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    • Harness the Power of Positive Thinking Presented by Sylvia Lane and Michelle Baca January 21, 2009
    • Our Objective• To help you produce positive results in your life and your work by giving you access to more power and positivity when you need it www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Our Agenda• How negative thought patterns are formed• How to transform negative thought patterns into positive ones• Centering techniques including meditation and spiritual practices/prayer• Methods for creating positive results including visualization and goal-setting www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Poll #1• What prevents you from staying positive? Check any of the following that apply: – Negative co-workers and/or family members – You’re mind is always racing – Negative messages from television, newspapers, and other media sources – You feel like you don’t have control over the things that happen in your life – Self-defeating thoughts (I should have... I’ll never be able to) – You’re overwhelmed by all the things on your to-do list – Other www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Let’s Get Centered• One technique for reducing stress and generating positive thinking is getting centered – We’ll use centering to get present and focus on our session today• The purpose here is to focus the mind, to allow more clarity by honing in on one particular thought or image – It does not make the others go away – It draws the attention to the chosen thought or image www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Let’s Get Centered• We’ll focus on getting “clear” and open to the ideas of this session• We’ll use a breathing technique to help center ourselves – Close your eyes and focus on your breath – Inhale deeply through your nose for a count of 5-10 seconds – Hold for 1-2 seconds – Exhale deeply through your mouth – Repeat www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Transforming Negative Thought Patterns into Positive Ones
    • The Little VoiceIn Our Heads• When youre stressed, there is negative "self talk" in your head• That little voice often tells us things that are not necessarily helpful• When youre under a lot of stress, your mind is on auto pilot• When you are on autopilot – that negative self-talk (the stories we tell ourselves) becomes our “truth” www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • You’re Not TheOnly One!• Everybody has the little voice in their heads• Our minds race with an enormous amount of internal dialogue• We are all the products of years of “programming” that have molded our internal dialogue• It becomes so deeply ingrained that it is like a CD playing over and over again in our heads www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Awareness Is Key• As soon as you become aware that your mind is on “auto-pilot,” you have an opportunity to reduce your stress• The voice in your head is not you – Stop and listen to what the voice is saying – Simply notice without judgment – Practice quieting the mind www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Forms of NegativeSelf-Talk• Sometimes negative self-talk just means that your own misperceptions, lack of information, and distorted ideas have overpowered your capacity for logic and reason www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened Mark Twain
    • Forms of NegativeSelf-Talk• Forms of negative self-talk include: – Filtering: You magnify the negative aspects of a situation and filter out the positive ones – Personalizing: When something bad occurs, you automatically blame yourself – Catastrophizing: You automatically anticipate the worst – Polarizing: You see things only as either good or bad www.convergencecoaching.com Adapted from MayoClinic.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Poll #2• Which form of negative self-talk are you most guilty of? – Filtering: You magnify the negative aspects of a situation and filter out the positive ones – Personalizing: When something bad occurs, you automatically blame yourself – Catastrophizing: You automatically anticipate the worst – Polarizing: You see things only as either good or bad www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • How Our ThoughtPatterns Were Created• It helps to consider where the negative thought patterns came from in order to understand why they are powerful, deeply ingrained and difficult to shift• Understanding how negative thought patterns are formed helps us understand how to “flip” them and create more positive thought patterns www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • How Our ThoughtPatterns Were Created• Modeling – We learn and model people of influence in our lives such as parents, teachers, peers, bosses, co-workers, and siblings• Personal Experience – Our thoughts are based on past experience and the evidence that we have seen – Repeated failure creates negative thinking and similarly repeated success creates positive thinking• The Stories We Hear – We base our beliefs on the stories we hear of others’ experiences – Sometimes they become our truth, especially in the absence of evidence to the contrary www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • How Our ThoughtPatterns Were Created• Physical Programming – Our bodies are very perceptive and responsive – Our physical experiences affect and shape our thought patterns • Experiences that create open, good physical sensations encourage positive thought patterns (endorphin- producing exercise, enjoying or playing music, singing, playing a favorite sport, being “in the zone,” physical touch and closeness) • Experiences that produce negative physical responses encourage negative thought patterns (bodily stress responses like racing heart, upset stomach, tension, violence, physical and/or verbal abuse) www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • How Our ThoughtPatterns Were Created• Quantum Physics and the Law of Attraction – Thoughts have an energy that attracts like energy – You are like a human transmission tower, attracting more of what you focus your thoughts and attention on www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • The greatest weapon against stress and biggest opportunity for positivity is our ability tochoose one thought over another. - William James
    • Interpretations• Now that you understand how your thoughts are formed, you can see that: – You have many filters in which you listen and receive information – You apply the information you receive based on your past experiences or those of others – There are many ways to interpret any given situation www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • InterpretationsCan Be Tricky!• It is worth developing a number of potential ways to view an issue before identifying your approach to it• We suggest you play an interpretations game – You will see that there are many potential reasons or causes for each issue and different ways to view it – Use the interpretations game to vent your negative feelings and see that there are other possible ways to view each situation that are worth exploring www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Then Pick a NewInterpretation• You can affect your response to stress by adjusting your chosen version of the “truth” and: – Choose the most positive interpretations – Become 100% responsible for everything going on in your life! – Look at situations from another’s perspective – Let go of control and perfectionism – Work to eliminate “should,” “must, “ “never,” “always,” and any other self-defeating words from your vocabulary www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Then Pick a NewInterpretation – See the glass as half full – Have a sense of humor – especially when you don’t feel like laughing! – Reframe problems as opportunities – Focus on the long-term and how relevant (or irrelevant) this problem will be in a month or year – Learn to forgive www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Whenever a negative thought concerning your personal powercomes to mind, deliberately voice a positive thought to cancel it out. Norman Vincent Peale
    • Centering OnThe Positive• Centering is important to focus your thoughts and relax your body and we already explored breathing as one form• There are a number of other centering practices• Meditation – Choose a place that is quiet and free from distractions – Sit in silence or choose a particular sound or word that you can begin to repeat to yourself with a comfortable rhythm and frequency that feels comfortable for you – You may find yourself drifting into a state somewhere between being awake and asleep - let that be OK www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Centering OnThe Positive• Spiritual Practice/Prayer – A centering activity advocated by spiritual teachers or established religious organizations • The most common form is centering through prayer – Usually spiritual practice begins with sitting or kneeling, closing the eyes, folding the hands, and reciting silently or out loud some specific words or phrases that create a feeling of connection with a higher power – The energy seems to be accelerated when practiced with a group• Affirmations – Create positive statements to support a desired result • Avoid negative language and refocus on the positive • One of the first affirmations taught to children in the U.S. is “I think I can” from the Little Train That Could – Post affirmations in visible places so you are reminded of them frequently www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Centering OnThe Positive• Visualization – Mentally imagine a picture of a desired positive result – Feel or experience the result • Even what you would see, hear, taste, and smell – Express gratitude for the change as though it has already taken place• Goal Setting – Create a clear vision of your positive result with plans and activities that will get you there – Develop timelines and specific measures or results – Share these with someone else and keep that person updated on your progress – celebrate results! www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Happiness is when what youthink, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. Gandhi
    • Inspired Action• It is not enough to visualize and recite affirmations – You must be willing to take action and seize opportunities when they present themselves – It takes courage – the willingness to act even in the face of fear and uncertainty• You can’t afford to – Wait for “the right time” – Let your doubts get in the way – Second guess yourself – Waste time trying to get it perfect www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Identify An InspiredAction Step• Think about something that you would like to accomplish – Visualize the end result – What will it be like, feel like, how will things be different?• What action step could you take towards achieving your goal? – Do not let yourself be stopped by the “what ifs,” “yeah buts,” and the “I’ll wait until the time is right” syndrome www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • A leader has to be positive about all things that happen to his team. Look at nothing in the past as a failure. Mike Krzyzewski (Coach K) USA Olympic Basketball Team Coach
    • Mirroring ExpectedBehavior• Mirror leadership behavior and watch your own stress reflections more carefully – If you’re snippy, grouchy, high-strung, defeatist, short, or otherwise “stressed out” – count on those around you to react similarly• During periods of stress, you need to model positive behavior more than any other time – Those around you will follow your lead and need someone to demonstrate a can-do attitude – Make sure you’re practicing the individual stress management techniques outlined previously or the rest of these ideas are moot! www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Next Steps
    • Where Do You Start? Pay attention to times when you feel negative and practice identifying the trigger for your negativity Pay attention to times when you feel especially positive and practice identifying the circumstances and thought patterns that produce that state of mind Find ways that you can reduce stress for yourself  Exercise, eat better, sleep more, etc. Commit to practice positive thinking and adopt new habits such as meditation, visualization, and taking inspired action steps www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Make One Commitment• Managing stress and adopting a positive outlook and attitude requires ongoing attention – it is the only way to have it all!• Identify what you want to undertake – personally or organizationally – and then commit – No “trying” allowed! – Trying means you’re not going to do it or that something can knock that commitment down “Do or do not. There is no try” - Jedi Master Yoda www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Poll #3• Which one idea to help maintain a positive outlook can you commit to explore out of this web seminar? (check only one) – Reduce your stress level by exercising more, sleeping more, and eating more healthfully – Begin practicing quieting the mind and “watching your thoughts” – Post affirmations in visible places so you are reminded of them frequently – Begin doing a daily centering or meditation practice – Identify the first action step towards one of your goals and set a by-date to complete it by – Other www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Questions?
    • Thank You!• Contact us at any time! Michelle Baca (505) 217-2094 Michelle@convergencecoaching.com Sylvia Lane (949) 443-3915 Sylvia@convergencecoaching.com www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Resources www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • ConvergenceCoachingResources• ConvergenceCoaching’s web site includes articles and tools related to positive thinking and managing stress – www.convergencecoaching.com• Visit our blog for posts on topics such as: – Resolving To Be Positive in 2009 – Maintaining Your Mojo – How Positive Are You? – Believe! – Is Busy A Good Thing? – http://blog.convergencecoaching.com www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Stress ManagementResources• Annual "Attitudes In The American Workplace" Gallup Poll sponsored by the Marlin Company• American Institute of Stress at www.stress.org• American Psychological Association Help Center at www.apahelpcenter.org• “Can stress actually be good for you?” by Jane Weaver, www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15818153/• “Desk rage: Workers Gone Wild” by Jacqueline Stenson, www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15814840/ www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Stress ManagementResources• HelpGuide.org• Institute for Management Excellence at www.itstime.com/oct2002.htm• Managing Job Stress: 10 Strategies for Coping and Thriving at Work by Randall S. Hansen, Ph.D., www.quintcareers.com/printable/managing_job_str ess.html• MindTools at www.mindtools.com/smpage.html• Mountain State Centers for Independent Living at www.mtstcil.org/skills/stress-intro.html www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Stress ManagementResources• National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health (NIOSH) at www.cdc.gov/niosh/stresswk.html• Revolution Health at www.revolutionhealth.com• Spiritual Depression by Lloyd-James, D. Martyn  (Erdmans Printing 1965)• The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People:  Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen Covey (Simon and Schuster, 1989)• University of Maryland Medical Center at www.umm.edu/patiented/articles/what_stress_000031_1.htm www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Positive ThinkingResources• Successconsciousness.com - Awakening the wisdom and power within you• Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson (Harper Collins, New York, 2003)• The Art of Possibility by Benjamin Zander and Rosamund Stone (Penguin Books, 2002)• The Field by Lynne McTaggart (Harper Collins, 2002)• The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle (New World Library, 1999) www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Positive ThinkingResources• The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale (Fireside Press, New York, 2003)• The Secret by Rhonda Byrne (Atria Books, New York, 2006)• Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill (Napoleon Hill 1937)• Wikipedia: The Free Encyclopedia www.wikipedia.org• MayoClinic.com at http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/positive- thinking/SR00009 www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Conflict ManagementResources• Conflict Resolution Network at www.crnhq.org/windskill1.html• www.ctic.purdue.edu/KYW/Brochure s/ManageConflict.html• www.freebizplan.org/business_strategi es/management/conflict.htm• The Heart of a Leader by Ken Blanchard (1999) www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Conflict ManagementResources• Management by Kathryn M. Bartol and David C. Martin (Irwin McGraw-Hill, 1998)• Ohio Commission on Dispute Resolution at www.state.oh.us/cdr/schools/contentpages /styles.htm• Primal Leadership by Daniel Goleman, Richard Boyatzis, & Annie McKee (Harvard Business School Press, 2002) www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.
    • Organizational ChangeResources• Deloitte & Touche, LLP – www.deloitte.com/dtt/cda/doc/content/2005_WIN_Annual _Report.pdf• “How Employers Can Win the Talent Quest – Book Summary On Keeping the People Who Keep You in Business.” Leigh Branham. http://www.businessweek.com/smallbiz/content/ja n2001/sb2001014_851.htm• Managing in the Age of Change: Essential Skills to Manage Todays Workforce, Roger A. Ritvo, Anne Litwin, and Lee Butler, editors: IRWIN Professional Publishing• Rupert & Company FlexWise Programs – flextools.rupertandcompany.com/preview/approach.htm www.convergencecoaching.com ©Copyright ConvergenceCoaching, LLC 2002-2009 All rights reserved.