The Season of Singleness


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The Season of Singleness

  1. 1. The Season of Singleness Presented by Dionne N. Curbeam, M.A.
  2. 2. Presentation Goals <ul><li>To encourage married-minded Christians to wait for God to send their mate. </li></ul><ul><li>To identify tricks that Satan plays on single men and women. </li></ul><ul><li>To illustrate Godly principles of productive things to do while single. </li></ul><ul><li>To analyze data of singles and married couples. </li></ul>
  3. 3. Scripture References <ul><li>Romans 8:28 </li></ul><ul><li>Proverbs 31 </li></ul><ul><li>Titus 2:1-10 </li></ul><ul><li>1 Corinthians 11:3 </li></ul><ul><li>1 Corinthians 7:7 </li></ul><ul><li>Matthew 19:11,12 </li></ul>
  4. 4. Media Views of Singleness <ul><li>Let’s think about how being single is portrayed in these television shows: </li></ul><ul><li>Living Single </li></ul><ul><li>Girlfriends </li></ul><ul><li>Sex in the City </li></ul><ul><li>The Game </li></ul>Do they provide a good model for the single Christian?
  5. 5. Satan’s Tricks About Singleness <ul><li>It’s bad to be single. </li></ul><ul><li>Single people are unhappy. </li></ul><ul><li>You are single because you can’t “keep a man” or “get a woman.” </li></ul><ul><li>If you’re single over a certain age, you’re inadequate. </li></ul><ul><li>Unattractive people are single. </li></ul>
  6. 6. Realities about Singleness <ul><li>A single person’s value is not dependent on their marital status. </li></ul><ul><li>Being single is a blessing in its own right. </li></ul><ul><li>Single people can live a happy, fulfilled life. </li></ul><ul><li>There is nothing wrong with being a single person wanting to get married. </li></ul><ul><li>Some people may never marry. </li></ul>
  7. 7. Singleness is a Wonderful Gift <ul><li>Singles have the opportunity to explore desires and interests a married person cannot. </li></ul><ul><li>Free to build friendships in ways married people cannot. </li></ul><ul><li>A single person has the opportunity to experience a valuable lesson: God is our sufficiency. </li></ul><ul><li>A single person is free to serve the Lord in ways married people cannot. </li></ul>
  8. 8. The “Marriage Idol” <ul><li>Many become consumed with a fairy-tail wedding as opposed to a covenant marriage between a man and a woman. </li></ul><ul><li>Many often desire marriage for selfish reasons. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Tax Breaks </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Security </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Having somebody take care of them </li></ul></ul>
  9. 9. The Dangers of “Serial Dating” <ul><li>Key Scripture: Proverbs 4:23 </li></ul><ul><li>Increase of “romanticizing” relationships. </li></ul><ul><li>May mislead the other person. </li></ul><ul><li>Develop false senses of emotional intimacy. </li></ul><ul><li>Increase in temptation for fornication. </li></ul>
  10. 10. Dating for the Marriage-Minded Christian <ul><li>Abstain from serial dating. </li></ul><ul><li>Know what traits should be exhibited in a Godly mate. </li></ul><ul><li>Use Biblical courtship/dating is to discover whether God has marriage for you and that other person. </li></ul>
  11. 11. Questions We Tend To Ask <ul><li>Does he have a nice ride? </li></ul><ul><li>Does she have a nice body? </li></ul><ul><li>How much money does he/she have? </li></ul><ul><li>How much money does/she make? </li></ul><ul><li>What kind of crib does he/she have? </li></ul><ul><li>Where does he/she work? </li></ul>
  12. 12. Questions We Should Ask <ul><li>Is he/she saved? </li></ul><ul><li>Is he/she actively growing as a Christian? </li></ul><ul><li>Will this person challenge me to grow as a believer? </li></ul><ul><li>Does he/she desire to be a husband & father or wife & mother? </li></ul><ul><li>Do we share the same philosophies towards Christianity, family and children? </li></ul>
  13. 13. While Waiting . . . <ul><li>Delight in the Lord. Focus on being a servant for the Lord. </li></ul><ul><li>Cultivate your skills in preparation to become a Godly husband or wife. </li></ul><ul><li>Focus on growing as a believer. </li></ul><ul><li>See what the Word says about marriage. </li></ul><ul><li>Have a “marriage mentor”. </li></ul><ul><li>Pray for wisdom and discernment in relationships. </li></ul>
  14. 14. While Waiting . . . <ul><li>Observe marriages. Note what should and shouldn’t be done. </li></ul><ul><li>Thank God for your season of singleness. </li></ul><ul><li>Don’t become consumed or obsessed with dating or finding a mate. </li></ul><ul><li>Prepare to be a Godly husband/wife by practicing the traits of one. </li></ul>
  15. 15. While Waiting . . . Prepare to be a Godly Husband & Father <ul><li>Submit to the authority of God. </li></ul><ul><li>Know how to manage finances. </li></ul><ul><li>Develop the ability to care for a wife and children (financially and emotionally). </li></ul><ul><li>Examine which priorities will change when you get married. </li></ul><ul><li>Be a man of integrity and good character. </li></ul>
  16. 16. While Waiting . . . Prepare to be a Godly Wife & Mother <ul><li>Learn how to cultivate a Christian home. </li></ul><ul><li>Pursue Biblical femininity. </li></ul><ul><li>Spend time with children. </li></ul><ul><li>Examine what priorities will change when you get married. </li></ul>
  17. 17. Recommended Resources <ul><li>Boundless E-zine ( ). An ezine dedicated to exhorting Christian singles. </li></ul><ul><li>I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Josh Harris. An easy-to-read book challenging Christians to re-think their approach to romantic relationships. </li></ul><ul><li>Seven Myths Single Women Believe by Suzanne Hadley. </li></ul>
  18. 18. Recommended Resources <ul><li>Boy Meets Girl by Josh Harris . In this book, Harris encourages Christian to pursue the courtship model versus the contemporary dating model as we enter dating relationships. </li></ul><ul><li>The Single Truth by Lori Smith . This book is grounded in the Word of God while honestly giving the truth about being single. </li></ul>