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If you want genuine men, and not just any man, let Mirabelle Summers and the team challenge your beliefs about love and attraction, and show you the way to become a seduction success story

If you want genuine men, and not just any man, let Mirabelle Summers and the team challenge your beliefs about love and attraction, and show you the way to become a seduction success story

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  • 1. Conversation Tips - How to Talk To MenEverybody has sticking points, whether its work, relationships or life ingeneral. But thats fine and dandy because the learning process is whatmakes us better women.Perhaps youre struggling with certain behaviors or fears that might bekeeping you from making the most out of your love life. Not to worrythough; author Mirabelle Summers has created the ultimate game-free guideon how to do just THAT: CLICK HERE The "Get A Great Guy Guide" is just the thing you need to achieve the breakthrough that youve been waiting for. With its sensible, no-nonsense and down-to-earth advice for the sassy, modern girl, finding AND holding on to a quality man will be a cinch!Now then - one of the most common stumbling blocks to more romance in awomans life is a simple lack of conversational know-now. The good news isthat this can be LEARNED and immediately applied in your everyday life!.Especially while youre face-to-face with a potential lover!Oftentimes the problem is that some well-meaning girls overlook theimportance of having the right communication style. Its not that theyWANT to be boring; theyre merely unaware of how to hold a conversation.No sensible gal is going to get up in the morning and tell herself, "I wonderhow Im gonna BORE the socks off of that cute stranger Im going run into atthe coffee shop today?"
  • 2. If you want to become a better conversationalist, its important to consider ifyouve grown accustomed to certain patterns of speech that are actuallycounterproductive. Sometimes, you need to step back and ask if youvefallen into certain habits which youve numbed yourself to over time.So the first step towards any form of improvement is SELF-AWARENESS.Think about the way you normally carry a conversation with a guy and askyourself if your style could use some polishing.Of course, I dont want you to start beating yourself up if you feel that theway you talk to men isnt as attractive as you might want it to be. Like Isaid earlier, theres always room for improvement, and its definitely a goodthing to know EXACTLY which areas can be improved.With that said, I want you to go over the following tip you can use toenhance your communication style:# 1: Rapport is KeyIt may sound like the simplest thing in the world to say, but the fact is lotsof perfectly adorable women have a hard time doing this.Its mainly because they only have a VAGUE idea of what rapport is, sonaturally you cant create something you cant really put a pin on!So lets clear up the fog surrounding this topic and identify what it is exactly.In a nutshell, having rapport is about having a CONNECTION with someone.You know how you hook up your iPod or mobile phone to your computer,and they suddenly have this mutual understanding? Its kind of like that,but on a DEEPER level.Let me give you a clearer picture: if you were at a party packed with allmanner of gorgeous, articulate and friendly men, which one of them are youlikely to REALLY fall for?Since theyre all visually and mentally appealing, you might have a hardtime figuring out which guy suits you. Chances are the one who naturallyunderstands you will be the man youd want to date.Why is that? Well, doesnt it feel just GREAT when a person instinctivelysenses where youre coming from?
  • 3. Im sure youve met at least one person in your life who you inexplicably feeldrawn to. Thats because that person seems to perfectly understand andecho back your own opinions or feelings.That sense of being connected is what rapport is all about. Fortunately, itsactually not hard at all to do this in your daily conversations.The first thing to keep in mind is that you need to be on the same page asthe person youre talking to. There are easy ways to do this.For example, keep an ear out for specific concepts or values that arepersonally close to the person you�re in a conversation with. If he bringsup that it’s important to him to have some quiet time everyday, store thataway for future reference.Later on you can echo back that same concept by telling him about how YOUlike to spend your alone time: ‘At the end of the day I like to spend an houror so curling up with a good book and a nice warm cup of chamomile tea. Itreally helps decompress after a crazy day, you know what I mean?’Step back and watch his eyes light up like a Christmas tree! By takingsomething close to his heart and giving it back to him in a genuine way,your words will make quite the IMPACT on him.So, rapport really has to do a lot with speaking the same language. Now ofcourse, I dont mean you have to start mimicking everything hes saying likea little parrot, but rather do it in an EMOTIONAL sense.Discovering and talking about the values that resonate with you BOTH is away to speak the same language. When you think about it, we often adaptour modes of speech depending on the context were in.For example, you wouldnt talk to your friends, family, colleagues, or eldersin the same EXACT way would you?So dont think that youre being a phony by making an effort to speak in thesame way that he does. Youre simply getting into the practice ofcommunicating in a way thats APPROPRIATE to the situation.And when it comes to chatting up gorgeous guys, a meeting of the minds isbest done through rapport-building speech patterns!
  • 4. # 2: Switch Off Your BrainDont get me wrong, the kinds of guys who are worth your time are intowomen of SUBSTANCE. And certainly, this next conversational tip is notabout acting air-headed or ditzy.All Im advising you do is keep your sexy brain from going into overdrive! Acommon mistake that intelligent women often commit is to think too muchabout certain things.They get so caught up in their own world of thoughts that theyll come off asaloof or distracted, when in reality theyre just petrified from FEAR of notknowing what to say next.If you dont want your brain from stalling on you, then you have to quietyour thoughts and shut out the nagging distractions in your pretty littlenoggin.The attraction-killing thoughts Im talking about are those coming from theinner critic trying to sabotage your conversation. Sometimes, we make themistake of mentally scolding ourselves after saying something that felt outof place or unfunny.Other times, were lost in a maze of thoughts on what to say next or getbogged down in a swamp of self-consciousness. When you feel your braingoing in this direction, acknowledge whats going on and DROP these mentaldistractions.Theres a handy little trick you can do in case your attention is drifting off tola-la land: instead of obsessing about how you look in his eyes or what hemight be thinking, simply divert your attention to HIM.Its a girls best defense against looking aloof or detached from theconversation (or from this plane of reality for that matter!). So remember toshut off this part of your brain, and youll do just fine.On another note however, sometimes its the guy youre talking to thatsfeeling self-conscious. If thats the case, then dont act or talk in any waythat might give away youre AWARE of it.Just play it cool and dont dwell on the vibe hes giving off. Itll only makethings more awkward if you let his state affect your own.
  • 5. # 3: Humor is Your Best FriendMaybe youre still feeling each other out and youre trying to get a handle onhow to connect to this hunk of a guy. But the awkward flow of yourconversation is creating a major interference in your connection so you�rehaving a hard time broadcasting your signal.Fear not, friend! The quickest way to clear up all that static is by creating aprivate joke which you can share with him. When you both have someknee-slapping ground to start on, this accelerates the rapport-buildingprocess.My long-time friend Marcus has a great story to illustrate my point. Hesays:"One of my first jobs was a freelance product writer for all sorts of healthmerchandise. During one assignment I was talking with this guy who wastelling me about the benefits of a sports bracelet that supposedly reducesmuscular fatigue. I had to put on the bracelet and pretended how less tensemy arm felt as I was stretching it. Monique, his pretty sales assistant, wasvisibly chuckling at how funny I looked during the product demo (though shetried her best to hide it)."Marcus was then able to use this funny incident as an inside joke when hestarted chatting up Monqiue. To her delight, he referred to the silly arm-stretching debacle several times during their conversation.To his benefit, Monique was game enough to tease him about it when theyeventually started dating. The moral of the story here is that when usedproperly, humor serves as a great bridge between two people.Heck, any doctor knows about the therapeutic effect of laughter. One wayto bring on the charm is to put your man on a natural high by cracking ajoke or making a witty comment!Making people laugh will make people (cute guys included) want to bearound you to get a dose of your feel-good charisma.Of course, theres a big difference between laughing at a joke and MAKINGone. However, appearing to be effortless at humor isnt as hard as youmight think. Dont assume you need to transform yourself into a standupcomic at the drop of a hat.
  • 6. Generally, a good punch line is the result of properly setting up the jokebeforehand. If you need to explain the punch line after delivering it, itmeans you didnt build enough suspense first.(Think about how some characters on TV bumble a perfectly good joke byexplaining too much and adding a "get it, get it?" at the end.)A good way to build up a joke is by keeping a relatively straight face andsuppressing any snickers before dropping the punch line on him. Otherwisethere wont be any escalation.Thats what comedic timing is all about: buttering up the audience and thenBAM, you get the drop on them with a well-placed punch line!Notice how comedians like Conan OBrien or Tina Fey churn out the funnies.They like to talk about a mundane news item (the set-up) and then makinga zany comment about it (the payoff).As an aside, avoid making any pop culture references that might alienate orconfuse the person youre talking to. Its good to be mindful of theparticular person in front of you so he can better relate to your "material".However, dont worry about making leaps and bounds in this particular areaof conversation. Try adapting these habits of humor little by little into yourspeech.Once you hit your stride and finally struck a guys funny bone, youll noticehow easier it is to keep him laughing with a follow-up joke! One last way tobe funny without overdoing it is by doing the "pretend seriousness" routine.A little lighthearted irony goes a long way with certain folks!Lets pretend that your friend introduced you to this incredibly cute guy whohappens to be just into music as you are. So halfway through theconversation he confesses to not having heard about a certain band youabsolutely adore.Take advantage of this opportunity by *playfully* retorting, "Tell me yourekidding. Otherwise, Im gonna have to drag you to my place and make youlisten to my (name of band) records until you see the light. Seriously!"
  • 7. Admittedly, this approach might not work on everyone, but if he seems likethe guy whos game enough to go along with the fun, then give it a shot!#4: Converse With an OPEN EarSome women might think that listening is just a simple matter of hearingwhat the other person is telling them. Truth is, this basic skill weve beentaught to use over the years is often taken for granted.Sometimes, we find ourselves zoning out a bit (refer to tip # 2) when weshould be PAY ATTENTION in the full sense of the verb. A typical mistake isto listen on a superficial level and merely use the time the guy is talking tothink of something to say.This might sound like common sense, but I have this to share: youd have abetter chance of saying something worthwhile if you truly listened to whatthe other person just said.Ive told countless friends and colleagues that your genuine attention is avery powerful tool for conversational success! Really listening to his jokesand stories is a simple but effective way to make him feel good abouthimself. And what red-blooded man wouldnt want to be around a sassy girlthat he can associate his GOOD FEELINGS with?The gift of showing real interest is the direct path to greater rapport in ANYsort of conversation youre in. Although our general interest here is toattract men through a good chat, we also have to consider the big picturehere.An attractive woman is someone who can have a great conversation withjust about anybody. When you have a POSITIVE attitude towards the rest ofhumankind, its an indication of how youd be on a date....or as a girlfriend.If youre there to talk with ANYONE purely for the pleasure of theircompany... and NOT because you want their approval... then that sinceritywill naturally show.People (hunks included) just tend you like more when you want to hang outwith them with NO strings attached.So what Im saying here is that you shouldnt just limit your awesomeconversational skills to men alone. Find an opportunity to flex your socialmuscles and chat up a storm with the next person you run into!
  • 8. It doesnt matter if its the nice old lady at the library, the friendly cashier atyour favorite coffee place, or your fellow students at yoga class. Everyperson out there offers a chance for you to become a more sociable person.Trust me, this mindset is the sure-fire path to becoming drop-dead gorgeousin the long run! What have you got to lose after all? And part of developingthe right mindset is by expanding your knowledge and beliefs about dating,courtesy of Meet Your Sweets "Get a Great Guy Guide."http://lareez.com/meetmanWhen you think about it, the cost of failure is pretty much ZERO, so get outthere and work it! This article comes to you courtesy of www.meetyoursweet.com If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweets "Get a Great Guy Guide." If you want genuine men, and not just any man, let Mirabelle Summers and the team challenge your beliefs about love and attraction, and show you the way to become a seduction success story. http://lareez.com/meetmanNo games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real women!