Practice ofHAPPINESS Dr.T.V.Rao MD Dr.T.V.Rao MD 1
Why Every One Wants to Be HappyWe all want to be happy, andhappiness is useful for otherthings, too. For example, happinessimproves physical health, improvescreativity, and even enables you tomake better decisions.So, as part ofa series on how to win at life withscience and rationality, lets reviewthe science of happiness. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 2
God Created Every One to be Happy“There are as many Even a happy life cannotnights as days, and be without a measure ofthe one is just as long darkness, and the wordas the other in the happy would lose itsyears course. meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.” - Carl Jung Dr.T.V.Rao MD 3
Happiness is our Outlook to LifeSo happiness - isnt that the thing thatall of us strive to find and keep?Nobody is happy all of the time, butsome people are definitely morefulfilled than others. Studies on whatmakes people happy reveal that itdoesnt have much to do with materialgoods or high achievement; it seems towhittle down to your outlook on life,and the quality of your relationships Dr.T.V.Rao MD 4with the people around you.
Happiness is …..Factors that dont correlate much withhappiness include: age, gender,parenthood, intelligence, physicalattractiveness, and money (as long asyoure above the poverty line). Factorsthat correlate moderately with happinessinclude: health, social activity, andreligiosity. Factors that correlate stronglywith happiness include: genetics, love andrelationship satisfaction, and worksatisfaction. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 5
Science Says Happiness is Genetic tooGenes account for about50% of the variance inhappiness. Even lotterywinners and newly-madequadriplegics do not see asmuch of a change inhappiness as you wouldexpect. Presumably, genesshape your happiness byshaping your personality,which is known to be quiteheritable. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 6
Happiness is Relative Never AbsoluteHappiness is relative in another sense,too: it is relative to your expectations. Weare quite poor at predicting the strength ofour emotional reactions to future events.We also overestimate the pleasure we willget from buying a nice car, getting apromotion, or moving to a lovely coastalcity. So: lower your expectations about thepleasure youll get from such expenditures. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 7
We can Overcome …… With HappinessWhile being "lost in the moment" mayprovide some of your happiest moments,research has also shown that when yourenot in flow, taking a step outside themoment and practicing "mindfulness" - thatis, paying attention to your situation, youractions, and your feelings - can reducechronic pain and depression, reducestress and anxiety, and produce a widerange of other positive effects Dr.T.V.Rao MD 8
Flow and Mindfulness People are happiest when they are in a state of "flow." Flow is the state youre in when you are fully engaged in a task that is interesting, challenging, and intrinsically rewarding to you. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 9
Your Interaction with People Makes any Job Great If you have a positiveoutlook, you will makethe best of any job,and if you have goodrelationships withpeople, you wontdepend on your job togive your life a greatersense of meaning.Youll find it in yourinteractions with thepeople you care about. MD Dr.T.V.Rao 10
Take up Challenging Tasks When a task istoo easy, youllbe bored. Onlywhen a task ischallenging butachievable willyou feel goodabout doing it. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 11
Plan ahead overcome procrastination Improve yourconscientiousness.Conscientiousnessinvolves a variety oftendencies: usefulorganization, strongwork ethic, reliability,planning ahead, etc.Each of these individualskills can be learned. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 12
Find your Purpose – Religion too Guides our LivesFind your purpose and live it. One benefitof religion may be that it gives people asense of meaning and purpose. Without amagical deity to give you purpose, though,youll have to find out for yourself whatdrives you. It may take a while to find itthough, and you may have to dip yourhands and mind into many fields. But onceyou find a path that strongly motivates youand fulfils you, take it. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 13
Make Your Partner HappyMore importantly than anything else, ifyou can live with a partner whom youlove and respect and who feels thesame about you. Kiss and cuddle andcompliment often and regularly buyunexpected little gifts. Share yourtriumphs and your troubles. Evidenceshows that a good relationship will notonly make you happier; it will enable Dr.T.V.Rao MD 14you to live longer.
Live closely to your FamilyMove to where other family members are-so you can see them more. We live in amobile society, where people follow jobsaround the country and sometimes aroundthe world. We do this because we thinkincreases in salary will make us happier,but the fact is that our relationships withour friends and family have a far greaterimpact on our happiness than our jobs do Dr.T.V.Rao MD 15
Practice Mindfulness with Meditation Practice mindfulness regularly. When not in flow, step outside yourself and pay attention to how you are behaving, how your emotions are functioning, and how your current actions work toward your goals. Meditation may help. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 16
Consumerism kills HappinessAvoid consumerism.The things you own docome to own you, in asense. Consumerismleads to unhappiness.Unfortunately, youveprobably beenprogrammed from birthto see through the lensof consumerism. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 17
Happiness is a State of Mind Fundamentally, recognise that happiness is a state of mind and not something which can be defined objectively. You can change your state of mind in many ways including these Dr.T.V.Rao MD 18 suggestions.
Spend less than You EarnThe figures may have changed and thedecimal system may have arrived, but thelesson is still the same as when, CharlesDickens in "David Copperfield" had MrMicawber opine: "Annual income twentypounds, annual expenditure nineteen,nineteen, six, result happiness. Annualincome twenty pounds, annual expendituretwenty pounds, nought, and six, resultmisery". Dr.T.V.Rao MD 19
Happiness is a glass half Empty Be positive, lookon the bright side,stay focused onsuccess: so goesour modernmantra. Butperhaps the truepath tocontentment is to Dr.T.V.Rao MD 20learn to be a loser
Avoid Negative Thinking Persons Dont be afraid to admit when youre down and need a lift. Conversely, if theres a person in your life who is a negative influence and who is dragging you down in some way, dont be afraid to remove such a person from your life. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 21
Be happy with What you HaveWhen youappreciate what youhave, what you haveappreciates in value.Being grateful for thegoodness that isalready evident inyour life will bringyou a deeper senseof happiness. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 22
Do Something CreativeIt might be writingstories or poems; itmight be paintingpictures or learningto play aninstrument; it mightbe gardening orgrowing food.Learn to work with Dr.T.V.Rao MD 23computers
Neither borrow or Lend Money without a True PurposeShakespeare put it in"Hamlet", "Neither aborrower nor a lenderbe". Dont borrowmoney unless youabsolutely have to (forinstance, to buy ahouse or car). Dontlend money - even torelatives - unless yougenuinely dont mind ifits not repaid. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 24
Dealing with the Problems One way of dealing with a difficult problem is to imagine how you will feel about that problem next week, next month, next year. Now try to bring those feelings into the present. It will give you a sense of perspective. Problems rarely look so formidable in retrospect. Erase Problems find Dr.T.V.Rao MD Solutions 25
Make Will When You are Alive Make your wish to ContinueDetailing thearrangement for yourfuneral and thedispersion of yourassets. The only thingcertain about your life isthat it will end, so havepeace of mind that thecircumstances thatfollow your death will asfar as possible be asyou wish them to be. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 26
Smiling is the Best Practice of Happiness Science suggests that when you smile, whether you feel happy or not, your mood will be elevated. Dr.T.V.Rao MD 27
Happiness is a glass half EmptyBe positive, look onthe bright side, stayfocused onsuccess: so goesour modernmantra. Butperhaps the truepath tocontentment is to Dr.T.V.Rao MD 28learn to be a loser
Happiness in Our Life is Like Retribution Unless We Can MakeSomeone Happy We cannot Be Happy Email email@example.com Dr.T.V.Rao MD 29
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