Symantec has partnered with iKeepSafe, a non-profit foundation dedicated to seeing generations of children grow up safely using technology and the Internet.
Youth are living out their lives online. What they do in the digital environment affects how they feel about themselves and the relationships around them. What they post and how they communicate impacts their future academic and employment opportunities. YOUTH: Technology is a lifestyle. They emotionally connect with each other through their digital devices and web platforms. They are emotionally connected THROUGH their technology.They use these platforms to define their relationships and live out their lives in the digital environment.What youth do with their digital devices affects how they feel about themselves and the relationships around them. It is important to recognize that adults and youth have different relationships with digital technology. PARENTS:Technology is a TOOL.It is not necessarily the vehicle that makes them feel more loved or close to someone.Technology is something that is used for efficiency, to enhance their offline lives. This is why, as caring adults, we need to be in this space.
What is success then? For our child to be: Ethical Responsible Resilient To be resilient means that they know how to respond—to understand expectations, recognize when something goes wrong in the digital environment, and know how to handle it. One of our most important roles as parents is to provide a network of support for the digital environment, particularly when something goes wrong. GUIDANCE FROM PARENTSOver the course of millennia, parents have helped their offspring be successful in new environments by teaching them how to thrive. The only difference with technology is that youth jumped in first. But it is just as essential that parents join them and participate as role models in that space as much as anywhere else.The human brain’s frontal lobe holds the judgment center which is not fully developed until people reach 21-25 years. We can’t expect teens to act like responsible adults without oversight and intervention.
The good news! You don’t have to be a computer expert to protect your child online. By following these three, simpleconcepts, we can help our child to have a more healthy, safe, secure and ethical experience in the digital environment. 3 KEEPs for Parents™KEEP CURRENT. KEEP COMMUNICATING. KEEP CHECKING.™KEEP CURRENT with the technology your child uses. You don’t have to be an expert, but a little understanding goes a long way towards keeping your child safe online. "Friend" them on facebook, and pay attention to who their friends are. Know how to use the reporting and privacy functions, and set an example of flagging inappropriate content or behavior when you see it. KEEP COMMUNICATING with your child about everything they experience on the Internet. Know their lingo, and ask when you don’t understand something. Work to keep the lines of communication open.KEEP CHECKING your child’s Internet activity. Know where they go online. Let them know that you'll keep checking because you want them to understand that the Internet is a public forum and never truly private. Everything they do online contributes to their digital reputation. Help them develop an online reputation that is an asset rather than a liability.These are “evergreen” concepts that apply to all the parenting situations that will arise.
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Parents should have conversations with their kids about their:RELATIONSHIPSREPUTATIONRESILIENCY
We need to help youth recognize our expectation regarding healthy and responsible: CONTACT –whom they connect withCONTENT – what they consume and shareCONDUCT – how they respond and interact digitally. This includes how to be an ethical bystander, willing to report abuse, flag hurtful content and intervene when needed. Also, we want kids to come to us when things are bothering them. Consider using one of the following stories: STORY: A mother whose daughter came to her when someone hacked into her Facebook account. She was able to support her daughter through this difficult time. She helped her daughter contact Facebook and regain control of her account. Had she minimized this situation as being trivial, her daughter would not involve her in future situations. STORY: a 16-year old boy in the UK was chatting online with a girl in Maryland about taking his own life. The girl told her mother who alerted Maryland police, starting a chain that involved a White House Special Agent, the British Embassy in Washington, Scotland Yard, and finally the local Thames Valley Police who managed to narrow down the suspect pool to eight based on a name and a school. The boy had overdosed but was still conscious when authorities found him. His parents had no idea he was considering suicide. Research shows that kids don’t approach adults when things go wrong online because they’re afraid their parent won’t understand and worse they are worried their parents will take away their digital connections. They would rather suffer alone than risk being taken out of the digital space. This is how they emotionally connect. Lastly, children need to understand that they need to be the same person online as they are offline.
We can help our child learn to create an online reputation that is an asset rather than a liability. What our child posts this year will leave a permanent digital footprint that may impact their future opportunities. The following video helps us better understand how we create our own digital reputation and dossier.
To be resilient, youth need to be able to prevent problems and know how to recognize when something goes wrong. They must have strategies around the technologies they are using. They need skills for dealing with difficult situations that will arise as they use the technology. Teens need to know more than just how to behave well online. They need technical skills for dealing with content, privacy, and securing data and devices.
MANAGING VIOLENT AND UNHEALTHY CONTENT Youth need strategies from their parents to help them navigatethe unhealthy and hurtful content they will encounter. Help them understand your expectations around pornography, hate speech, violence, gambling, and sites that promote self-destructive behavior like anorexia, suicide, drug and alcohol abuse. Internet filters and parental controls will help you establish your expectations for content in your home. Even savvy youth who can get around filters need the benefit of knowing what their parents choose to block in their homes. The point of the filter is to set the bar. NOTE: Youth will see inappropriate content and hear about it from other students. There is no way to protect them fully from it: the key is to help them know how to react to it and to come to you for help.Sometimes this is traumatic. We want our children to come to us when they see something that makes them feel uncomfortable or anxious. Talk about personal boundaries with them. Role play situations. This will help them know how to react when they’re exposed to something harmful. Help them learn how to report abuse and to respond to a wide range of concerns: For example, if they are being mistreated, stalked, harassed, OR if they see someone being mistreated. Be an UPstander and say something rather than being a passive bystander.Help kids understand: People do NOT have a constitutional right to use media platforms however they’d like. For example: Facebook prohibits harassment, pornography, hate speech, fraud, and other inappropriate content on its site, and it will intervene when these are flagged. Users who violate the Facebook terms of service agreement will receive a warning or have their account deleted (usually after multiple infractions). Reports are anonymous. Have conversations around theses important topics and help kids and teens know how to respond. If parents don’t discuss these hard topics, the information their children receive will come from peers.
*Development of Generation Safe: Advisory Board*Stats*Corporate Sponsors
Identify the Generation Suite Tools:Resource Library and Professional360 Self AssessmentIncident Response Tool & Flowchart (IRT)
Main Landing PageSign In
Green Buttons will help you find topics of interest [Review and discuss briefly]
Schools and Stakeholders focus
Defining Success for Digital CitizenshipGoal is to help schools grow in each of these six areas.
360 background and global use. (Separate login)
Whole School focus required. 360 will help you assess all the aspects that should be addressed in digital citizenship at your school.
District Administrator role – monitoring progress of schoolsNote improvement actions. Resource links.Look at the 360 Structure Map. [Review map as needed]
[Show benchmark indicators in 360. Explain benchmark.]Medal program: certificates and logos as schools qualify.
Take notes of evidence as your school improves
As you answer questions throughout the survey, it provides you with suggested actions for improvement to assist you in achieving the next level.
Show were reports are generated, how they work.
INCIDENT RESPONSE TOOL: Background
Contribution of expert advice in development
Flowchart – begins with administrator first learning of an incident.
Flowchart – Use case study
Investigate and Incident – use case study
Generation Safe tools will help you build on what you’ve already accomplished in your school. QUESTIONS:Where is your school?Consider the futures timeline: where are you and where can you go from here?What would you like to accomplish?
Protecting schools and children from pornography
PEAC E O F MIN D F O R FAMIL IES O N L IN E PEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIESMarsali Hancock, President ONLINE
Agenda • What we need to know about youth in the digital age • What parents need to know • Strategies for schools: Generation Safe • Keep current: parents, youth, educatorsPEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE
Defining Success Success = Youth become full digital citizens: Ethical Responsible ResilientPEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE
Technical Social PC Viruses Ad Phishing Cyberbullying/ Online Adware Harassment Reputation Tracking/ Data Targeting Aggregation Activity Identity BOTs Malware Tracking Theft Slide Credit: Microsofts Computing Safety IndexPEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE
Strategies for Parents 3 KEEPs for Parents™ Keep Current Keep Communicating Keep CheckingPEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE
Managing Digital Interactions Relationships Reputation ResiliencyPEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE
Managing Digital Interactions Relationships Appropriate Contact Appropriate Content Appropriate ConductPEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE
Managing Digital Interactions ReputationPEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE
Challenges to Safety • Inappropriate Contact: – 7% of 12-14 year olds were asked for nude photos of themselves (Rochester Institute of Technology, 2008) – One-third of teens who have met someone online claim to eventually have intimate relations (Subramanyam, Radha, The N, 2005)PEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE
Challenges to Safety • Dangerous Content: – Violence – Pornography – Promoting self-destructive behaviors like anorexia or cutting – Hate speechPEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE
Violence • Elementary students: kids who play more violent video games become: – more verbally aggressive – more physically aggressive – less helpful to others. (Anderson, Douglas, Buckley, 2007) • In forty minutes of gaming, a youth may witness 180 acts of aggression. • Over 50% of video games reward aggression. (Journal of Broadcasting and Electronic Media, 2003)PEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE
Realities of Pornography • Teen boys report that they use pornography for sex education. (Nielsen Online, 2008) • Many girls say they worry about how they look because of the standard set by porn. (Ibid.) • 2/3 of divorce lawyers say the Internet or pornography played a significant role in the divorces they handled.PEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE
Resiliency—Strategies for Helping • Manage exposure to hurtful, unhealthy, or traumatic content • Manage privacy (settings and apps) • Secure data and devices.PEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE
Resiliency—Manage Exposure • Communicate your expectations for content. • Use filters and parental controls. • Teach strategies—how to react.PEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE
Tools to Manage Media Keep Checking • Filters: K9, Norton Family • Mobil phone settings and limits • AT&Ts Smart Limits • T-Mobiles Web Guard • Verizons Chaperone and Content Filtering • Sprint Nextels Restricted/Unrestricted Web Access • Alltels Axcess WebPEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE
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Inspiring Change in School Culture "Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, concerned citizens can change the world. Indeed it is the only thing that ever has.” Margaret Mead Academic AnthropologistPEACE OF MIND FOR FAMILIES ONLINE