Surviving the Holidays? Tips for conquering (rather than muddling through) holidays, parties, and family get-togethers
Let’s Put it into Perspective Is this how you are feeling about the holidays right now? 12 Pains of Christmas http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vsvY8PbhZi0 What kind of things are you thinking about already? What kinds of feelings are you having?
Get Your Mind Right Attitude of Gratitude Remember what is truly important What are your values? Focus on the positive Learn to control your thoughts
But… Don’t sweat the small stuff Let go of things that are out of your control Ask yourself, “Will this matter in 5 years?” Learn to say, “NO.” Get comfortable with it. It’s ok! Try it with me….
But, but… Get organized and plan ahead De-clutter Write it down! Make a plan of attack Try something new Recipe, hair style Change your routine Volunteer Take mind off self
Put First Things First Take care of yourself Eat right Exercise Hang out with a friend Rent a movie, watch the game Take a warm bath, light the candles Pray/meditate, quiet yourself Live for today/enjoy every moment You can’t get it back
Answering the Tough Questions So, find a job yet? People are not trying to be rude. No one is trying to upset you. People care. That is why they are asking. Prepare ahead of time what you might say. Keep it focused and positive. Don’t let your mind wander off after. “I’m currently seeking opportunities as…” “I’m involved in a number of things that…”
Answering the Tough Questions Will you participate in the gift exchange? Don’t feel like you have to say yes. You don’t have to buy for everyone! Keep it simple. Say yes to some, not all. Consider making things to give away.
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Answering the Tough Questions Can you bring a dish to pass? Bring something simple. Clarify ahead of time what is needed and pick something you are comfy with. Don’t feel like you have to be a host. Let others take a turn. Suggest potluck style wherever you are going.
Answering the Tough Questions Can you volunteer? Double-edged sword Take your mind off of yourself, but don’t overdo! Pick the right opportunities. Don’t say yes to everyone. It’s ok to say, NO Ideas Shelter Meal program School
Answering the Tough Questions Honey, will you come to the party with me? Whether you have the nice dress or suit or whatever “getup” you need, remember what is truly important. It’s not about the show, the food, the gifts, the drinks, or anything external. It’s about relationships and spending time with someone you love or care about.
Answering the Tough Questions Consider going to support your loved one and focus on the positive. When asked, “What do you do?” use your 30/60 second commercial and have a ball! You could get a job out of this! If you go, make sure you mingle and have a good attitude. Prepare your mind ahead of time. Be grateful for who you are, who your partner is, and what you have together.
Making Your Money Stretch What are YOUR ideas? Homemade holiday gifts http://www.stretcher.com/stories/09/09oct19d.cfm Say no to excess parties you really don’t need to be at, baking dozens of cookies for the cookie exchange or bake sale, or getting pulled into anything you really don’t NEED to do Plan ahead for meals http://www.stretcher.com/stories/08/08oct20d.cfm
In Conclusion… Fall back on your core values Control your thoughts and you will control your feelings Plan ahead Trust your gut Say, “No” more Having a good holiday or a bad holiday is a choice
Thank You… Questions? Now go and conquer those holiday issues? Make it a year to remember!