IT’S
A GUY’S
THING
Self Introduction
Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Clinical Sexologist
• Doctorate in Human Sexuality
• Masters in Public Policy and
Ma...
AGENDA
• Introduction
• Sex Therapy
• Female Dysfunctions
• Male Dysfunctions
• Practical Exercises
• Communication Tips
•...
Joy Davidson - PhD, a New
York psychologist and sex
therapist
1. Sex Relieves Stress
2. Sex Boosts Immunity
3. Sex Burns C...
Common Myths about Sexuality
Sex means
sexual
intercourse
is not
natural, pro
per, or
necessary
Sex is for
younger
people
...
Misconceptions of
Sexual Function & Satisfaction
• Men want sex more than
women
• Women care about
intimacy more than men
...
Facts about Sexual Function
• Both women and men enjoy sex /
intimacy
• Fulfilling sex often requires
planning / effort
• ...
• A Bio/ Psycho/ Social
modality
• Looks at multi-dimensional
aspects of sexual expression
 Individual
 Relational/ Inte...
• Lifelong or acquired
• Symptom or situational
• Unresolved history of sexual
abuse or trauma
• Body image/ Self-esteem
i...
• Anger
• Poor Communication
• Criticism
• Neurotic Interactions
• Incompatible Sexual
Fantasies
• Alcoholism & Sexual
Abu...
Medical Factors
• Chronic medical illness
• Medications
• Pelvic trauma or surgery
• Neurological illness
• Endocrinologic...
Factors Influencing
Sexual Response
• Vascular (Blood Vessels)
• Neurological (Brain)
• Hormonal
• Psychological (Mental
m...
Female Sexual Dysfunctions
Female Sexual Dysfunctions
• Hypoactive Sexual Desire
Disorder
• Sexual Aversion Disorder
• Sexual Arousal Disorder
• Fema...
Male Sexual Dysfunctions
Male Sexual Dysfunctions
American Psychiatric Association. DSM-IV-TR: Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorder...
My penis is so
polite, it stands
up so girls
have a place to
sit down
Erectile Disorders
Persistent or recurrent
inability to attain, or
maintain erection until
completion of the
sexual activi...
1. Change your lovemaking schedule.
2. Pay attention to the rhythms of his
body.
3. Look for new positions that
maximize b...
Keesling, Barbara (2000) All Night Long, M Evans and Company Inc, New York, USA
H
O
M
E
R
E
M
E
D
I
E
S
TWO
7. Have sex be...
Male Ejaculation Disorders
• Premature ejaculation
• Inhibited ejaculation
 Retarded
ejaculation
 Retrograde
ejaculation...
Part 2
Move It,
Move it
Practical Exercises
K
E
G
E
L
S
One
Practical Exercises
S
H
A
K
E
Two
DOWN
Practical Exercises
P
E
L
V
I
C
Thr
ee
Thrusts
Practical Exercises
H
I
P
Fou
r
CIRCLES
Practical Exercises
B
O
D
Y
Five
WAVE
Practical Exercises
B
U
T
T
E
R
F
L
Y
Six
BREATHING
Sunflower Lotus
7%-38%-55% rule by Albert Mehrabian
55%
7%
38%
0%
Effectiveness of Communication
Non-Verbal Cues Spoken Words Tone of Voice
Communication Tips
Communicate
More..
Communication Tips
Communicate about the way
you communicate
Communication Tips
Don’t need
to solve the
world’s
mysteries
Communication Tips
Know that it’s
A for Effort
Sexual
Enhancement
MORE!
We Need
TECHNIQUES
Sat Aug 31 - Blow His Mind for
Ladies
Sat & Sun Sept 21 & 22 – Sexual
Attitude Restructuring
Private Sexuality Coaching...
Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Clinical Sexologist
Eros Coaching Pte Ltd
Website:
www.eroscoaching.com
Email:
drmarthalee@eroscoachin...
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This talk covers what every authentic male should know about their common sexual concerns. How would you overcome early ejaculation, erectile difficulties and delayed ejaculation or low sexual desire? Taking charge of your sexual life involves preparing yourself mentally, emotionally and physically for a lifetime for eros.

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Founder of Eros Coaching, Dr Martha Lee is a Clinical Sexologist who does sexuality and intimacy coaching. Dr Lee incorporates a blend of conventional and alternative approaches and draws upon a variety of styles and techniques to support each client as they work to resolve both current problems and long-standing patterns. Often cited by local media outlets, Dr Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, Men’s Health Malaysia, and the Durex Singapore Facebook page. She has a weekly column with PublicHouse.sg and blogs for Good Vibrations Magazine. She was recognised as one of the ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of the ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011.

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It's a Guy's Thing

  1. 1. IT’S A GUY’S THING
  2. 2. Self Introduction Dr. Martha Tara Lee Clinical Sexologist • Doctorate in Human Sexuality • Masters in Public Policy and Management • Bachelor of Arts (Comm) • Cert in Sex Therapy • Cert in Practical Counselling • Cert in Life Coaching
  3. 3. AGENDA • Introduction • Sex Therapy • Female Dysfunctions • Male Dysfunctions • Practical Exercises • Communication Tips • Sexual Enhancement
  4. 4. Joy Davidson - PhD, a New York psychologist and sex therapist 1. Sex Relieves Stress 2. Sex Boosts Immunity 3. Sex Burns Calories 4. Sex Improves Cardiovascular Health 5. Sex Boosts Self-Esteem 6. Sex Improves Intimacy 7. Sex Reduces Pain 8. Sex Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk 9. Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles 10. Sex Helps You Sleep Better
  5. 5. Common Myths about Sexuality Sex means sexual intercourse is not natural, pro per, or necessary Sex is for younger people Sex should be spontaneous A firm penis is a requirement for satisfying sex Quality sex ends with a orgasm Men should initiate sexual activity
  6. 6. Misconceptions of Sexual Function & Satisfaction • Men want sex more than women • Women care about intimacy more than men • If you love your partner, sex will be wonderful • My partner should know what I want • Good sex is spontaneous • Movies and TV portray sex as it really is • Bigger is always better
  7. 7. Facts about Sexual Function • Both women and men enjoy sex / intimacy • Fulfilling sex often requires planning / effort • Changes in function occur with life stress, aging, illness, and many medications • Lifestyle adaptations preserve sexual satisfaction in many circumstances Laumann EO, Paik A, Rosen RC. Sexual dysfunction in the United States: prevalence and predictors. JAMA 1999;281:537-544.
  8. 8. • A Bio/ Psycho/ Social modality • Looks at multi-dimensional aspects of sexual expression  Individual  Relational/ Interpersonal  Psychosocial  Biological IS
  9. 9. • Lifelong or acquired • Symptom or situational • Unresolved history of sexual abuse or trauma • Body image/ Self-esteem issues • Psychiatric history • Stress, anxiety, sadness • Relationship conflict • Partner’s sexual dysfunction Psychosocial Issues
  10. 10. • Anger • Poor Communication • Criticism • Neurotic Interactions • Incompatible Sexual Fantasies • Alcoholism & Sexual Abuse • Phobic Avoidance of Sexual Intercourse • Unconscious Conflict About Sex, Commitment, Pregn ancy • Sexual Abuse Issues Relationship Problems
  11. 11. Medical Factors • Chronic medical illness • Medications • Pelvic trauma or surgery • Neurological illness • Endocrinological illness • Infection/ Sexually transmitted diseases • Depression/ Major mental illness
  12. 12. Factors Influencing Sexual Response • Vascular (Blood Vessels) • Neurological (Brain) • Hormonal • Psychological (Mental mind) • Relational • Psychosexual skills
  13. 13. Female Sexual Dysfunctions
  14. 14. Female Sexual Dysfunctions • Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder • Sexual Aversion Disorder • Sexual Arousal Disorder • Female Orgasm Disorder • Sexual Pain Disorder  Dyspareunia  Vaginismus
  15. 15. Male Sexual Dysfunctions
  16. 16. Male Sexual Dysfunctions American Psychiatric Association. DSM-IV-TR: Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 4th edn. Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Press: 2000 • Inhibited Sexual Desire Disorder • Sexual Aversion Disorder • Dyspareunia • Premature Ejaculation • Inhibited Ejaculation • Erectile Disorder
  17. 17. My penis is so polite, it stands up so girls have a place to sit down
  18. 18. Erectile Disorders Persistent or recurrent inability to attain, or maintain erection until completion of the sexual activity, an adequate erection. – Primary/ Lifelong – Secondary/ Acquired
  19. 19. 1. Change your lovemaking schedule. 2. Pay attention to the rhythms of his body. 3. Look for new positions that maximize blood circulation to his penis. 4. Standby lube. 5. If on top, the woman should pay attention to how the weight of her body may be cutting off circulation to his penis. 6. If erection window is narrowing, let the foreplay focus on you. Keesling, Barbara (2000) All Night Long, M Evans and Company Inc, New York, USA H O M E R E M E D I E S ONE
  20. 20. Keesling, Barbara (2000) All Night Long, M Evans and Company Inc, New York, USA H O M E R E M E D I E S TWO 7. Have sex before meals. 8. Don’t just lie there, do something. 9. If he’s tired, encourage him to take a twenty-minute nap. 10. Don’t ask: ‘What’s wrong?’ 11. Don’t rush. 12. Minimize distractions. 13. Pay attention to her geometry 14. Practice in the off-season. 15. Watch the thermostat.
  21. 21. Male Ejaculation Disorders • Premature ejaculation • Inhibited ejaculation  Retarded ejaculation  Retrograde ejaculation  Inhibited orgasm
  22. 22. Part 2 Move It, Move it
  23. 23. Practical Exercises K E G E L S One
  24. 24. Practical Exercises S H A K E Two DOWN
  25. 25. Practical Exercises P E L V I C Thr ee Thrusts
  26. 26. Practical Exercises H I P Fou r CIRCLES
  27. 27. Practical Exercises B O D Y Five WAVE
  28. 28. Practical Exercises B U T T E R F L Y Six BREATHING
  29. 29. Sunflower Lotus
  30. 30. 7%-38%-55% rule by Albert Mehrabian 55% 7% 38% 0% Effectiveness of Communication Non-Verbal Cues Spoken Words Tone of Voice
  31. 31. Communication Tips Communicate More..
  32. 32. Communication Tips Communicate about the way you communicate
  33. 33. Communication Tips Don’t need to solve the world’s mysteries
  34. 34. Communication Tips Know that it’s A for Effort
  35. 35. Sexual Enhancement
  36. 36. MORE! We Need TECHNIQUES
  37. 37. Sat Aug 31 - Blow His Mind for Ladies Sat & Sun Sept 21 & 22 – Sexual Attitude Restructuring Private Sexuality Coaching Service Offerings
  38. 38. Dr. Martha Tara Lee Clinical Sexologist Eros Coaching Pte Ltd Website: www.eroscoaching.com Email: drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com

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