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Polyamorous Behaviors of Non-Poly Identified Peoples
Young Luo Polygynous Family
 
Husband 2nd Wife 4th Wife 3rd Wife 1st Wife Grandmother & Young Children Main Entrance Luo Compound Unmarried Sons Private...
Luo Compound -- Main Entrance
Luo Compound--Private Entrance
Maasai Polygynous Triad
Maasai Compound
Huli Polygynist
Huli Men’s House
Huli Co-Wives House
Huli Men
Enga Women with their Pigs
Sweet Potato Garden
African-American Triad
Multiple Partner Survey March 19 – April 4, 2008 (2 ½ weeks) 716 completed surveys  (99.6% completion) 50 Questions
Poly Cultural Conventions <ul><li>Embrace Poly Culture </li></ul><ul><li>Jealousy Management </li></ul><ul><li>Compersion ...
Age Average  –  39  Median  –  38 Mode  –  38 Range  19-74
Sex
Sexual Orientation
Education
Current Religious Practice
Number of Partners
Relationship Patterns
Residence Patterns
Marital Status
Polyamory Affiliation <ul><li>Books and Publications </li></ul><ul><li>Leaders and Spokespeople </li></ul><ul><li>Language...
Books and Publications <ul><li>Love without Limits  – 61% </li></ul><ul><li>The Ethical Slut  – 84% </li></ul><ul><li>Lovi...
Leaders and Spokespeople <ul><li>Deborah (Taj) Anapol – 45% </li></ul><ul><li>Oberon Zell – 33%  </li></ul><ul><li>Robyn T...
Language & Cultural  Practices <ul><li>NRE (New Relationship Energy) – 67% </li></ul><ul><li>Compersion – 67% </li></ul><u...
Definitions of Polyamory <ul><li>Responsible/ethical/honest non-monogamy </li></ul><ul><li>Having sex with more than one m...
More Poly Definitions <ul><li>Believing that we can love more than one person at the same time, with or without sexual eng...
Do you experience jealousy when your partner/lover appears interested in someone new? <ul><li>Females – 54% </li></ul><ul>...
When my partner tells me what a good time they had with one of their lovers, I feel happy for them.   <ul><li>Females – 76...
It varies: sometimes I'm genuinely happy for them (both), sometimes I have to force myself to be realistic so as to not fe...
More Compersion  Comments <ul><li>It's complicated. :-) I am happy that my partner had a great time. But that doesn't mean...
I try to limit my activities with other lovers so that they will not replace/displace my primary relationship . <ul><li>Fe...
As for sharing intimate details about other partners/lovers, I find that  “ don ’ t ask, don ’ t tell ”  is the best pract...
When I connect with someone new I find it very difficult to interact romantically with my other partner(s). <ul><li>Female...
My dream/current reality is being part of a residential group marriage. <ul><li>Females – 38% </li></ul><ul><li>Males – 49...
Conclusions <ul><li>Poly – Enculturated and Bisexual Women have similar patterns regarding their views and practices re: j...
Observations <ul><li>All practitioners seek to keep the good things they have while accessing more love, (sexual) intimacy...
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  • Children of baby boomers – born near the peak of the sexual revolution (1970s)
  • Lifetime range 0-4,327 (average 64; median 21.5; mode 20) Last year range 0-200 (average 4.9; median 3; mode 2) Current range 0-20 (average 2.4; 2 median; 2 mode)
  • Single/Never Married 24.5% Divorced/Separated 22.2% Married/Domestic Partner 55%
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    1. 1. Polyamorous Behaviors of Non-Poly Identified Peoples
    2. 2. Young Luo Polygynous Family
    3. 4. Husband 2nd Wife 4th Wife 3rd Wife 1st Wife Grandmother & Young Children Main Entrance Luo Compound Unmarried Sons Private Entrance
    4. 5. Luo Compound -- Main Entrance
    5. 6. Luo Compound--Private Entrance
    6. 7. Maasai Polygynous Triad
    7. 8. Maasai Compound
    8. 9. Huli Polygynist
    9. 10. Huli Men’s House
    10. 11. Huli Co-Wives House
    11. 12. Huli Men
    12. 13. Enga Women with their Pigs
    13. 14. Sweet Potato Garden
    14. 15. African-American Triad
    15. 16. Multiple Partner Survey March 19 – April 4, 2008 (2 ½ weeks) 716 completed surveys (99.6% completion) 50 Questions
    16. 17. Poly Cultural Conventions <ul><li>Embrace Poly Culture </li></ul><ul><li>Jealousy Management </li></ul><ul><li>Compersion </li></ul><ul><li>NRE Management </li></ul><ul><li>Disclosure </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Transparency </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Consensuality </li></ul></ul>
    17. 18. Age Average – 39 Median – 38 Mode – 38 Range 19-74
    18. 19. Sex
    19. 20. Sexual Orientation
    20. 21. Education
    21. 22. Current Religious Practice
    22. 23. Number of Partners
    23. 24. Relationship Patterns
    24. 25. Residence Patterns
    25. 26. Marital Status
    26. 27. Polyamory Affiliation <ul><li>Books and Publications </li></ul><ul><li>Leaders and Spokespeople </li></ul><ul><li>Language and Cultural Practices </li></ul>
    27. 28. Books and Publications <ul><li>Love without Limits – 61% </li></ul><ul><li>The Ethical Slut – 84% </li></ul><ul><li>Loving More Magazine – 57% </li></ul><ul><li>None – 12% </li></ul>
    28. 29. Leaders and Spokespeople <ul><li>Deborah (Taj) Anapol – 45% </li></ul><ul><li>Oberon Zell – 33% </li></ul><ul><li>Robyn Trask –32% </li></ul><ul><li>Nan Wise –24% </li></ul><ul><li>Sasha and Janet Lessin – 21% </li></ul><ul><li>None – 37% </li></ul>
    29. 30. Language & Cultural Practices <ul><li>NRE (New Relationship Energy) – 67% </li></ul><ul><li>Compersion – 67% </li></ul><ul><li>Transparency – 50% </li></ul><ul><li>NVC (Non-violent Com.) –22% </li></ul><ul><li>None 17% </li></ul>
    30. 31. Definitions of Polyamory <ul><li>Responsible/ethical/honest non-monogamy </li></ul><ul><li>Having sex with more than one man </li></ul><ul><li>A deep, emotional, sometimes physical relationship with more than one partner simultaneously </li></ul><ul><li>Relationship with multiple people in which everyone knows about each other and is okay about it. </li></ul><ul><li>Having multiple concurrent romantic relationships with the full informed, uncoerced consent of all parties. </li></ul>
    31. 32. More Poly Definitions <ul><li>Believing that we can love more than one person at the same time, with or without sexual engagement. </li></ul><ul><li>An exploration into conscious relating that doesn't subscribe to the conventional paradigm of lifelong marriage. Rather than revolving around the couple, it revolves around the individual as a whole and evolving person. Based on non-possessive love. </li></ul>
    32. 33. Do you experience jealousy when your partner/lover appears interested in someone new? <ul><li>Females – 54% </li></ul><ul><li>Males – 39% </li></ul><ul><li>Poly Enculturated – 53% </li></ul><ul><li>Single Heterosexuals – 67% </li></ul><ul><li>Gay Men – 67% </li></ul><ul><li>Bisexual Women – 52% </li></ul>
    33. 34. When my partner tells me what a good time they had with one of their lovers, I feel happy for them. <ul><li>Females – 76% </li></ul><ul><li>Males – 84% </li></ul><ul><li>Poly Enculturated – 81% </li></ul><ul><li>Single Heterosexuals – 63% </li></ul><ul><li>Gay Men – 67% </li></ul><ul><li>Bisexual Women – 81% </li></ul>
    34. 35. It varies: sometimes I'm genuinely happy for them (both), sometimes I have to force myself to be realistic so as to not feel jealous. Sometimes I'm openly jealous and sometimes I feel indifferent. Compersion Comments It depends on whether I've met and liked the other person. My boyfriend tends to chose poorly for himself, so I'm suspicious until I meet this new person. My husband has no other partners.
    35. 36. More Compersion Comments <ul><li>It's complicated. :-) I am happy that my partner had a great time. But that doesn't mean that hearing all of the details is particularly easy. </li></ul><ul><li>Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. Usually depends on where I am with my own insecurities. </li></ul>
    36. 37. I try to limit my activities with other lovers so that they will not replace/displace my primary relationship . <ul><li>Females – 32% </li></ul><ul><li>Males – 34% </li></ul><ul><li>Poly Enculturated – 24% </li></ul><ul><li>Single Heterosexuals – 34% </li></ul><ul><li>Gay Men – 30% </li></ul><ul><li>Bisexual Women – 29% </li></ul>
    37. 38. As for sharing intimate details about other partners/lovers, I find that “ don ’ t ask, don ’ t tell ” is the best practice. <ul><li>Females – 14% </li></ul><ul><li>Males – 15% </li></ul><ul><li>Poly Enculturated – 8.6% </li></ul><ul><li>Single Heterosexuals – 40% </li></ul><ul><li>Gay Men – 40% </li></ul><ul><li>Bisexual Women – 11% </li></ul>
    38. 39. When I connect with someone new I find it very difficult to interact romantically with my other partner(s). <ul><li>Females – 4% </li></ul><ul><li>Males – 2% </li></ul><ul><li>Poly Enculturated – 4% </li></ul><ul><li>Single Heterosexuals – 9% </li></ul><ul><li>Gay Men – 10% </li></ul><ul><li>Bisexual Women – 3% </li></ul>
    39. 40. My dream/current reality is being part of a residential group marriage. <ul><li>Females – 38% </li></ul><ul><li>Males – 49% </li></ul><ul><li>Poly Enculturated – 40% </li></ul><ul><li>Single Heterosexuals – 16% </li></ul><ul><li>Gay Men – 30% </li></ul><ul><li>Bisexual Women – 42% </li></ul>
    40. 41. Conclusions <ul><li>Poly – Enculturated and Bisexual Women have similar patterns regarding their views and practices re: jealousy, compersion and disclosure. </li></ul><ul><li>Males tend to be less jealous and more compersive than Females </li></ul><ul><li>Single Heterosexuals and Gay Men are the most jealous and the least transparent. </li></ul><ul><li>Group Marriage is not an ideal/goal for the majority of respondents. </li></ul>
    41. 42. Observations <ul><li>All practitioners seek to keep the good things they have while accessing more love, (sexual) intimacy and attention. </li></ul><ul><li>Those who are part of subcultures that embrace transparency and value compersion engage in these beliefs and behaviors as a means to retain all that they value. </li></ul>
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