• What bad habit persists? And How Exactly DoYou Do That?
Assumptions of SBI• Everybody’s doing the best they can• Behavior is not incomprehensible or random• Behavior follows patterns which revealthemselves to the curious observer free ofprejudice or blame or theory
How exactly did you do that?• How (a technology)• Exactly (a precise “recipe,” a sequence ofactions and thoughts and images)• Did (post-mortem)• You (accountability, reality-based)• Do (behavioral, practical)• That (situation-specific)• ? (open, genuinely curious inquiry)
Fall in Love with the Truth• Self-monitor and collect data:– How long does your morning routinetake, exactly?– How much time – exactly – do you need tocomplete expense forms?– How, exactly, do you follow through oncommitments to others and not to yourself?
Yoga / readStaff meetingPlanningsessionPhone callsbillingLearn from your To-Do list
Learn from your To-Do list• Which things are not getting completed?• How – exactly – are these not gettingcompleted? How do you do that?
Clinical Application• Who in your clinic or classroom isdemonstrating remarkable “resilience” –persistence despite significant obstacles? Andhow, exactly, does he/she do that?• What recurring behavioral problem is showingup in your clinic or classroom?• Note: we aren’t asking “why did you do that,”but rather “how exactly did you do that.”
Living in The Gap• Compassion• Self-compassion