Mindfulness in the context of Collaborative Law Edward H. Ladon, Ph.D. & Barbara Shindell, LCSW CCLP Annual Conference September 20, 2008 Frisco, Colorado

Your Presenters Dr. Ed Ladon is a Clinical & Consulting Psychologist and Mediator. He has longstanding interests in child and family issues and interventions, as well as clinical hypnosis and meditation – particularly as applied in behavioral medicine, stress and anger management, conflict resolution and parent counseling. He is a member of the IACP, CCLP, and MDIC. He obtained his PhD from the University of Virginia, and has been training and coaching professionals in many areas. He was a Clinical Supervisor, and Director of Consultation & Education Services at the Worcester (MA) Youth Guidance Center, and a faculty member at the UMass Medical School, where he trained with Jon Kabat-Zinn at the highly regarded Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Program. FYI, see http://whoisedladon.blogspot.com/ . Barb Shindell, LCSW is a Psychotherapist and Mediator with over twenty years experience helping adults, adolescents, couples, families and groups. She has particular expertise in the areas of parent consultation, parent/child psychotherapy, families dealing with chronic disease, as well as those in transition and divorce. She is a member of the IACP, as well as a leader in the CCLP and MDIC. Barbara holds a BA and an MSSW in Social Work from the University of Wisconsin (Madison). She has served as consultant, program director and supervisor in several domestic and child abuse clinics and has provided Expert Witness testimony for the Marin County (CA) DA’s office. She served on the faculty of The Women’s Therapy Center, a post-graduate training center in the San Francisco Bay Area. For many years, Barb has had a keen interest in Mindfulness and it’s use in Psychotherapy.

Dr. Ed Ladon is a Clinical & Consulting Psychologist and Mediator. He has longstanding interests in child and family issues and interventions, as well as clinical hypnosis and meditation – particularly as applied in behavioral medicine, stress and anger management, conflict resolution and parent counseling. He is a member of the IACP, CCLP, and MDIC. He obtained his PhD from the University of Virginia, and has been training and coaching professionals in many areas. He was a Clinical Supervisor, and Director of Consultation & Education Services at the Worcester (MA) Youth Guidance Center, and a faculty member at the UMass Medical School, where he trained with Jon Kabat-Zinn at the highly regarded Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Program. FYI, see http://whoisedladon.blogspot.com/ .

Barb Shindell, LCSW is a Psychotherapist and Mediator with over twenty years experience helping adults, adolescents, couples, families and groups. She has particular expertise in the areas of parent consultation, parent/child psychotherapy, families dealing with chronic disease, as well as those in transition and divorce. She is a member of the IACP, as well as a leader in the CCLP and MDIC. Barbara holds a BA and an MSSW in Social Work from the University of Wisconsin (Madison). She has served as consultant, program director and supervisor in several domestic and child abuse clinics and has provided Expert Witness testimony for the Marin County (CA) DA’s office. She served on the faculty of The Women’s Therapy Center, a post-graduate training center in the San Francisco Bay Area. For many years, Barb has had a keen interest in Mindfulness and it’s use in Psychotherapy.

Introductions

Agenda What is Mindfulness? The Context of Collaborative Law What are the benefits of developing Mindfulness Skills/Ways? Frequently Asked Questions

What is Mindfulness?

The Context of Collaborative Law

What are the benefits of developing Mindfulness Skills/Ways?

Frequently Asked Questions

What is “MINDFULNESS” ? “ Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way ; on purpose , in the present moment , and nonjudgmentally .” … Jon Kabat-Zinn, PhD

MINDFULNESS: From the Buddhist Tradition Mindfulness is awareness of one's thoughts, actions or motivations ‘ Correct' or ‘Right' Mindfulness is an essential factor in the path …. to enlightenment and liberation

Mindfulness is awareness of one's thoughts, actions or motivations

‘ Correct' or ‘Right' Mindfulness

is an essential factor in the path …. to enlightenment and liberation

“ Bringing one’s complete attention to the present experience … on a moment-to-moment basis.” (Marlatt & Kristeller) “ The non-judgmental observation … of the ongoing stream of internal and external stimuli as they arise.” (Baer) “ Awareness of present experience … with acceptance .” (Germer, Segal, Fulton) Other Definitions

“ Bringing one’s complete attention to the present experience … on a moment-to-moment basis.” (Marlatt & Kristeller)

“ The non-judgmental observation … of the ongoing stream of internal and external stimuli as they arise.” (Baer)

“ Awareness of present experience … with acceptance .” (Germer, Segal, Fulton)

Being AWARE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT … the moment in which you currently find yourself!

MINDFULNESS MEDITATION EXPERIENCED Let’s take a moment …

Let’s take a moment …

PAYING ATTENTION=? SUSTAINED FLEXIBLE Oriented toward SENSATIONS… e.g. Breathing NON-ELABORATIVE OBSERVATION – “beginner’s mind” AWARE SELF-AWARE

SUSTAINED

FLEXIBLE

Oriented toward SENSATIONS… e.g. Breathing

NON-ELABORATIVE

OBSERVATION – “beginner’s mind”

AWARE

SELF-AWARE

IN A PARTICULAR WAY? In STILLNESS… PEACEFULLY… With CALM RELAXED …

In STILLNESS…

PEACEFULLY…

With CALM

RELAXED …

ON PURPOSE? Intentional Deliberate Conscious

Intentional

Deliberate

Conscious

In the PRESENT MOMENT? Putting aside … … the PAST … Not fretting about … the FUTURE Focusing on NOW … this precise instant in time

Putting aside … … the PAST …

Not fretting about … the FUTURE

Focusing on NOW

… this precise instant in time

NONJUDGEMENTALLY? NONEVALUATIVE DISPASSIONATE With EQUANIMITY BALANCED

NONEVALUATIVE

DISPASSIONATE

With EQUANIMITY

BALANCED

Mindfulness Meditation “ CULTIVATION” “ BEGINNING … …“ COMING TO ...KNOW” thru the senses PAUSE Drop into STILLNESS Trusting/OPEN BEING, NON-DOING

“ CULTIVATION”

“ BEGINNING …

…“ COMING TO

...KNOW”

thru the senses

PAUSE

Drop into STILLNESS

Trusting/OPEN

BEING, NON-DOING

THE COLLABORATIVE CONTEXT SPECIALISTS COACHES ATTORNEYS CLIENTS COLLABORATION Threats Assumptions Fears Confusion Judge Group Interaction Relationships Nonverbal Motivations Uncertainty Tears Dyadic Contact

MINDFULNESS MEDITATION EXPERIENCED Let’s again… just take a breath … And allow ourselves to enjoy a moment to ….

Let’s again… just take a breath …

And allow ourselves to enjoy a moment to ….

BENEFITS For Ourselves/Clients Practicing mindfulness helps you: fully present less judgmental less perturbed by and less reactive to unpleasant experiences > aware of what you’re avoiding > self-awareness more connected to self , and to others

fully present

less judgmental

less perturbed by and less reactive to unpleasant experiences

> aware of what you’re avoiding

> self-awareness

more connected to self , and to others

BENEFITS For Ourselves/Clients Practicing mindfulness helps you: learn everything changes, thoughts feelings come go Experience >calm and peacefulness <emotional volatility distinction btwn you and your thoughts >direct contact with world >self-acceptance and self-compassion

learn everything changes, thoughts feelings come go

Experience >calm and peacefulness

<emotional volatility

distinction btwn you and your thoughts

>direct contact with world

>self-acceptance and self-compassion

Benefits for Attorneys According to the WORKGROUP REPORT OF the Law Program (2004), of the Center for Contemplative Mind in Society, http:// www.contemplativemind.org , regular meditation helps develop a MEDITATIVE PERSPECTIVE which can enable attorneys to build greater or deeper: Patience and Sustainability Wisdom Passion Honest Self-Reflection Calmness Sensitive and Realistic Sense of Ethics

Patience and Sustainability

Wisdom

Passion

Honest Self-Reflection

Calmness

Sensitive and Realistic Sense of Ethics

Benefits for Attorneys According to the WORKGROUP REPORT OF the Law Program (2004), of the Center for Contemplative Mind in Society, http:// www.contemplativemind.org , regular meditation helps develop a MEDITATIVE PERSPECTIVE which can enable attorneys to build greater or deeper: Compassion Focus Awareness Honest Self-Reflection Creativity Listening and Communication Skill

Compassion

Focus

Awareness

Honest Self-Reflection

Creativity

Listening and

Communication Skill

Benefits for Therapists Empathy, compassion Focused and present Grounded, centered and composed Balanced approach toward therapeutic outcomes Dispassionate/ Neutral tracking of clients’ process Baer, R. A. (2003). Mindfulness training as a clinical intervention: A conceptual and empirical review. Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice , 10, 125-143. Baer, R. A. (Ed.) (2006). Mindfulness-based treatment approaches: Clinician’s guide to evidence base and applications. San Diego, CA: Elsevier.

Empathy, compassion

Focused and present

Grounded, centered and composed

Balanced approach toward therapeutic outcomes

Dispassionate/ Neutral tracking of clients’ process

Baer, R. A. (2003). Mindfulness training as a clinical intervention: A conceptual and empirical review. Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice , 10, 125-143.

Baer, R. A. (Ed.) (2006). Mindfulness-based treatment approaches: Clinician’s guide to evidence base and applications. San Diego, CA: Elsevier.

Questions? How much time? What if I’m too busy? What’s the best way? Is this a Religion? What if I can’t? YOUR QUESTIONS

How much time?

What if I’m too busy?

What’s the best way?

Is this a Religion?

What if I can’t?

YOUR QUESTIONS

Resources on Mindfulness (Online Videos) Mindfulness in the Law and ADR, A Workshop Discussion with Leonard Riskin, Sponsored by: the Harvard Negotiation Law Review, the Program on Negotiation at Harvard Law School, the Harvard Negotiation Project, the Harvard Law School Office of Student Life Counseling, and the Harvard Negotiation Research Project. (February 27, 2002). See: http://www.pon.harvard.edu/news/2002/riskin_mindfulness.php3 “ Coming to Our Senses”- Presentation at UCSD Medical School by Jon Kabat-Zinn (Feb.2008) at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qvXFxi2ZXT0&feature=related “ Mindfulness Meditation” - Presentation at Google “University” by Jon Kabat-Zinn (2007) at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3nwwKbM_vJc&feature=related

Mindfulness in the Law and ADR, A Workshop Discussion with Leonard Riskin, Sponsored by: the Harvard Negotiation Law Review, the Program on Negotiation at Harvard Law School, the Harvard Negotiation Project, the Harvard Law School Office of Student Life Counseling, and the Harvard Negotiation Research Project. (February 27, 2002). See: http://www.pon.harvard.edu/news/2002/riskin_mindfulness.php3

“ Coming to Our Senses”- Presentation at UCSD Medical School by Jon Kabat-Zinn (Feb.2008) at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qvXFxi2ZXT0&feature=related

“ Mindfulness Meditation” - Presentation at Google “University” by Jon Kabat-Zinn (2007) at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3nwwKbM_vJc&feature=related

Research on Mindfulness (mostly in health and education) See the Research section of the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine Healthcare and Society at the UMass Medical Center: http://www.umassmed.edu/Content.aspx?id=42066 For a very comprehensive research BIBLIOGRAPHY on articles relevant to Mindfulness, go to: http://marc.ucla.edu/workfiles/pdfs/MARC_biblio_0808.pdf at the Mindfulness Awareness Research Center at UCLA . For current federally funded clinical trials information, go to http:// clinicaltrials.gov/ct/gui and type in “Mindfulness.”

See the Research section of the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine Healthcare and Society at the UMass Medical Center: http://www.umassmed.edu/Content.aspx?id=42066

For a very comprehensive research BIBLIOGRAPHY on articles relevant to Mindfulness, go to: http://marc.ucla.edu/workfiles/pdfs/MARC_biblio_0808.pdf at the Mindfulness Awareness Research Center at UCLA .

For current federally funded clinical trials information, go to http:// clinicaltrials.gov/ct/gui and type in “Mindfulness.”

Resources for Therapists Baer R.E., 2005, Mindfulness-Based Treatment Approaches , First Edition: Clinician’s Guide to Evidence Base and Applications (Practical Resources for the Mental health Professional). Academic Press. Kabat-Zinn, J. (1994) Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life. New York: Hyperion. Kabat-Zinn, J. (2005) Coming to Our Senses: Healing Ourselves and the World Through Mindfulness. New York: Hyperion. Kabat-Zinn, J. (2001) Mindfulness Meditation for Everyday Life. Piatkus. Santorelli, S. (1999) Heal Thyself: Lessons on Mindfulness in Medicine, Bell. Tower. Segal Z.V., Williams J.M.G. & Teasdale J.D. (2002) Mindfulness–based Cognitive Therapy for Depression . A New Approach to Preventing Relapse. Guilford Press. Williams J.M.G., Segal Z.V., Teasdale J.D. & Kabat-Zinn J. (2007) The Mindful Way through Depression. Guilford Press. CALL Ed Ladon to Discuss – 303.905.5566 (M)

Baer R.E., 2005, Mindfulness-Based Treatment Approaches , First Edition: Clinician’s Guide to Evidence Base and Applications (Practical Resources for the Mental health Professional). Academic Press.

Kabat-Zinn, J. (1994) Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life. New York: Hyperion.

Kabat-Zinn, J. (2005) Coming to Our Senses: Healing Ourselves and the World Through Mindfulness. New York: Hyperion.

Kabat-Zinn, J. (2001) Mindfulness Meditation for Everyday Life. Piatkus.

Santorelli, S. (1999) Heal Thyself: Lessons on Mindfulness in Medicine, Bell. Tower.

Segal Z.V., Williams J.M.G. & Teasdale J.D. (2002) Mindfulness–based Cognitive Therapy for Depression . A New Approach to Preventing Relapse. Guilford Press.

Williams J.M.G., Segal Z.V., Teasdale J.D. & Kabat-Zinn J. (2007) The Mindful Way through Depression. Guilford Press.

CALL Ed Ladon to Discuss – 303.905.5566 (M)

MINDFULNESS MEDITATION EXPERIENCED Finally, let’s take one more moment …

Finally, let’s take one more moment …

Follow-Up Both Ed and Barbara can be reached at their practice, Behavioral Healthcare at Lowry, by phone 303-344-2425 or by email [email_address] / [email_address] We will be delighted to hear from you if you have any questions, would like to join a Mindfulness Study Group at our offices, or wish to start one in your office. Similarly, please give us a call if we can help you out with any training or consultation, or you merely want to discuss a possible referral.

Both Ed and Barbara can be reached at their practice, Behavioral Healthcare at Lowry, by phone 303-344-2425 or by email [email_address] / [email_address]

We will be delighted to hear from you if you have any questions, would like to join a Mindfulness Study Group at our offices, or wish to start one in your office.

Similarly, please give us a call if we can help you out with any training or consultation, or you merely want to discuss a possible referral.