Impact of Social Networks on Adult Relationships - Appendices
Appendix A<br />Responses to: I feel that social networking sites have had a positive/negative impact on my adult relationships. (please explain)<br />Positive. I have reconnected with "
long lost friends"
from high school and college. I have enjoyed, for the most part, these moments of reconnecting.Generally positive: SN sites have allowed me to reconnect with classmates/ friends I had lost contact with. Also allows me to keep up with friends lives more consistently- know what's happening, particularly the milestones (birthdays, kids, etc.)I feel it's enhanced my ability to keep in touch with more people more regularly. the individuals I was already close to I still speak to on the phone and whatnot, but the others it's still a surface-level relationship--which I believe is better than none at all if I had no way of knowing what was going on in their lives!Generally, I'm able to communicate about the same, but with a little more confidenceI feel they have had a positive influence in my life because I can socialize with people I wouldn't otherwise ever talk to....Positive - they have provided easier access to reach out to or stay in touch with old friends as well as current friends. While other forms of communication obviously exist, this is a very fast and accessible method in the over-busy society we are living in.Positive- I have been able to re-connect with old friends and make some new ones. I also save time by being able to message people rather than always make phone calls. It also helps me keep up with what is going on in the lives of my friends as well as my kids.Very positive... These sites have allowed me to re-establish contact with so many people that I normally would have not been able to interact with. These sites allow me to be a daily part of the lives of my family and friends that do not live close to me. I love it! The only negative -- I now have a lot of people on my FB friends list that I do not know that well, so the updates are a lot to weed through...I worry about missing updates from my really good friends and close family (which is the reason I joined FB).I can keep up with old friends and when needed communicate more effectively to perform my job.Although social networking sites have allowed me to find and stay in touch with friends from the past and to make a very few new friends, I would not say that it has had much of an impact at all. I am no more apt to call or go see these friends and I do not get contacted by them anymore than usual. It is just a convenience, so that if the need or want should arise to have personal contact with these people there is a starting place.Positive -- I have found many old friends and acquaintances and am able to keep up with their lives without having to call and/or write (by reading Facebook updates, etc.)Positive; I am far away from where I attended high school and college, and social networking sites are my only readily available means of communication with them.It has been great to reconnect with people I knew growing up but didn't really get to know as well as I should have because of age/grade level differences at the time. The networking sites have had a positive impact on my adult relationships.Positive I can talk to my adult friends.We are using social networking sites almost exclusively to plan our 20th high school reunion. It is a quick and easy way to disseminate information.Social networking sites have had a positive impact on my adult relationships in that they have given me the opportunity to catch up with people I never would have looked up without the medium. They also provide a "
environment to reach out to people when one is unsure of their reception. It has been easier to keep in touch with friends that live a distance away from me. It is also easier to interact with other friends who have hectic jobs or are busy moms, as we can pop on and off of Facebook to leave quick notes and comments that we otherwise would not share with one another.A positive impact, because I am able to experience how people believe about certain issues. I feel more connected to my friends and feel more like I am a part of a group. Mostly positive. It has been great reconnecting and to quickly communicate with family and friends.... the time it takes away from family is probably a negative though.They have enabled me to rekindle friendships with old friends whom I might not otherwise keep in touch with.Positive, I think as your kids start getting older, you naturally start feeling a little less needed, lonely even. This has given me something to do during the times when I feel like no one else needs me or when I feel lonely.Positive. Allows more frequent contact and stirs the desire to know more about what friends are up to.Relationship wide, I met my current wife online. It gave me the chance to learn about someone in a calmer setting instead of in person and allowed a lot of time to go by rather than rush into a relationship. In regards to friends, I find it amusing and interesting meeting people from other cultures, countries and backgrounds. Something that I cannot do offline.I am able to keep in touch with several friends in a way that would be impossible with phone calls or emails. While our interactions are not always deep, I can at least quickly check in with people about whom I care.Overall, I feel that social networking sites have had little impact on my adult relationships. Although I have been in contact with people with whom I haven't communicated in a long time (a positive thing), I also feel there is a bit of a negative since I so infrequently use social networking sites. I sometimes fear that friends will think I am ignoring them instead.I've noticed in my relationship that sometimes it is easier to chat through facebook when in different rooms in the house than to simply walk to the other room and say something. While at the time I believe that this is a positive interaction I can most definitely see how it can be construed as not being so and probably in the future will be a mistake on my part.Positive: It's fun to find friends from my hometown, 2000 miles away. Many people I haven't seen since HS graduation.<br />I feel that they have a positive impact on my adult relationships. They enable me to contact various people from my past/present in one sitting.I have been able to communicate with friends from my past. With all of the crazy things in my life I have been able to stay in touch which has been very positive. Using Facebook has allowed me to keep a closer relationship with my distant friends and family, by skipping over the "
What have you been up to since we last saw each other"
conversation that's always required when we finally see each other (can get that info from looking at profile) and allowing us to keep up the regular banter and joking around that really is what you're missing about them after all, and which is more reflective of our personalities. I think that it has had a positive impact on both my personal & professional relationships. It has allowed me to maintain contact at a distance since I have moved to a few different locations & connect with other professionals in my field of work.<br />I feel there is a positive impact due to being able to communicate with people I may not normally associate with due to living in different areas, having different sets of friends, etc.<br />Yes, it has been a wonderful tool to keep up with friends, family and co-workers. People that I have lost touch with are now back in my life.<br />I love networking sites to keep in touch with friends that I don’t get to talk to as much. It’s a great way to stay in touch and to network with careers and such. <br />Social networking sites have forced me to acknowledge who my "
are. There are pros & cons to this. There are some relationships that have become stronger or that have rekindled and others that have been pushed aside.<br />I do. They have allowed me to reconnect and stay in touch with people I never thought I would be able to maintain contact with. Since it is only possible to maintain a limited number of close friendships in person, social networking allows me to expand the circle of people I still stay in touch with.<br />Positive. I guess people want to keep up with me?<br />I feel that they have afforded me a positive opportunity. I have been able to reconnect with some dear friends of the past that otherwise I would never come into contact with. Now with the current technology, we can "
grow old together"
even though we may live miles apart. <br />I have been able to connect with high school friends that I've lost contact with. I also have family that lives overseas which I communicate with more now because of facebook.<br />No, I have had no tie between my social networking and my adult relations. I have tried using these sites to obtain dates with no success.<br />Positive, because I keep in touch with more people from all over the world.<br />It is nice to connect with folks I have not been in contact with for decades!<br />In some ways I would say social networking sites allow for more free expression... though this can be both good and bad for relationshipsAppendix B<br />Responses to : Some people feel that social networking sites have fostered the idea that friendships can be formed/destroyed quickly and with ease. Explain why you agree/disagree. Please use any examples you may have.<br />This can be true, but it depends on the person and if they take offense easily. I have formed some on-line friendships that I may not have made otherwise and am very prepared to "
the person if necessary. I have found that some people that I knew in high school have changed dramatically (go figure) and because of that I have not friended them or do not connect with them as often. I have also changed dramatically since high school and college and thus they may see me in a different light as well. So yes this statement can be true in some instances.Disagree. I think this gives social networking too much credit. If "
friendships are created/ended any more quickly/easily than real friends I would be surprised. Our cultural of instantaneous gratification probably has more to do with how quickly we make or drop friends than social networking specifically. So does being an adolescent, when friendship bonds are often superficial, utilitarian and brief as they sort out who their "
friends are/will be. I also think this assertion denigrates my ability to distinguish a real and a virtual world. Obviously, I am more easily able to add someone to my "
list online than I am able to make a new friend offline. But adding someone as a friend online and engaging in friendship behaviors with that same person are not necessarily the same. I have over 400 "
on Facebook, people I know, but I do not engage every one of their lives, leave comments on their site, etc.Disagree. At least in my life--it's done nothing but enhance relationships.I disagree because friendships are formed outside of social networking sites. You meet someone on a site but your friendship forms because of common interests and the like.I disagree.I somewhat agree. I have often heard comments made about deleting people off of their networks due to this or that. Also, I have personally seen several occasions where people meet for the first time, and instead of exchanging phone numbers, they ask each other if they are on Facebook or Myspace. This is a much less vulnerable way to make the first contact rather than a phone call. But it also means people add others as "
who they have just met, when in reality, no friendship actually exists.For me personally this does not apply. I really only accept or add friends that I already know or my friends know. I guess this idea could be possible, although I don't see it as a big thing.I am mainly in touch with people I know fairly well through these sites, so I have not experienced this. I have gotten to know "
friends of friends"
in a few situations, but so far, it has been positive.I disagree because as for me I only accept those that I know and for those friends or people that I interact with on a daily basis I attempt to keep up with them by other means such as telephone or visiting.To me it all depends on the maturity of those using social networking sites. If a person is immature and gets "
their feelings hurt"
over something said or another person’s lifestyle or views then it is not the site that is the problem. As far as friendships being formed quickly, there is the potential for those friendships. Social networking sites do give the user the opportunity to get acquainted with someone they may overlook in their everyday life.I disagree. The point of Facebook is to keep in touch with people you know and perhaps even get to know them better. The whole "
thing isn't necessarily connected to real relationships.I have no opinion.I disagree, there is a difference between a true friendship and an acquaintance, and you may have both of these types of people on your friends list. Disagree, I treat all friendships the sameI disagree. I see the site as a way to connect initially, and later we follow up with phone calls, private email (off networking site), and through visits and get-togethers. I don't have an opinion about this one way or the other.I agree. In general, I believe people feel more comfortable saying things in the electronic environment that they would not otherwise say in person. Hateful, rude, or inappropriate comments are easy to post online (i.e., on Facebook), and equally as easy to over-react to. While responsible for the student conduct system on a college campus, we saw an increase in the number of threats and harassing messages on these sites.I agree-social networking sites could quickly form or destroy relationships. I live in Virginia. I dated a girl from Pennsylvania who worked in Florida. We chatted every night for hours at a time. The social networking built our relationship.I think it does allow you to form friendships more quickly than you normally would. You find out more about people faster than you normally would and can interact with people more than you normally would at the start of a friendship. I agree. It is easy to be a little bolder behind the screen. I have friends who have been offended by others and they just delete that person as a friend. No need to work on the relationship, just delete them... this is a negative for me.Agree. Although it has not necessarily been my personal experience, I know of people who will just say yes to friend requests even if they don't know the person and then they wipe out parts of the friends list at the drop of the hat. Also, the way Facebook in particular interfaces with relationship status is unsettling (if you display your status and then circumstances change, you can merely "
the relationship). I think that depends on what kind of person you already are. Your conscious is going to dictate how you act and if you are the type of person who can blow off friends easily without caring you are probably going to do it regardless. It possibly could help you form them more easily I suppose due to the abundance of technological help.I think that because of the anonymity factor, people may form friendships more quickly than in other contexts. Conversely, it is easier to dissolve a friendship because the stress of face-to-face contact is often eliminated. I simply delete u from my friend list, no words are necessary.I agree. I have met people with common interests and have grown my friend base through just common and basic interaction. I have also lost friends due to things being said or done. In general, it's the same way offline as it is online, but online it's just under a larger number of people.I only "
someone that I already know, and I ignore requests from potential problematic connections, such as my youth group kids. I do not make new friends through Facebook; instead, I stay in touch with old friends. I also do not spend an inordinate amount of time messaging people on Facebook. This prevents me from having too many online "
I agree that acquaintances can be formed/destroyed quickly and with ease. Depending on how the social networking site is used, this can be true of the relationships there. However, true friendships have many more nuances that are not so fragile.As somebody who wholeheartedly believes that friendship is something that comes easily in life I would agree with this at least in relation to the formation of friendship. My stance on the destruction of friendship is something that I'm sure will be controversial in that I view some friendships and relationships in general as cancers that need to be excised. While being in relationships/friendships that are not mutually beneficial can highlight benefits in other friendships it also should be terminated so as to foster continued relationships in those that are working or have the greater potential to work.Agree--this has not happened to me (no new friends via Facebook nor destruction of friendships) but I do believe this form of communication can powerfully change relationships (good or bad). I personally know someone whose rekindled friendship with an old friend on Facebook led to an affair. Thus, I use it with GREAT caution. <br />I can only speak for myself, but I believe that the social networking site I use helps me build on the friendships that I have.I would disagree because I only communicate with friends so the relationships have already been established. I have to disagree that I would end a friendship quickly over a website.If you are using these sites to meet people for the first time, I suppose that could be true, but I don't have much experience with that, since I mostly use it to revisit and strengthen relationships I already had or used to have. The idea that friendships can be formed/destroyed quickly and with ease could be true offline as well, in certain environments (social clubs, middle school, politics), if "
is defined loosely and the people involved are a little shallow or immature.I think that this statement may be relevant to a specific emotional maturity level. Social networking sites have not impacted how my relationships have been formed as an adult.It's very easy to form friendships with a click of a button. I disagree. The people who are my friends in Facebook were my friends before FB. I treasure each one. <br />You may see information you might not want to see. It's easy to snoop around peoples profiles and see what they have been doing and who they have been talking to. It can be a negative thing if you are looking with an ulterior motive (i.e., checking in on ex-boyfriends). <br />I have made a conscious decision to be selective in my online friendships. I believe SNS can make relationships seem stronger than they really are or can be used to make small issues larger. I believe SNS create a false sense of relationships for some people.<br />In my experience, these social networking sites have proven that some friendships are not easily destroyed. It has also reminded me that true friendships are not easily maintained, either. Many of the people I have reconnected with over Facebook were very close friends at one point in time, and because of distance, we lost contact. The fact that I have friends who are mutually eager to be in contact again communicates to me that there is still some attachment from the friendship we shared in the past, but I am also reminded that a friendship that exists solely on a social networking site is very limited. Those who I only connect with online may be more in the category of acquaintances than real friends. I think the primary benefit of having at least some contact with those friends, though, is that when we do meet in person, there is still a sense of connection, not awkwardness or bitterness over lost contact. In this way, I believe social networking sites both show the longevity of friendships, and the difficulty in maintaining them. <br />Disagree. If I did not like them to begin with, they would not be on my "
list.<br />I can see how friendships could be destroyed, EXAMPLE: On FB, if comments are posted for everyone to see, two people in conversation may say unpleasantries about another individual or situation and there it is for the whole world to see.<br />I'm old school... so Facebook enhances and revitalizes human relationships that I have or have had in my life. For me it is a conduit to a relationship but not the entire relationship.<br />I agree to an extent with instant communication and the fact that you can view your friend’s page you can see parts of them you can’t pick up in real life and that can lead to tension in your friendship.<br />False. True friendships can never be formed easily. Acquaintances can be formed and / or destroyed quickly, but that is the same with offline relationships as well.<br />I had a friend who recently received a diagnosis of cancer and when I sent her encouraging emails she refused to continue the friendship and when I checked Facebook she had removed herself from my friends list. It was a bit of a shock but certainly let me know that she no longer wanted to be friends.<br />I would say that this is true. You can easily de-friend someone on MySpace or Facebook but it is much more difficult to de-friend someone in real life.<br />Appendix CResponse to: Please share any other thoughts you may have about the impact of social networking sites on your adult relationships.<br />I have reconnected with high school and college friends that I had lost contact with. We have moved around a lot and it has been great to hear what has gone on with people that I had lost contact with.Social networking makes maintaining relationships across distance particularly easier. After college, my friends and I all scattered across the country. Facebook has allowed many of us to reconnect across the distance. I have maintained more consistent and deeper contact, I think, even with friends I live closer to and see more often. Instead of playing phone tag it's easy to drop a comment online to check in, set a get-together, etc. In fact, I think sometimes there is actually more to talk about when we do get together because we have maintained a virtual connection: I can comment on the funny picture they posted, or the pictures of their kids, or whatever.It really is just a hobby for me.I have found unnecessary jealousy in my previous relationship due to my communication with the opposite sex. Other than that it has been positive.N/AI have really enjoyed learning new things about the people I already know and it has been a great way to keep up with events as well.I recently went on a "
girl's weekend trip"
with four other age 40-something women. All but one of us are on FB. I found that we kept unintentionally leaving our friend out by constantly talking about FB (i.e., friends that are on FB, pictures that are posted, etc.)! It became a running joke during our weekend. Until then, I really did not think about what an important way to communicate FB has become for me. My friend is still holding out, though, refusing to join FB! We kept comparing her to people 10-15 years ago who refused to get a cell phone!I think that social networking sites allows for friendships that have been strained due to distances or other avenues to strengthen due to getting to know the person all over again.I really don't see how social networking fosters adult relationships or hinders them for relatively normal and happy adults. It does have the potential to give a sense of belonging to those that are lonely or shy. They can interact in a relatively safe manner and never really put themselves out there for anyone to know until they are ready. For adults using social networking that are already confident in themselves and not necessarily lonely, it is a fun way to keep in touch with friends or to have a little competition on some of the games.I am able to learn more about people who I knew long ago but had lost touch with. Also, it's been a good experiment in not being a snob -- I add people who I didn't hang out with much in high school and don't worry about old social mores and stuff. I'm able to be an adult about relationships with people and not look at it like a popularity contest.It provides me with models of behavior that I can learn from and emulate.I think that the networks, when used properly, can have positive effects on users, it is nice to come home at the end of a stressful day and have a message from a new or old friend that can just be a simple as saying "
. This makes you feel happy that someone is thinking of you, this person may not have time to pick up the phone and have a long conversation, but still wanted you to know you were on their mind. For me, about a third are people I currently know, a third are old friends from high school and elementary schools, and the other third are former students who are now adults and want to keep in touch.I think there is a portion of people who almost become obsessed with checking in on their "
or whatever. It is scary that people can get sucked in like that and allow a website to have that much control of their lives.I find Facebook to be a fun and easy way to keep in touch with my friends.It is interesting to see what pages and games my friends are involved in.I have found that Facebook in particular provides a low-risk environment for flirting (e.g., the "
function and the ability to send messages that seem more casual than e-mail). In my experience, Facebook has been the gateway to more personal interactions (i.e., over the phone or face-to-face).It is what you make it. You can use it to have a positive impact on your life, or use it to enhance the negatives. If you seek out the negative, I'm sure we all know what result you'll have. If you use it to enhance the already positive you can take that and improve your quality of life and I think it is important to remember that your whole life should never revolve around something like this that you are not physically able to be a part of otherwise it will become an addiction.In our busy world, social networking allows us to reconnect with friends and stay connected. It reminds me of the old days when people would visit on the neighbors porch for a brief period - such connection has decreased in face-to-face contact, yet increased in cyber contact, it seems. I have found a carryover effect in my own life in that because of my increased connection with cyber friends, I find myself wanting to connect more frequently with face-to-face friends.The biggest pitfall that I have found with social networking sites is your loss of time with family. I have come close to spending more time online rather than with my own wife and family which is unhealthy for the family structure. It's a very easy trap to fall in to. One of the interesting "
of Facebook is having family members as friends. It's sometimes hard to be honest in a status post when your mother-in-law can see it!None.As an exercise it would be fascinating to take random people and sit them in front of your Facebook account to take a look at the pictures on your friend’s profile starting in the back and moving to the present to see if the impressions that are given are truly representative of your friend. In doing so you might glean a little more insight into the personality types who use social networking sites to determine A) what message they are trying to get across, B) how your friends viewing the pictures have been conditioned to think about people in certain situations, and C) determining the reasons for people joining social networking sites in the first place.I wholeheartedly believe that social networking and technology as a whole have started to reprogram minds of youth to think differently than they have as a past and as such the ideas of traditional family values are not always possible in households where technology is prevalent. In a world where information is just a button away the idea of working hard in a traditional sense is often lost on the user. This could also relate to relationships.It's great if we use it wisely--I do believe many are comfortable sharing anything and everything, and this can cause problems. Otherwise, it's wonderful to catch up with old friends. I think social networking sites are an excellent way to share what is going on in your life. It is so wonderful to be able to read about various friends' adventures. I love being able to write a prayer request as my status and see instant feedback of people praying for that particular situation.I just feel it is an easy way for people to keep up with friends with busy livesMy husband and I both were interested and surprised to note the similar emotional experiences we went through when we first joined Facebook. We went through phases of feeling cautious, incredibly self-conscious, nervous, etc. and ended up feeling more confident--or resigned--about creating and displaying a "
that supposedly summarizes our entire selves, and about our past relationships with others.I think that some view social networking websites as a connection or "
tool, and do not realize the value in utilizing these social media tools for professional development and networking engagement opportunities.I have more friends than I thought I did!Social networking has been a great tool to keep up with friends and find old friends. I think it’s been a positive thing to keep up with friends, and to meet new friends. I love social networking sites. They are great. I recently had a friend live on my couch for 8 weeks while going through a rough time with his girlfriend. One of their biggest "
was relationships they had with people via SNS. I have not found that SNS actually help foster stronger relationships between adults. However, I know many adults (including myself) who find them overwhelming when going through a break-up. You constantly know what the other person is doing or who they are friends with, or what they are feeling. Deleting/de-facing them can seem like cutting them out forever. If you've been dumped, this can feel like giving up. If you are the dumper, it can seem mean, like you don't even want them in your online life. On a different note, I find that I communicate with a very select group of friends on SNS, typically the friends I would call or email on a regular basis anyway. SNS are helpful when planning social events (i.e. my birthday party).In my experience so far, the impact has been positive. They have enabled me to express to people that I do not have time to keep in my close circles that I still think fondly of them, and care what is happening in their lives. I have received the same sentiment from those friends, and I believe that is ultimately a positive benefit to those relationships. Improved. It is nice to keep up with folks who you likeI can see both the positive and the negative side of things! If adults would act like adults, and use these sites for their intended purpose, life would be a great thing but you always have that freak who wants to stick their two cents worth in.It has been positive for me.Again, there is no direct relation between my social networking and my adult relations.I believe that they are a positive influence on us because we can keep up with those individuals that we rarely see or that are so very far away.It is a way to know how the daily routine of life for friends who are far away. Sort of normalizes that they are ok.<br />Appendix DResponse to: Optional Question - Have social networking sites changed the way you think about your upcoming high school reunion(s)?<br />Yes - I want to see people that I didn't care to see before.Actually, it reconstitutes the way I think about a reunion. I have not attended previous reunions and would not likely attend future reunions. But social-networking allows instantaneous and constant "
reunions. I can keep in contact with the same people who I would want to see at a reunion anyway.Hmmm, it has seemingly made more individuals want to see one another. I find that interesting--as it's crossing the high school boundaries (e.g., the "
ones are contacting the "
not so popular"
to get together). Definitely.Being able to see what old classmates have been up to might encourage me more to attend my high school reunionI suppose so. I hadn't really considered this aspect, but it would take away some of the surprise as to how people are doing and how they have changed.It has kind of taken the mystery away..."
I wonder what happened to such-and-such"
...well, now I already know (and seen pictures in most cases). On the positive side -- I feel like I know spouses and families of former classmates a little better, so that may make future reunions more comfortable!Not really...I didn't go to my last reunion due to relationship issues but the social networking sites may actually help to peak interest.Yes. I have to plan mine, and I have about half of the members of my class easily accessible through Facebook. It's going to be much easier to get the word out and make plans this way.It will actually make them easier affairs since there'll be less time spent catching up on things.Absolutely, the stress that I would feel about going to my reunion is now almost non-existence, there is not that awkward "
sorry I haven't talked to you in 20 years"
that's all out of the way, you don't have to spend time catching up, you can just enjoy everyone's company. I will say that I am nervous about seeing some people that I haven't stayed in touch with since high school that are not on Facebook. FB is def. an ice breaker.Absolutely. As I mentioned before, we use it exclusively to plan the reunion. I've had mini reunions since. I love it!No, I didn't go to reunions before I joined and I can't see that changing anytime soon.Yes. I am more interested in seeing some people in person since I have caught up with them on Facebook.No.It has made me more likely to go... one of the reasons I didn't go to my last reunion was because I didn't think anyone would remember me/care that I was there. Where I have been interacting with a lot of these people on facebook, I feel like I am more a part of the group and I know they would remember me if I was there. Yes, I get questioned often about the plans... by the way, I was not a Senior Officer, but somehow I have been put in a position of accepting some responsibility for planning.I hadn't thought of it until just now, but yes! Considering I am connected with so many of my former classmates via Facebook, I may be less inclined to attend my high school reunion because I can see what people look like X years later and get a good sense of where they are and what they are doing now just by logging onto their profile. In a sense, social networking sites like Facebook are a perpetual reunion - one where you can make yourself seem better and more successful than you really are with just a few clicks of the mouse and a little imagination...Really hadn't thought of that before now, but I guess after hearing from everyone, it does make me more willing to see them all because you already know what to expect. You have seen pictures of them and know what they are doing so you know how you measure up to them and that takes away the stress of it all. We all no matter how old we get, worry about measuring up to our peers and worrying about what they think of us. These social networking sites alleviate a lot of that stress.Personally, I would be more inclined to attend one if I had been connecting via internet with peers, rather than go to one "
not knowing who will be there, what they have been up to, etc...In some aspects. The more old classmates I see, the more I see that things have not changed in some, and changes are drastic in others. Until that person is met in person offline, there is still uncertainty to what is expected regarding thoughts and judgments.Great question. I think it might possibly make it more likely for me to go, since I am now "
with more of my old friends from high school.No.Yes-I won't feel so guilty if I don't go, or feel as if I'm missing out--since I am already in touch with so many from my class! :)I don't think I have an upcoming high school reunion.Yes, I am actually looking forward to running into people.Yes, I suppose. I'm able to think about the people I may see with more of a present-day, adult perspective, and seeing them as adults, rather than being thrown back to a high school perspective, wondering who they really are or were, and what they assume(d) about me. Much more fun (and feels more healthy and accurate--who wants to go back to high school dramas? Blech!).I suppose that it makes the high school reunion less "
as many people have re-connected to their peers online prior to this event. I don't think that it changed my view on a high school reunion - I don't think I was ever interested in attending it to be honest.Hopefully there will be more people attend because of contacts made via social networking sites. I wouldn't suggest canceling a reunion. It has made it easier to find people. Nothing can replace seeing a friend or family member in person. The face to face contact is vital to our wellness.I chose not to go to my 10 year reunion last year because I have chosen not to have contact with (most) of my HS classmates. I still have contact with 3 friends from HS, one of them also went to the same college as me and we have remained friendly acquaintances. The other two, I have accepted as "
but have no contact with them and do not keep up with them. I have chosen NOT to use SNS to reconnect with a past that is better off left in the history books.Not really. I have always felt that the people who are most important to me I will already be in contact with, and meeting up with the rest for a couple of hours every 10 years is of limited value to me, especially when there wasn't a strong bond to begin with. Social networking sites have only further solidified the irrelevance of reunions, since they allow closer contact with past friends. I personally prefer networking over a HS reunion, that way, I'm not forced to starve myself to fit into a little black dress that I haven't worn in years, go spend $100.00 on a Updated "
, Spend another $100.00 on leg waxing, make up and all the accessories just so I can go spend money I don't have on a way overpriced meal just to see that everyone else is like me, they've put on a few pounds, they have a few more wrinkles and their kids act like monsters sometimes too......I can sit in my PJ's and talk to each one of them, or be selective (the ones I want to) and I'm not pinned against a wall listening to the Class Geek tell of his latest political venture.....Networking is much better for me...I can pick and choose who I have a conversation with and when it's going to end and I don't have to be rude by seeing someone in person and just walk away.....Which I would probably never do anyway !!Hopefully we will finally have one now that we are more connected!Actually, they have. I may even consider going to one.I actually am more interested in high school reunions now that I have the ability to see though a window into people’s lives from social networking sites.<br />