Couple Quiz 3: Dealing With Conflict

Dance With Me Quiz 3: Dealing With Conﬂict Dr. Debi Smith, Clinical Psychologist www.OCChris9anCouples.com 800.705.6223

Quiz 3: Dealing With Conﬂict This quiz, based on ﬁndings of marital research, can help you get an idea of how well you are doing in some vital areas of your relaConship. Adapted from the book by J. GoIman: Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work

Disclaimer Please note that all informaCon provided is for general informaConal purposes only. It is not a subsCtute for a professional evaluaCon. If you are experiencing distress, please contact a mental health professional.

QuesCon 1 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  We are good at taking breaks when we need them. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 2 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  My partner usually accepts my apologies. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 3 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  I can say that I am wrong. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 4 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  I am preIy good at calming myself down. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 5 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  We can maintain a sense of humor. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 6 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  When my partner says we should talk to each other in a diﬀerent way, it usually makes a lot of sense. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 7 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  My aIempts to repair our discussions when they get negaCve are usually eﬀecCve. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 8 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  We are preIy good listeners even when we have diﬀerent posiCons on things. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 9 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  If things get heated, we can usually pull out of it and change things. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 10 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  My partner is good at soothing me when I get upset. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 11 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  I feel conﬁdent that we can resolve most issues between us. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 12 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  When I comment on how we could communicate beIer, my partner listens to me. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 13 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  Even if things get hard at Cmes, I know we can get past our diﬀerences. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 14 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  We can be aﬀecConate, even when we are disagreeing. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 15 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  Teasing and humor usually work to get my partner over negaCvity. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 16 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  We can start all over again and improve our discussion when needed. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 17 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  When emoCons run hot, expressing how upset I feel makes a real diﬀerence. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 18 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  We can discuss even big diﬀerences between us. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 19 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  My partner expresses appreciaCon for the nice things I do. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

QuesCon 20 During our aIempts to resolve conﬂict … •  If I keep trying to communicate, if will eventually work out. Agree = 1 point Disagree = 0 points

How did you do? The highest possible score = 20 According to research, a score less than 6 indicates that repair aIempts a[er an argument are unsuccessful a signiﬁcant amount of Cme.

How did you do? If your score was below 6, you and your mate may benefit from couples counseling that focuses on developing more effecCve ways to deal with conflict.

Finding Help •  Look for a licensed counselor who has specialized training in working with couples. •  If you are a ChrisCan, you may want to ﬁnd someone who shares your faith.

Finding Help •  Schedule an appointment so you can both meet the counselor in person. •  Make sure you both feel comfortable with your choice.

Finding Help •  A man needs his wife’s trust and respect in order to be a good leader (king). •  A woman needs her husband’s love and understanding to be a good follower (queen).

Enjoying the Romance of Ephesians 5 •  Men –  Learn what she needs and desires from you. –  Pray for her daily. •  Ladies –  Learn what he needs and desires from you. –  Pray for him daily.

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. ~ Ephesians 5:21 •  This passage applies to the body of believers in fellowship with one another, so it naturally applies to husbands and wives as well. •  However, just how husbands and wives are to submit to one another is easily misunderstood in our current culture.

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. ~ Ephesians 5:21 •  That’s what Dance With Me is all about – learning what submission looks like in the 21st Century. •  Dr. Debi Smith teaches couples how to pay aIenCon to one another’s needs and how to be responsive to one another in light of his/her unique design and purpose.

For more informaCon … … or to order a copy of Dance With Me: A Hopeful Roman9c Interprets Ephesians 5, please visit our website at www.OCChrisCanCounseling.com

Thanks for taking the Quiz! And thank you for inves9ng in the future of America by suppor9ng one another! You’re the Best!

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