this time foryourself.Your future deserves a few days, doesn’t it? If you have more time todevote to planning your upcoming year, then more power to you. Devotinga half-hour on a Saturday morning won’t cut it though. You need time,particularly if this is your first time writing a plan, to sit and think about whatyou want for your future. Get everything you need for the tasks, paper,pens, laptop, calendar, your journal, coffee, etc.What do you want for yourself?I suggest coming up with 3-5 items in several categories, such as Physical,Financial, Family, Spiritual, Social and Career.On a sheet of paper, write down the category name. Underneath thiscategory, list 3-5 items that you either want to have or accomplish. Isuggest having a broad sentence for this high-level goal at first. You will Page 20
  21. 21. flesh out this goal later. Continue on separate pieces of paper for each ofyour goals, for each category. So you’ll end up with 3-5 goals on thePhysical sheet, 3-5 goals on the Financial sheet, etc.Some of the goals should be short-term (6 months), mid-term (1-2 years)and long-term (2+ years). If you already have a plan from last year, youcan transfer whatever goals that were not accomplished to your new plan.You won’t achieve everything you’ve written down in the next year sosome of your goals should continue into the future.Next, on a separate piece of paper, write one of your goals at the top of thesheet. Underneath this goal, write down all the tasks that you have to do toaccomplish the goal.Brainstorm your goal. Remember they need to be SMART (Specific,Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-Bound). Having some vaguegoal for your future that you can’t measure or achieve by the end of nextyear is not good enough.Try to think backwards in time and that you have already accomplished thegoal. What steps did you take to complete it? What was involved? Writethose steps down.Once you see all the tasks involved in the goal, you will have a betterunderstanding of what you need to do and when to accomplish the goal.When you have the goal mapped out and it’s clear to you, transfer thetime-bound tasks to your scheduling system.Continue with the remaining categories and goals until you become excitedabout your future and can’t wait to get started!IntrospectionHaving to objectively review what went well and what didn’t go so well inyour life and what you are going to do about it, takes introspection.Inwardly reflecting on your life takes a lot of courage, too.What have you always wanted to do with your life? Think back when youwere a child and what you hoped for your future. Okay, maybe you thoughtyou would grow up to be a rockstar when you grew up. It didn’t happen,but you can certainly learn a musical instrument in the upcoming year. Oryou can take singing lessons if that’s something you’ve always wanted todo. Page 21
  22. 22. These goals should also stretch you. Don’t write down the easy stuff. Writedown a goal that will challenge you and make a difference in your life.Instead of writing down that you want to earn $500 more per month, writedown that you will earn $10 000 more each month this year.Then write down all the tasks that you will need to make that much moremoney.What would you have to do to earn that much more? You canalso subdivide your goals, if it makes it more achievable and measurablefor you.CommitmentYou have devoted time to the task of planning your upcoming year. Youhave reflected upon your desires and know what you want. Now it’s timefor Commitment.Do you have the commitment to follow your plan? Do you believe in whatyou have written down?Without Commitment to your goals, it’s not going to happen. If you don’thave faith and belief in yourself to accomplish the goals, your Commitmentto achieving them will waver. You’ve spent time thinking of what you wantfor your future, do not let a lack of commitment let you down. You deservebetter!Pledge to yourself that you will follow your plan to the best of your ability.ActionYou must be taking action on your goals. If not daily, then at a minimumweekly. Without Commitment and taking Action on your goals, they won’thappen. I suggest you use whatever scheduling method that works for you,whether it’s Outlook’s Calendar, Google Calendar, setting up text alerts,paper and pen, etc.Write down your goals on your calendar and track your progress. We allknow that if you write something down and schedule it, the likelihood of ithappening increases dramatically.If checklists work for you, then use checklists to track your actions againstyour goals. Page 22
  23. 23. Look at your goal list and calendar daily. It will motivate you to see whatyou have accomplished and what you have planned for your future. Youwrote those goals, so they must mean something to you, something thatyou want to have or accomplish in your life.Once you have your plan and are taking action and are committed toachieving what you have written down, don’t give up. If you’ve spent thenecessary time involved, the introspection to determine what you want inyour future, and the commitment to achieve the goals, believe in the plan.It will happen.Maybe you won’t achieve everything you’ve written down, but I bet you thatby this time next year, you will be really surprised at what you haveaccomplished in your life.No one is going to do this for you. You have to take personal responsibilityfor your future and planning for it is a major step to take. Keep in mind thesaying, “If it’s to be, then it’s up to me.” Page 23
  24. 24. Why You Need To Write In Your Goals Book DailyWay back in 2005, I remember reading about the importance of having agoals book from Jack Canfield. It seemed like such a simple thing to doand I thought I would give it a try.I remember writing down my goals on March 4, 2005 and less than twomonths later; I had achieved one of my major financial goals. I left my joband found a better one – with a $20,000 increase in salary. I directlyattribute to obtaining and accepting that new job offer for more money tothe act of writing in my goals book each morning during those months. So,I know that this works.To this day, I still write in my goals book, although many days may go bybetween writings. I still write in it, especially when I want to focus on thecompletion of one of my goals. It’s also interesting to see how my goalshave changed over the years.We all know that the simple act of writing focuses our mind and especiallywhen you are writing down your goals, you are making them concrete.They become more than wishes, they are definite wants in your life thatyou are magnetizing into your life. Remember, what you want in life, alsowants you.So, how can you use the power of a goals book? It’s really simple.First, you have to have a blank, ruled, book to write in. And, yes, it has tobe paper. Typing into your computer each morning isn’t the same thing asactually concentrating on your goal as you are writing it down.You’ll also need to think about your goals in 5 specific ways. Use thecategories below to think about your primary goal in each area.You only need one sentence to fit each area. Remember that you will bewriting down these goals every single day, until you make them come true.So, really concentrate on what goals that if they came true, would meanthe most to you. Don’t be wishy-washy, either. Write down what you wantto happen in your life.1. Body Page 24
  25. 25. Think about your Body or Physical Being. What are you physical goals? Doyou want to weight a certain weight? Do you want to complete amarathon? Do you want to just be healthy and pain-free?2. BrainThink about what you want to learn, what skills you want to master, thebooks you want to read, the intellectual pursuits you want to have.3. BeingThink about your spiritual goals. What do you want your purpose in life tobe? Do you want to be more loving? more accepting? more helpful? moretrusting? Do you want to study different religions? Do you want to prayeach day?4. PeopleThink about the people you already have in your life or the people youwant to attract into your life. What goals do you have concerning the mostimportant people in your life? What kind of people do you want to besurrounded by?5. MoneyThink about your financial goals. How much money do you need? What doyou want to do with your work? How long do you want to work and what doyou want to provide the world? What amount of money will you give tocharity?Of course, these five categories can be replaced by whatever is personalto you. They can be re-arranged in your personal order, for whatevermakes sense to you. You don’t have to have a goal in each category butyou should have at least 5 separate goals that you are concentrating on.Over the years, I’ve wanted to concentrate on my financial goals so thatgoal became number 1, while the other goals were re-arranged. At othertimes, I wanted to concentrate on my Body so that goal rose to the top. Dowhatever makes sense for your situation.One of my financial goals for a long time was “I make $75,000 in a job thatI find fulfilling and creative“. Remember when you are doing this exercise Page 25
  26. 26. to write in the present tense and write what you want to happen (neverwrite what you don’t want to happen).The exercise seems easy, but it’s a very powerful one.Each morning, take five minutes and write your sentences down in yourgoals book. Do the same thing the next day and the day after.I think you will be astounded at the power of this simple exercise to focuson what you want to be/do/have in your life. Believe me, I know that thisworks. Page 26