What’s coaching? NOT consulting, advising or mentoring Client owns the agenda Client has the answersPhoto: Seth Anderson
Self-coaching? 99% of coaching = Self-coaching 91% of engagements < 18 months High demand, limited resourcesPhoto: Seth Anderson
Self-coaching? NOT a solitary experience “Coaching team” is key Augments other forms of supportPhoto: Seth Anderson
Self-engagement Perspective on ourselves Practices that support learningPhoto: lian xiaoxiao
Perspective Work in progress Open to learning Carol Dweck: MindsetPhoto: jm3
Carol Dweck: Mindset Fixed Growth Talent & intelligence are Talent & intelligence can inherent traits be developed Mistakes are failures or Mistakes are learning character flaws opportunities Negative emotional Pay close attention to response to mistakes mistakes & learn morewww.j.mp/dweck99
Consider…In what ways do I have a fixed mindset?Where could I shift to a growth mindset?
Practices Reflection Conversation (“coaching team”) Documentation (in any form)Photo: Rollan Budi
Consider…What opportunities do I have to reflect?Who could be on my coaching team?How might I document my experience?
Goal-setting When we are… Committed Able Unconflicted …goals support performancePhoto: John Trainor
Goal-setting However… Goals can diminish motivation & enjoyment Learning goals may trump performance goals Threatening goals are counter-productive Photo: John TrainorPhoto: John Trainor
Goal-setting Effective goals… Generate feedback Heighten commitment Don’t obscure the big picture Photo: John TrainorPhoto: John Trainor
Consider…What is a current goal of mine?How could this goal help me get started?How might this goal demotivate me?
Taking action Resistance & motivation Nir Eyal: Desire Engine BJ Fogg: Behavior Model Principles of changePhoto: Christian Senger
Gas or brakes? Resistance Motivation Healthy prudence Healthy ambition Trusted intuition Aspirational goalsUseful Satisfaction with Drive to overcome the present obstacles Need for rest or calm Determined “grit” Lethargy or inertia Unchecked drives Lack of confidence Unchallenged Not or resilience beliefs (I must…) Excessive caution Compulsions or risk-aversion Social pressure
BJ Fogg: Behavior Model High Motivation Triggers Work Triggers Activation Low Fail Threshold Low Ability Highwww.behaviormodel.org
Principles of change 1. Break down big changes into tiny steps 2. Celebrate small victories 3. Experiment to test assumptions 4. Build skills through parallel processes 5. Start small & scale upPhoto: bhav.bhav
Consider…What forms of motivation am I feeling?What forms of resistance?What do these models suggest for me?What triggers might be useful?What change principles could I apply?
Assessment One form of documentation Data as a trigger Don’t Break the ChainPhoto: Stephen Heron
Don’t Break the Chain Photo: Stephen Heron
Don’t Break the Chain Photo: Stephen Heron
Assessment To track or not to track? Goals & (de)motivationPhoto: Stephen Heron
Values & vision Self-coaching is the how Our values & vision are the why Developed over timePhoto: Muhamed Muha
Consider…What values are reflected in my goal?What’s my vision for the future?
Self-acceptance The self-improvement trap Balance aspiration & acceptancePhoto: Gideon Tsang
Consider…What will I take away from this session?What’s the next step I want to take?When will I do it?
Thank you! Read more on self-coaching at www.edbatista.com/self-coaching.htmlPhoto: Seth Anderson
www.edbatista.comPhotos:Slides 1, 4-6 & 31: Lifeguard Chairs by Seth Anderson, www.flickr.com/photos/swanksalot/4215424034/Slide 3: Compass (Agenda) by Theresa Thompson, www.flickr.com/photos/theresasthompson/7163227255/Slide 7: Mirror Image (Self-engagement) by lian xiaoxiao, www.flickr.com/photos/lanx/204766223/Slide 8: Traffic Cones (Perspective) by jm3, www.flickr.com/photos/jm3/2644059971/in/photostream/Slide 11: Golf Swing (Practices) by Rollan Budi, www.flickr.com/photos/rollanb/2972392183/Slides 13-15: Archer (Goal-setting) by John Trainor, www.flickr.com/photos/trainor/2902023575/Slide 17: Barber (Taking action) by Christian Senger, www.flickr.com/photos/30928442@N08/7120592995/Slide 21: Tram Lights (Principles of change) by bhav.bhav, www.flickr.com/photos/bhavbhav/2373855409/Slides 23 & 26: Chain (Assessment) by Stephen Heron, www.flickr.com/photos/sbh/3940566486/Slide 27: Photographer (Values & vision) by Muhamed Muha, www.flickr.com/photos/muha/1016691310/Slide 29: Hug (Self-acceptance) by Gideon Tsang, www.flickr.com/photos/gideon/436065491/