Every one wants to be glamorous and look good, When you a teenager peers seem to be very important in ourlife’s and they certainly where for me. that’s how it all started, the DIET. It seemed very innocent at first.This gave me a “Pygmalion effect” which is beneficial positive feedback. dow, The Johari Win sense of represents our erfully self, then is pow ur influenced by o involvement in with communication others. Perhaps influence of media did help as well, looking at all those gorgeous models. They were so skinny and all of the sudden that’s all I wanted to be “skinny”.
However having that “role model” in my lifebecome very important to me. It was almost likea goal that I can reach with a bit of dieting. Rogers (1961) would see in role modelling evidence that we have a number of layers of self-consciousness. The modelling of ourselves in terms of other ,often public and famous people, is a part of a process that creates, presents and maintains our own ‘public self’.
However I soon realised that my diet is not glamorous andactually it become very hard to concentrate on anything but that. My peers also become very judgmental on my appearance and it just felt like I didn’t fit it anymore. However it is likely that I have been dominated by the influence of other people, those whos responses make a difference to me.
I thought that being skinny would get a good respond,so I followed that. Then, when I later started to getnegative responses, my opinions soon change. Itdidn’t make me stop completely but made me moreconscious about my actions and in a way helped meget better. in re sted wa s inte dify oley we mo e Co ng t o th the ways accordi n r e b eh aviou s betwe nce di ffere ns’ ctio ‘refle These interested others act as a validation of our behaviour, reflecting the kinds versions of ourselves that we think we are projecting. This is what Cooley (1992) called “looking-glass theory”. When wee get dressed up for a night out, we partly see ourselves in other people’s reactions to us. The theory is similar to “the-self-fulfilling prophecy” in that expectations is created by response.
Eventually it got to the point, where I got very illfrom the dieting, it become my obsession. 67) The skinner I got, more ill I become. People it h (19 m as persm lf-estee t ofCoo s se called me “stupid” and “attention seeking” which nde fine al ju dgme effected my self-esteem badly. rson ’ ‘a pe ness i worth
However physical appearance, of course, includes notonly things with which we cover or adorn our bodies, butits also the shape and size of our bodies. Thepreoccupation with body shape and size is reflected bypractices such as slimming, body building and cosmeticsurgery. It is the body’s capacity to communicate aspectsof an individuals identity which makes us so aware of ourphysical appearance. People judge you on what they can see, and I have learned the hard way that when your change your appearance people, seem to judge you on that and change towards you.
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For me it was the reaction of e said ow “th others that changed the way I ein nst ation h was behaving – by others Ber alis i is reacting to the way I looked, I soc gical d into lo e was in a process of bio sform ing”. tran ral be socialisation. I was wanting to u cult ‘fit in’ and so I changed my behaviour in order to ‘fit in’.However The British sociologist BasilBernstein said that socialisation is a ‘processof making people safe’. So in my case tryingto ‘fit in’ made me feel safe. Almost like acomfort zone where you are accepted andthat’s what makes you feel safe.
When I got better, surprise, surprise I got all my friends back and was treated“normal” again. So what I’m trying to say is people will treat you different,when you change your appearance and that can really effect the person.However according Goffman we identified ‘social role’ as a significant themeto the responses, Goffman’s theory shows that we have different masks anddepending on who we with, we play different roles in front of our friends forexample, whether it is to ‘fit it’ or to ‘show off’ . Goffman sees the parts weplay as an organising principle of our self-presentation. He would see most ofus moving from role to role across the day. However the research by Kuhnand McPartland (1954) also indicated that ‘definition by role’ becomes moreprominent as we mature.
Over all I think there’s to much focus in our society as how women look or howwomen should look. Women are constantly being bombarded with new diets in colourful magazines, where the image of the women is to be skinny and glamorous. Partly that’s what effected me as every girl wants to have this perfect body like all those models in the magazines. What have changed my opinion was my illness, dieting its not fun, and skin and bones are not glamorous. I think media is sending the wrong message especially to younggirls, how skinny is good and pretty. However you don’t have to kill yourself to be skinny.