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  • 1. The Commission on Family and Life Diocese of San Pablo Rev. Fr. Dodie Arupo Diocesan Director
  • 2. THE PRE-CANA MODULE Diocese of San Pablo
  • 3. PRE-CANA SEMINAR
    • -there are 3 stages in the preparation for marriage
    • - the REMOTE PREPARATION
    • - the PROXIMATE PREPARATION
    • - the IMMEDIATE PREPARATION which is the pre-cana seminar
  • 4. Remote Preparation
    • Things that are learned only in the home, and within the 1 st six years of life
      • 1 concept of a God who loves and forgives
      • 2 what love is; how to love… and to trust
      • 3 submission to authority and cooperating with it
      • 4 basic ability to discern between what is right and wrong
      • 5 self-esteem and self-control
      • 6 self security in the environment
  • 5. Proximate Preparation
    • Learned at the home and in school
    • - Personhood
    • - Development of the Human Person
    • - Human sexuality
    • - Values and Virtues
    • - Male and Female Psychology
    • - Gender Orientation
    • - Discipline
    • - Dignity of work
    • - Communication
  • 6. Immediate Preparation
    • Usually given just weeks before the wedding
      • Pre-Marriage Orientation Seminar
      • Natural Family Planning Seminars
  • 7. What is the Pre-cana Seminar?
    • - it is the immediate preparation for those who wish to get married.
    • - to help the couples prepare themselves for their life long commitment.
    • - to help the couple understand their missions as married couples.
    • - to help the couple understand their responsibility
  • 8. Pre-Cana Module 4 session:
    • 1. PAG-IBIG NG DIYOS (doctrinal aspect- catechism)
    • 2. ANG TAO (personhood)
      • - personhood
      • - NFP
    • Marriage
    • 3. Parenting
      • - communication
    • 4. Mission
  • 9. 1. PAG-IBIG NG DIYOS
    • - creation account (Gen. 1:26-31)
    • - Plan of God
    • - the fall of man (sin)
    • - basic cathechism
  • 10. 1. Plano ng Diyos
    • A. Gen. 1:26-31
    • B. layunin ng Diyos sa paglikha ng tao:
      • dahil sa pag-ibig ng Diyos
      • ang tao ang rurok ng paglikha
      • ihinanda ng Diyos ang pananahanan ng tao bago likhain ang tao na kawangis ng Diyos
      • may free will ang tao
  • 11.
    • C. Nagkasala ang tao
      • pumasok ang kasalanan, nagkaroon ng kaparusahan
      • 1Cor 6:9-19; Gal 5:19-21; Rom 5:12
      • D. Nagmamahal parin ang Diyos
      • Inialay ng Diyos ang Kanyang Bugtong na Anak
      • Lk 1:26-38; Jn 1:1-18
      • E. Pamilya bilang hubugan ng tao
  • 12. 2. ANG TAO 2.a. DIWA
    • D – damdamin
    • I – isip
    • W – wika
    • A – adhikain (layunin, goal)
  • 13. 2.b. Male and Female - pagkakaiba
    • Physical
    • Emotional
    • Activity
    • Male – haligi ng tahanan
    • Female – ilaw ng tahanan
  • 14. Pagkakaiba ng lalaki sa babae
    • Lalaki
    • Tungkulin
    • - ama
    • - ulo ng tahanan
    • - pinuno
    • - bumubuhay
    • - nagdedesisyon
    • Babae
    • Tungkulin
    • - ina
    • - puso ng tahanan
    • - tagapangasiwa
    • - tagapayo
  • 15. B. personality
    • - palaisipan (intelectual)
    • - makatuwiral (reason)
    • Impersonal (may distansya)
    • - mapusok
    • - mabilis magalit
    • - madamdamin (emotional)
    • - kutob-loob (feelings)
    • - personal (lapat makisama)
    • - madaling lumuha
  • 16. C. Sa pananalita
    • - direkta kung magusap
    • - hindi mausap
    • - malalim sa damdamin
    • - paligoy-ligoy
    • - mausap
    • - bukas sa damdamin
  • 17. D. Pananaw sa sarili
    • Accomplishments
    • - binibigyang diin ang mga nagawa/tagumpay
    • Looks
    • - binibigyang diin ang kanyang itsura at kaayusan
  • 18. E. Kahinaan
    • Kawalang pag-asa
    • Kalungkutan at pag-iisa
  • 19. F. Pananaw sa pag-ibig
    • - manakop
    • -manuyo bago ikasal
    • Pag-ibig ay katumbas ng pagnanasa
    • “ double standard” (walang mawawala sa akin)
    • - ngayon ang mahalaga sa pag-ibig
    • - magpasakop
    • - nanunuyo pagkakasal
    • - una’y pag-ibig bago pagnanasa
    • - “single standard” (malinis)
    • - ngayon at kailanman ang pag-ibig
  • 20. G. Buhay Sekswal
    • - nagmamahal para makamit ang sex
    • - agresibo o mapusok
    • - madaling mag-init na parang kwitis
    • - di na pinag-aaralan
    • - napaghihiwalay ang sex at pag-ibig
    • - ang sexual arousal ay nakafocus sa genitals
    • - nagbibigay ng sarili para mahalin
    • - mahiyain at pakipot
    • - mabagal mag-init tulad ng plantsa
    • - kailangang turuan upang matututong tumugon
    • - laging pinagsasama ang sex at pag-ibig
    • - ang sexual arousal ay sa buong katawan
  • 21. 2.c. ang NFP
    • Kadalasan ang pananaw sa family planning ay nakatuon lamang sa pagkakaroon o sa pagdami ng anak.
    • 2 methods in having or having no children
      • A. artificial method
      • B. natural method
  • 22. Artificial method: contraception
    • Pills
    • Condom
    • Ligation
    • IUD
    • Bisectomy
    • Injectibles
    • Norplants
    • Abortion
  • 23. CONTRACEPTIVES KILL CAUSE A LOT OF DREADED AILMENTS! AND
  • 24. The Pill
  • 25. Contraceptive Injectibles - also known as "Couple's Choice"
  • 26. SOME HORRIBLE SIDE-EFFECTS:
    • Increased risk of stroke
    • High-blood pressure or heart attack
    • Cancers of the breast and reproductive organs
    • Gall bladder disease
    • Liver tumors
    • Mood disorders…..
  • 27.
    • May cause:
      • Severe bleeding
      • Pelvic infections
      • Ectopic pregnancy
      • Subsequent hysterectomy
      • due to severe bleeding
    LIGATION
  • 28. Tubal Ligation
  • 29. Condoms
  • 30.
    • Most condoms develop flaws or holes over time. They occur naturally in latex condoms as they have “shelf life” The average hole size is 5 microns.
    Do Condoms Really Work? A sperm is only 2.5 microns. An HIV virus that causes AIDS is only 1 micron HIV Virus 1 micron CONDOM HOLE 5 microns SPERM 2.5 mcrons
  • 31. Intrauterine Devices (IUD)
  • 32. Norplants
  • 33. ABORTION Abortion is the willful killing of the unborn baby.
  • 34. What is Abortion? Termination of pregnancy before the age of viability
  • 35.  
  • 36.
    • “ The womb which is supposed to be the safest place on earth has now become a tomb!”……If we permit mothers to kill even their very own children, how can we say to other people not to kill one another?”
    MOTHER TERESA
  • 37. Natural Method
    • Abstinence
    • Calendar
    • BBT
    • Billings Ovulation
  • 38. The Billings Method
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  • 46. 2.d. Christian Marriage
    • 1. kasal bilang kasunduan
      • - agreement
      • - contract
      • - commitment
    • 2. kasal bilang sakramento
      • - daluyan ng biyaya ng Diyos
    • 3. kasal bilang bokasyon
      • -daan ng pagpapakabanal
  • 47. 3. Parenting 3a.communication
    • Importance of communication
    • Rules of communication
      • -b/w husband and wife
      • -b/w parents and children
      • -b/w in-laws (biyanan)
  • 48. 3b. Christian Parenting
    • Commitment to Christ, to the Church and to spouse
    • Role of parents to their children
    • Set a good Christian example for their children
  • 49. The Seven Primary Principles of Parenting Wrong a.    Bring up each child in precisely the same way. b.   Inadvertently reinforce maladaptive behavior. c.    You cannot, not attend to maladaptive behavior, because of problems in yourself. d.   Children imitate maladaptive behavior you reinforce. e.    The child reinforces your nagging by eventually complying. f.     The desperate struggle to conserve energy makes you give up. g.     Couples polarize on discipline etc. as a reenactment of unresolved problems from the childhood. Right a.    Provide needs according to the child's blueprint. b.   Reinforce, with attention, the behavior you want. c.    Resolve your problems so you know why you are not able to discipline your attention to desirable behavior. d.   Reinforce, with your attention, the child who is exhibiting the behavior you desire and the others will follow. e.    Request a child do something once only. Commend them if they do; ignore them if they don't. f.     It is worth the extra effort because eventually it will save you a great deal of time and energy. g.    Understand your unresolved problems with insight and, by practice, engage in the behavior that is most beneficial to you all.
  • 50. 4. Mission of the Church
    • - the Family as a Domestic Church
      • -- munting simbahan
    • - the participation of the Family in the Church
      • --mga samahan/organization sa pangangalaga ng pamilya
  • 51. THE CHALLENGE
  • 52.  
  • 53. THE FAMILY AS THE PRIMARY AGENT IN THE TRANSMISSION OF THE FAITH
    • LET US STRENGTHEN THE FAMILY
    • Give importance in the preparation of marriage
    • Let us help and support married couples in their mission
    • Protect life and value family life
  • 54. P.Benedict XVI th in his Homily during the celebration of the 5 th World Meeting of Family
    • “… Parents have the right and the inalienable duty to transmit this heritage to their children: to help them find their own identity, to initiate them to the life of society, to foster the responsible exercise of their moral freedom and their ability to love on the basis of their having been loved and, above all, to enable them to encounter God…”
  • 55.
    • “… Children experience human growth and maturity to the extent that they trustingly accept this heritage and training which they gradually make their own. They are thus enabled to make a personal synthesis between what has been passed on and what is new, a synthesis that every individual and generation is called to make.”
  • 56. Parent’s Duty
    • Duty to transmit the heritage to their children
    • Help find right identity
    • Initiate them to the life of society
    • Foster responsible exercise moral freedom
    • Ability to love
    • Enable to encounter God
  • 57. Children must experience:
    • Human growth and maturity
    • Accept heritage and training
    • Enable to make personal synthesis
  • 58. Still the Pope mentioned:
    • “ The Christian family passes on the faith when parents teach their children to pray and when they pray with them (cf. Familiaris Consortio , 60); when they lead them to the sacraments and gradually introduce them to the life of the Church; when all join in reading the Bible, letting the light of faith shine on their family life and praising God as our Father.”
  • 59. Second Vatican Council teaches:
    • "Christian married couples and parents, following their own way, should support one another in grace all through life with faithful love, and should train their children, lovingly received from God, in Christian doctrine and evangelical virtues…
  • 60.
    • … Because in this way they present to all an example of unfailing and generous love, they build up the brotherhood of charity, and they stand as witnesses and cooperators of the fruitfulness of Mother Church, as a sign of and a share in that love with which Christ loved his Bride and gave himself for her" ( Lumen Gentium , 41).”
  • 61. The Christian Family therefore:
    • The father, mother and children - is called, then, to do all these things not as a task imposed from without, but rather as a gift of the sacramental grace of marriage poured out upon the spouses.
  • 62. “ Life is a Gift”
    • It must be nurtured
    • It must be valued
    • It must be protected
    • … from WOBM to TOMB…
  • 63. God Bless You All!!!