THE ULTIMATESECRETS OF TOTALSELF- CONFIDENCE By DR. ROBERT ANTHONY
• You can’t change the world, but you can change yourself.• “ We know what we are, but not what we may be.” W. Shakespeare21 Days
Secret #1 DEHYPNOTIZING YOURSELF• WE ARE LIMITED BY OUR “MISTAKEN CERTAINTIES”• “Once a person believes that something is true, (whether it is true or not) he then acts as if it were.”
Secret #2• DEVELOPING SELF-RELIANCE• RECOGNIZING AND BREAKING THE DEPENDENCY HABIT• OVERCOMING THE NEED TO MANIPULATE• LEARNING THAT COMPARISON BREEDS FEAR• FREEING YOURSELF FROM OTHERS
Secret #3THE ART OF SELF-ACCEPTANCE• Positive self-esteem
THE MOST COMMONCHARACTERISTICS OFLOW SELF-ESTEEMEmotional Physical PsychologicalAggressive, False Sloppy Anxious, Dislikes,laughter, Boasting, Appearance, hates, rejectsImpatient, Tries to Wilted handshake, himself. Needs to bebe“better than liked and accepted Lackluster eyes,Others. Competitive, by everyone.Arrogant, People Grossly Unsure.Thinks he is aPleaser, Name Overweight, loser. Ridden withDropper, Critical, Turned down shame, guilt , blame.Rebels against Mouth, Tense and Needs approval. MustAuthority, be “right” all thePerfectionist, Nervous, Weak time. Needs to win.Domineering, voice, Can’t look Need for money,Dominates others in the prestige, and power.Conversation, Cannot eye. Does what othersadmit, Mistakes, want him to do. LivesDrinker, Smoker, through his children,Talker. TV or hero worship.
Secret #4YOURAWARENESS• YOU ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST• DO NOT VALUE-JUDGE• UNDERSTAND YOUR MOTIVATION• TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
WISE OR UNWISE?• Is this a wise or an unwise act?• Will it contribute to my basic needs?• Will it harm me or someone else?• What is the total price I must pay?• Is it in harmony with Laws of the Universe, as I understand them?• Am I willing and able to pay this price and accept the consequences?
POSITIVE HABITCONDITIONING PROGRAM• YOU CANNOT GIVE UP ANYTHING YOU REGARD AS DESIRABLE
Secret #5I’M NOT GUILTY,YOU’RE NOT GUILTYTHE SEVEN MAJOR FORMS OF GUILT:1)PARENT – CHILD GUILT2)CHILD-PARENT GUILT3)GUILT THROUGH LOVE4)SOCIETY-INSPIRED GUILT5)SEXUAL GUILT6)RELIGIOUS GUILT7)SELF-IMPOSED GUILT• REMEMBER:~GUILT ALWAYS BRINGS PUNISHMENT~YOU ARE NOT YOUR ACTIONSMAKE A GUILT DIARY
Secret #6THE POSITIVE POWEROF LOVE• STOP LOOKING FOR OTHERS TO LOVE YOU• REMAIN CALM AND LOVE REGARDLESS OF THE CIRCUMSTANCES
Secret # 7MIND - YOUR OWNBUSINESS• THE LAW OF MENTAL MAGENTISM •MINDSUPERCONSCIOUS SUBCONSCIOUS CONSCIOUS
Secret #8THE GOLDEN KEYOF CREATIVE IMAGATION• IMAGINATION CONTROLS THE WORLD• THE CORRECT THINKING PROCESS:1. Go to the Superconscious Mind for inner guidance.2. Use the conscious mind to program this information into the subconscious.3. Command the subconscious to carry out this information.
HOW TO PROGRAM YOUR GENIE1. VERBALIZING2. FEELING AND EMOTION3. VISUALIZATION
Secret #9CHOOSING YOURDESTINATION• GIVE YOURSELF A FIVE- YEAR PLAN FOR GROWTH• START WHERE YOU ARE• TRUST YOUR INTUITION• RESPOND TO LIFE WITH ACTION• THE SECRECY PRINCIPLE
Look forward to the future withexpectations, and then actenthusiastic.• THE LAW OF EXPECTANCY“What you expect, that you shall find.” Aristotle.• ENTHUSIASM - God in You.(Greek, ‘en’ meaning ‘in’ and ‘theos’ meaning ‘God’)
Secret #10YOU DESERVE A BREAKTODAYMEDITATION:(1) Relax and let go.(2) Reach out and listen.(3) Visualize.Finally, mentally give thanks that it is so.
Secret #11 THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE• Write down the six most important things you want to do the next day.• Do the most unpleasant assignments and activities first.
Secret #12OVERCOMING FEAR ANDWORRY• DO NOT REHEARSE, YOUR FAILURES• CHANGE COMES WITH BEING DIFFERENT
Secret #13MOVE AHEAD THROUGH POSITIVECOMMUNICATIONS• LISTEN• TAKE AN INTERST IN OTHER PEOPLE• HOLD ONLY POSITIVE CONVERVATIONS• USE PLAIN LANGUAGE• LET THE OTHER PERSON KNOW THEY ARE IMPRESSING YOU GIVE SINCERE RECOGNITION• WAIT UNTIL THE CONVERSATION GETS AROUND TO YOU• BE ON TIME FOR APPOINTMENTS• REMEMBER PEOPLE’S NAMES• What you are speak so loudly, I cannot hear what you are saying. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Secret #14ACHIEVING TOTAL SELF-CONFIDENCE THROUGH A POSITIVEMENTAL ATTITUDE• POSITIVE STATEMENTS RELEASE CREATIVE POWER• CONCENTRATE ON WHAT’S RIGHT WITH YOU• MOVE AHEAD WITH AFFIRMATIVE THOUGHTS
THE NEW YOUAs you apply the principles in this book, a successful NEW YOU will emerge