1. Worksheet
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Love #1: The Pastor Loves the People
What are the ways a newcomer would see (should see) in their first visit to a Sunday meeting
to indicate that the pastor(s) love the people?
‰‰ They see the pastor’s general demeanour showing warmth and openness to the people.
‰‰ The pastor has an obvious listening ear, a smile on his face and a twinkle in his eye.
‰‰ The pastor uses a tone of voice showing care and concern during the message.
‰‰ The pastor demonstrates relaxed availability before the meeting.
‰‰ The pastor demonstrates relaxed availability after the meeting.
‰‰ The pastor takes initiative to go our of his way to talk with people. He remembers and
uses people’s names.
‰‰ The pastor talks with people of all ages and stages.
‰‰ The pastor shows patience with any who seem to want special attention.
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Add as many things as you can think of. Remember, this assignment is about things that show
love at the main meetings of the church to which newcomers are most likely to have their first
contact with the church. There are of course other things that will show during the other hours
of the week.
Number your list in order of the most important things first.
Share your list with the pastor in a private conversation. Express how grateful you are for his
love.
Pray for your pastor that he will live out these indicators of love.
Think about ways in which you personally can help your pastor show his love and then build
them into your behaviour.

2. Worksheet
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Love #2: The People Love the Pastor
What are the ways a newcomer would see (should see) in their first visit to a Sunday meeting
to indicate that the people love the pastor?
‰‰ They greet the pastor warmly.
‰‰ They enjoys listening to what the pastor has to say.
‰‰ They eagerly do what the pastor asks them to do.
‰‰ They gather around the pastor to share their stories.
‰‰ They ask the pastor questions and value the advice or answers given.
‰‰ They give the pastor gifts.
‰‰ They invite the pastor to their events.
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Add as many things as you can think of. Remember, this assignment is about things that show
love at the main meetings of the church to which newcomers are most likely to have their first
contact with the church. There are of course other things that will show during the other hours
of the week.
Number your list in order of the most important things first.
Share your list with other church attenders and tell them why you love your pastor.
Pray for your people that they will live out these indicators of love.
Think about ways in which you personally can help your fellow church people show love and
then build them into your own behaviour.

3. Worksheet
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Love #3: The People Love the Church
What are the ways a newcomer would see (should see) in their first visit to a Sunday meeting
to indicate that the people love the church?
‰‰ There is lots of chatter and laughing before the meeting.
‰‰ Everyone is in their seat or place on time.
‰‰ People sit together and don’t huddle near the back.
‰‰ People sing exhuberantly, respond to what is occuring (e.g. laugh at jokes).
‰‰ People listen intently and take notes. They are not dazed or sluggish.
‰‰ People show interest and excitement about coming events.
‰‰ The building is kept with pride.
‰‰ All ages intermingle and no one is eager to leave.
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Add as many things as you can think of. Remember, this assignment is about things that show
love at the main meetings of the church to which newcomers are most likely to have their first
contact with the church. There are of course other things that will show during the other hours
of the week.
Number your list in order of the most important things first.
Share your list with other church attenders and discuss why you chose the order you did.
Covenant with a friend to do even better.
Pray for your people that they will live out these indicators of love.
Think about ways in which you personally can help your fellow church people show love and
then build them into your own behaviour.

4. Worksheet
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Love #4: The People Love Each Other
What are the ways a newcomer would see (should see) in their first visit to a Sunday meeting
to indicate that the people love each other?
‰‰ They greet each other with genuine warmth and demonstrate that they like each other
hand have fun together.
‰‰ They ask each other about what is going on in their lives and listen with great interest.
‰‰ They remember the names of the children and youth and converse with them as equals.
‰‰ They never let anyone sit alone.
‰‰ They show their affection on their faces and in their gestures.
‰‰ They show tolerance for the idiosyncracies of others and love them anyway.
‰‰ They arrive early and show anticipation they are about to have a great time together.
‰‰ They hang around after the meeting, circulate and chat making plans about how they can
serve each other.
‰‰ They don’t appear to have cliques meeting in corners avoiding others.
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Add as many things as you can think of. Remember, this assignment is about things that show
love at the main meetings of the church to which newcomers are most likely to have their first
contact with the church. There are of course other things that will show during the other hours
of the week.
Number your list in order of the most important things first.
Share your list with other church attenders and discuss why you ranked things as you did.
Covenant with a friend to do even better.
Pray for your people that they will live out these indicators of love.
Think about ways in which you personally can help your fellow church people show love and
then build them into your own behaviour.

5. Worksheet
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Love #5: The People Love Newcomers
What are the ways a newcomer would see (should see) in their first visit to a Sunday meeting
to indicate that the people would love them if they chose to stay?
‰‰ We greet each newcomer pleasantly and make them feel at home.
‰‰ We are sensitive to the newcomer’s demeanour and mirror their behaviour being careful
to not appear aggressive or aloof based on that newcomer’s need.
‰‰ We never ask a newcomer to do something they might find awkward or embarrassing.
‰‰ We explain where to go and what will be going on.
‰‰ We have a natural way to explain the church, its background and approaches so newcom-
ers can understand and participate as if they were already regulars.
‰‰ We remember the newcomer’s name and use it often in our conversation.
‰‰ We never let a newcomer sit alone.
‰‰ We show our affection on our faces and in our gestures.
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Add as many things as you can think of. Remember, this assignment is about things that show
love at the main meetings of the church to which newcomers are most likely to have their first
contact with the church. There are of course other things that will show during the other hours
of the week.
Number your list in order of the most important things first.
Share your list with other church attenders and ask a friend to watch you to see how you do
with newcomers.
Pray for your people that they will live out these indicators of love.
Think about ways in which you personally can help your fellow church people show love and
then build them into your own behaviour.

6. Worksheet
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Love #6: The Church Loves the Community
What are the ways a newcomer would see (should see) in their first visit to a Sunday meeting
to indicate that the church demonstrates love to the community?
‰‰ They hear some news about how the church interacts with the community in the an-
nouncements.
‰‰ They see posters on the bulletin boards promoting good community events.
‰‰ They hear things in the message to indicate concern for people.
‰‰ They hear reports of what God is doing through the church in lives beyond the church in
the community and around the world.
‰‰ They clearly see that the church is making a difference in people and has a steady stream
of newcomers coming in from the community.
‰‰ They see people who normally are not accepted in the community in the church being
treated with love.
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Add as many things as you can think of. Remember, this assignment is about things that show
love at the main meetings of the church to which newcomers are most likely to have their first
contact with the church. There are of course other things that will show during the other hours
of the week.
Number your list in order of the most important things first.
Share your list with other church attenders and share why you ranked things as you did. Cov-
enant with a friend to work together to show your love for the community.
Pray for your people that they will live out these indicators of love.
Think about ways in which you personally can help your fellow church people show love and
then build them into your own behaviour.

7. Worksheet
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Love #7: The Newcomer Sees the Love of Jesus
What are the ways a newcomer would see (should see) in their first visit to a Sunday meeting
to indicate that Jesus loves them and is found in this place?
‰‰ We are a different kind of people than they see day by day and they want to have what we
have.
‰‰ We sit up and listen well. We take time to explain something that might be foreign to the
newcomer.
‰‰ We sing with devotion in our hearts and expression on our faces.
‰‰ We show tremendous respect for the Word of God and carry our well worn Bibles to
church with us and mark them up with notes and reminders.
‰‰ We reflect together on points in the sermon or teaching that will make a difference in our
lives.
‰‰ We share our love with newcomers as part of the family from their first visit.
‰‰ Our prayers are personal and we take prayer requests seriously.
‰‰ We show joy on our faces and in warm glances of interest towards the newcomers.
‰‰ We greet newcomers with the same affection as we share with our friends of long stand-
ing.
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Add as many things as you can think of. Remember, this assignment is about things that show
love at the main meetings of the church to which newcomers are most likely to have their first
contact with the church. There are of course other things that will show during the other hours
of the week.
Number your list in order of the most important things first.
Share your list with other church attenders and discuss how you can in your own ways dem-
onstrate the love of Jesus.
Pray for your people that they will live out these indicators of love.
Think about ways in which you personally can help your fellow church people show love and
then build them into your own behaviour.