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How do we
say goodbye?
Question # 1
What questions do you
ask yourself before
saying goodbye?
3 questions
1. Why do you want to say goodbye?
2. When do you want to say goodbye?
3. How do you want to say goodbye?
https://hbr.org/2012/03/firing-someone-the-right-way.html
How will you thank the person
for what he / she has done?
https://hbr.org/2016/01/how-to-fire-someone-without-destroying-them
http://www.nzz.ch/wirtschaft/unternehmen/firmen-helfen-bei-entlassungen-fw-kuendigung-bildlegendezusatz-ld.86384
How do we say goodbye?
What strengths does the person, you say
goodbye to, have? What examples will you
emphasize as you give the person feedback?
https://hbr.org/2015/10/letting-good-people-go-when-its-time
http://www.nytimes.com/2016/05/03/opinion/the-choice-explosion.html
How can you help pair the person with a replacement
during a period of time, so they can learn - for example
through storytelling - about how the person, who is leaving,
solved problems / worked?
https://hbr.org/2016/01/the-right-way-to-off-board-a-departing-employee
How will you find out what needs, the
person you say goodbye to, has?
https://hbr.org/2016/01/how-to-fire-someone-without-destroying-them
How can you let the person know that you would like
to stay in touch - if you want to - and that this is more
the beginning of a new phase than an exit?
https://hbr.org/2016/01/the-right-way-to-off-board-a-departing-employee
How do we say goodbye?
Question # 2
What questions do you
ask people you say
goodbye to?
3 questions
1. How have I been most helpful to you?
2. What should I stop doing or do less?
3. What should I start doing or do more?
https://hbr.org/2014/05/the-art-of-saying-a-professional-goodbye/
Further inspiration
https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/How-can-we-listen-better-1485898
Question # 3
How do you manage
your emotions when
you say goodbye?
The ability to express and share the emotions
that are stirred up by an ending help ensure
that an actual ending occurs.
It is ok to cry. It is also ok not to cry.
https://hbr.org/2014/05/the-art-of-saying-a-professional-goodbye/
Don’t be embarrassed.
Cry for what it was and
for how different it
might be in the future.
http://elitedaily.com/life/culture/5-strange-things-want-avoid-saying-goodbye/906094/
People react differently to loss of jobs.
Examples of reactions:
 Shock.
 Being calm, quiet.
 Lack of understanding.
 Anger.
 Nervous breakdown.
 Threats against leader / leaders.
 Aggressions towards oneself.
http://www.nzz.ch/wirtschaft/unternehmen/firmen-helfen-bei-entlassungen-fw-kuendigung-bildlegendezusatz-ld.86384
Remind yourself of the better things ahead,
of the goodness your new thing allows.
http://theartofsimple.net/how-to-say-goodbye/
Further inspiration
https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/How-can-we-manage-our-emotions-1678947
Question # 4
What do you need after
having said goodbye?
After an ending, we may need
1. to spend time alone, or
2. to connect with other people.
What do you need?
https://hbr.org/2014/05/the-art-of-saying-a-professional-goodbye/
After an ending, we may need
1. open time on our calendar to look back and reflect, or
2. to keep busy and stay active.
What do you need?
https://hbr.org/2014/05/the-art-of-saying-a-professional-goodbye/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-couch/201407/5-ways-make-goodbyes-less-painful

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How do we say goodbye?

  • 1. How do we say goodbye?
  • 2. Question # 1 What questions do you ask yourself before saying goodbye?
  • 3. 3 questions 1. Why do you want to say goodbye? 2. When do you want to say goodbye? 3. How do you want to say goodbye? https://hbr.org/2012/03/firing-someone-the-right-way.html
  • 4. How will you thank the person for what he / she has done? https://hbr.org/2016/01/how-to-fire-someone-without-destroying-them http://www.nzz.ch/wirtschaft/unternehmen/firmen-helfen-bei-entlassungen-fw-kuendigung-bildlegendezusatz-ld.86384
  • 6. What strengths does the person, you say goodbye to, have? What examples will you emphasize as you give the person feedback? https://hbr.org/2015/10/letting-good-people-go-when-its-time http://www.nytimes.com/2016/05/03/opinion/the-choice-explosion.html
  • 7. How can you help pair the person with a replacement during a period of time, so they can learn - for example through storytelling - about how the person, who is leaving, solved problems / worked? https://hbr.org/2016/01/the-right-way-to-off-board-a-departing-employee
  • 8. How will you find out what needs, the person you say goodbye to, has? https://hbr.org/2016/01/how-to-fire-someone-without-destroying-them
  • 9. How can you let the person know that you would like to stay in touch - if you want to - and that this is more the beginning of a new phase than an exit? https://hbr.org/2016/01/the-right-way-to-off-board-a-departing-employee
  • 11. Question # 2 What questions do you ask people you say goodbye to?
  • 12. 3 questions 1. How have I been most helpful to you? 2. What should I stop doing or do less? 3. What should I start doing or do more? https://hbr.org/2014/05/the-art-of-saying-a-professional-goodbye/
  • 14. Question # 3 How do you manage your emotions when you say goodbye?
  • 15. The ability to express and share the emotions that are stirred up by an ending help ensure that an actual ending occurs. It is ok to cry. It is also ok not to cry. https://hbr.org/2014/05/the-art-of-saying-a-professional-goodbye/
  • 16. Don’t be embarrassed. Cry for what it was and for how different it might be in the future. http://elitedaily.com/life/culture/5-strange-things-want-avoid-saying-goodbye/906094/
  • 17. People react differently to loss of jobs. Examples of reactions:  Shock.  Being calm, quiet.  Lack of understanding.  Anger.  Nervous breakdown.  Threats against leader / leaders.  Aggressions towards oneself. http://www.nzz.ch/wirtschaft/unternehmen/firmen-helfen-bei-entlassungen-fw-kuendigung-bildlegendezusatz-ld.86384
  • 18. Remind yourself of the better things ahead, of the goodness your new thing allows. http://theartofsimple.net/how-to-say-goodbye/
  • 20. Question # 4 What do you need after having said goodbye?
  • 21. After an ending, we may need 1. to spend time alone, or 2. to connect with other people. What do you need? https://hbr.org/2014/05/the-art-of-saying-a-professional-goodbye/
  • 22. After an ending, we may need 1. open time on our calendar to look back and reflect, or 2. to keep busy and stay active. What do you need? https://hbr.org/2014/05/the-art-of-saying-a-professional-goodbye/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-couch/201407/5-ways-make-goodbyes-less-painful