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Startup Communication, May 2014
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Startup Communication, May 2014

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A condensed version of the slides I used for a workshop with a startup management team on communication, feedback, and group norms.

A condensed version of the slides I used for a workshop with a startup management team on communication, feedback, and group norms.

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  • 1. Startup Photo by Heisenberg Media [link] communication Ed Batista May 5, 2014
  • 2. Executive coach Instructor @ Stanford GSB www.edbatista.com blogs.hbr.org/ed-batista HBR Guide to Coaching Your Employees Who am I?
  • 3. Photo by Alex Eflon [link] Where are we 1:1 communication Group norms You & your colleagues going?
  • 4. How will we Concepts Exercises & debriefs 1:1 feedback get there? Photo by Chloe Fan [link]
  • 5. Startups as human systems Photo by Heisenberg Media [link] Complex group dynamics Communication = survival Feedback = learning Relationships matter
  • 6. Startups as human systems Photo by Heisenberg Media [link] Think about this team… How are you communicating? How would you like to communicate?
  • 7. Concepts #1 Today’s headline The simplest feedback model Feelings The net Photo by Lee Nachtigal [link]
  • 8. The headline Feedback is stressful So criticize with skill & give more heartfelt praise Photo by Garry Knight [link]
  • 9. The simplest When you do [X], I feel [Y]. feedback model Photo by Ed Yourdon [link]
  • 10. The simplest When you do [X], I feel [Y]. feedback model
  • 11. Feelings Disclosing feelings = vulnerable But feelings  influence And vulnerability  closeness Comfort with discomfort Photo by Rebecca Krebs [link]
  • 12. The net David Bradford How to avoid triggering defensiveness? How to increase perceptions of fairness? Photo by The Mighty Tim Inconnu [link] Read More
  • 13. My behavior… Actions Statements Non-Verbals Needs Motives Intentions Feelings Reactions Responses The net Me and my… You and your… Photo by The Mighty Tim Inconnu [link]
  • 14. The net Stay on our side of the net Focus on observed behavior Disclose our response When you do [X], I feel [Y]. Photo by The Mighty Tim Inconnu [link]
  • 15. Concepts #2 Social threat SCARF model Relationships The net (again) Photo by Lee Nachtigal [link]
  • 16. Can I give you Photo by Robbie Grubbs [link] some feedback?
  • 17. Feedback and Photo by Mykl Roventine [link] social threat
  • 18. Threat response aka “Fight or flight” Physiological signs? Emotional signs? Photo by William Warby [link]
  • 19. Threat response Cognitive impairment… Decision-making Problem-solving Collaboration
  • 20. Social threat (Some) social situations ≈ Physical threats Many times/day Most common location?
  • 21. Social threat A problem… Decision-making Problem-solving Collaboration All affect communication Photo by Heisenberg Media [link]
  • 22. SCARF model Photo by Andrew Vargas [link] Read More David Rock What social situations trigger a threat response?
  • 23. SCARF model Status Certainty Autonomy Relatedness Fairness Read More
  • 24. Use the model When giving feedback… Be mindful of status Minimize uncertainty Maximize autonomy Build the relationship* Play fair* Photo by Andrew Vargas [link]
  • 25. Use the model When getting feedback… Recognize our threat response Manage our emotions (Norms help*)
  • 26. Photo by Harsha KR [link] Relationships John Gottman What characterizes successful relationships? Read More
  • 27. Relationships Feeling known by the other A culture of appreciation Responding to “bids” Mutual influence
  • 28. 5:1 positive to negative “Emotional bank account” Relationships & conflict Photo by Connor Tartar [link]
  • 29. Startups as human systems Think about your teammates… How’s your emotional bank account? What are you doing to build the relationship? Photo by Heisenberg Media [link]
  • 30. The net How to minimize defensiveness? How to increase sense of fairness? Photo by The Mighty Tim Inconnu [link]
  • 31. Photo by The Mighty Tim Inconnu [link] My behavior… Actions Statements Non-Verbals Needs Motives Intentions Feelings Reactions Responses The net Me and my… You and your… Photo by The Mighty Tim Inconnu [link]
  • 32. Photo by The Mighty Tim Inconnu [link] The net Stay on our side of the net Focus on observed behavior Disclose our response Diminish social threat & defensiveness Increase sense of fairness Photo by The Mighty Tim Inconnu [link]
  • 33. Startups as human systems Think about your teammates… When do you cross their net? When do they cross yours? Photo by Heisenberg Media [link]
  • 34. Photo by Lee Nachtigal [link] Concepts #3 Emotional intelligence & groups Talking about feelings Group norms
  • 35. EQ and groups Why care? Effective teams Participation, cooperation, collaboration Can’t mandate behavior Photo by Woodleywonderworks [link] Read More
  • 36. EQ and groups Essential conditions… Mutual trust Group identity (feeling of belonging) Group efficacy (belief in value of the team) Strongly affected by group EQ Photo by Woodleywonderworks [link]
  • 37. EQ and groups Individual EQ Emotional awareness Emotion regulation (≠ suppression) Inward (one’s own emotions) Outward (others’ emotions) Photo by Woodleywonderworks [link]
  • 38. EQ and groups High EQ individuals ≠ High EQ group Group norms determine group EQ Create awareness of emotion Help regulate emotion Photo by Woodleywonderworks [link]
  • 39. Startups as human systems Think about how you show up on this team… How aware are you of your emotions? How well do you regulate your emotions? Photo by Heisenberg Media [link]
  • 40. Talking about Affect labeling Amygdala Talking disrupts negative emotion Talking about emotion > Thinking about emotion feelings Photo by Andrew Yee [link] Read More
  • 41. Talking about Group norms Norms define what’s normative Can we talk about feelings here? Overcome embarrassment feelings Photo by Andrew Yee [link]
  • 42. Our norms Consider company norms Create awareness of emotions Help regulate emotions Read More Photo by jm3 [link]
  • 43. We never… We always… 1. Spend time getting to know others personally. Norms that create awareness
  • 44. We never… We always… 2. Regularly ask how others are doing. Norms that create awareness
  • 45. We never… We always… 3. Share thoughts and emotions with others in the moment. Norms that create awareness
  • 46. We never… We always… 4. Ask others who have been quiet in a discussion what they think. Norms that create awareness
  • 47. We never… We always… 5. Fully explore others’ resistance to our decisions. Norms that create awareness
  • 48. We never… We always… 6. Set aside time to discuss and evaluate our own effectiveness. Norms that create awareness
  • 49. We never… We always… 7. Acknowledge and discuss the feeling in the group in the moment. Norms that create awareness
  • 50. We never… We always… 1. Have clear ground rules for productive behavior in meetings. Norms that help regulate
  • 51. We never… We always… 2. Call out behavior that violates those ground rules. Norms that help regulate
  • 52. We never… We always… 3. Express acceptance of others’ emotions. Norms that help regulate
  • 53. We never… We always… 4. Make time to discuss difficulties within the team and the emotions they generate. Norms that help regulate
  • 54. We never… We always… 5. Use playfulness to acknowledge and relieve stress. Norms that help regulate
  • 55. We never… We always… 6. Express optimism about the team’s capabilities. Norms that help regulate
  • 56. We never… We always… 7. Provide others with positive feedback in the moment. Norms that help regulate
  • 57. Our norms What norms do we have? What norms do we need? What might we do as a team? Photo by jm3 [link]
  • 58. Concepts #4 Positive feedback Mindset Soft start 5 levels Photo by Lee Nachtigal [link]
  • 59. Positive feedback A paradox So important So often ineffective What’s wrong? Photo by Aaron Matthews [link]
  • 60. Positive feedback We may not trust it We may even resent it We often praise the wrong things Read More
  • 61. Positive feedback Don’t praise to buffer criticism Use a soft start*
  • 62. Positive feedback Don’t praise to overcome resistance Use other influence tactics
  • 63. Positive feedback Don’t praise ability Praise effort and persistence
  • 64. Carol Dweck How do we feel about our abilities? How do we feel about our mistakes? Mindset Photo by Tuomas Puikkonen [link] Read More
  • 65. Talent & intelligence are inherent traits Mistakes are failures or character flaws Negative emotional response to mistakes Talent & intelligence can be developed Mistakes are learning opportunities Pay close attention to mistakes & learn more Fixed Growth Mindset Read More
  • 66. Soft start Photo by Phil McElhinney [link] Not like this
  • 67. Soft start Photo by OakleyOriginals [link] Like this
  • 68. Soft start Begin with positive intent (But don’t bullshit) Emphasize mutual goals Be mindful of your stress Read More
  • 69. 5 levels Photo by Rita Willaert [link] Richard Francisco Increasing levels of meaning, value and risk Read More
  • 70. 5 levels1: Ritual 2: Extended Ritual 3: Content 4: Feelings About Content 5: Feelings About Each Other Photo by Rita Willaert [link]
  • 71. 5 levels 5: Feelings About Each Other Hardest Riskiest Most meaningful Photo by Rita Willaert [link]
  • 72. Remember… Challenge yourself Photo by Daniel Oines [link]
  • 73. Closing Photo by Jun Seita [link]

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