Why Do Men Stonewall? (and what you can do about it)

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Women work hard at their relationships. When something’s wrong, it’s the woman who notices it and wants to talk about it – to figure out what’s wrong and fix the problem. However, many men withdraw …

Women work hard at their relationships. When something’s wrong, it’s the woman who notices it and wants to talk about it – to figure out what’s wrong and fix the problem. However, many men withdraw from such a conversation or simply fail to respond.

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  • 1. www.DrDebiSmith.com Why Do Men Stonewall? ... and what you can do about it. The Psychology of Men & Romance Dr. Debi Smith PO Box 13154, Newport Beach, CA
  • 2. www.DrDebiSmith.com Why Wont’ He Talk to Me? •  Does the man you love ... – withdraw and refuse to face issues? – have problems being open about things? – frequently misunderstand what you’re saying?
  • 3. www.DrDebiSmith.com Our Beliefs About Men If you’re like many women, you probably believe that men … – are insensitive jerks – don’t have feelings like women do – are only interested in one thing –  just don’t get it
  • 4. www.DrDebiSmith.com The Boy Code Rule #1. Be a Sturdy Oak. •  No whimpering allowed. •  No crying allowed. •  No complaining allowed. •  No sign of weakness allowed.
  • 5. www.DrDebiSmith.com The Boy Code Rule #2. Give ‘em Hell. •  Encourages risk-taking behavior – macho – invincible – sometimes violent – high-energy – superman
  • 6. www.DrDebiSmith.com The Boy Code Rule #3. Be the Big Wheel. •  Dominate others •  Refuse to let anyone know that he actually feels – like a failure – like life is out of control
  • 7. www.DrDebiSmith.com The Boy Code Rule #4. No Sissy Stuff. •  gender straitjacket that prohibits boys from expressing feelings or urges seen (mistakenly) as feminine – dependence – warmth – empathy
  • 8. www.DrDebiSmith.com The Boy Code Read more about boys’ experience! Dr. William Pollack
  • 9. www.DrDebiSmith.com The Boy Code Read more about boys’ experience! Dr. Debi Smith
  • 10. www.DrDebiSmith.com What to do? •  Bring things up sooner rather than later. •  Realize your emotional impact on him. •  Give him time to think before he responds.
  • 11. www.DrDebiSmith.com What to do? •  Realize that men don’t operate on the same principles women do. – Don’t think like us. – Aren’t affected by the same things. – Don’t act like we do. – Don’t experience the world the same way we do.
  • 12. www.DrDebiSmith.com Additional Information •  Free 30-Day eCourse – www.WhyWontHeTalkToMe.com •  eBook – www.DrDebiSmith.com/books.html – Download for Kindle, Nook, Apple iBooks • Dance With Me A Hopeful Romantic Interprets Ephesians 5