ENHANCE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM AND TEACH BETTER Diana Cristina Porto TEACHERS FIRST
What is self-esteem?
Briggs: how a person feels about himself, his overall judgment of himself, how much he likes his particular person.
James Battle: the perception the individual possesses of his own worth .
One’s feelings of self-competence and self-worth
Self-esteem is multidimensional . There are at least 3 dimensions Social Self-esteem Work performance Performance in other tasks Physical Self-esteem Physical appearence Physical ability Performance Self-esteem Relationship with family members Relationship with significant others GLOBAL SELF-ESTEEM
Importance of self-esteem
The key to success .
Productive Behaviour: people perform better when they consider themselves competent .
Work Performance: “There’s only one thing that counts in a business: building the self-esteem of your employees. Nothing else matters, because what they feel about themselves is what they give to your customers.” Robert Darvin .
Interpersonal Relations: “You will do unto others as you do unto yourself.” D.C.Briggs .
Psychological wellbeing: “If I were to search for the central core of difficulty is people as I have come to know them, it is that in the great majority of cases, they despise themselves, regarding themselves as worthless and unlovable.” Carl Rogers
CHARACTERISTICS OF PEOPLE WITH HIGH SELF-ESTEEM
Worthy of living.
Accept themselves unconditionally.
Seek continuous self-improvement.
Have peace within themselves.
Enjoy good interpersonal relationships
Assume responsibility for their own lives.
Tolerate frustrations well.
Willing to take calculated risks.
Loving and lovable.
CHARACTERISTICS OF PEOPLE WITH LOW SELF-ESTEEM
Poor risk taker.
Afraid of competitions or challenges.
Lack self-acceptance .
Feel unlovable .
Blame others for their shortcomings.
FACTORS INFLUENCING SELF-ESTEEM Personal Aspirations Feedback from other people Self-Beliefs Academic Achievement Physical Appearance SELF-ESTEEM Family Environment Task proficiency and accomplishments
THE PATHOLOGICAL CRITIC
Negative inner voice that finds faults and undermines our self-worth.
Especially in people with low self-esteem
People with high self-esteem do not listen to it .
“ Stupid”, “Ugly”, “Clumsy” .
Reminds you of faults and past mistakes.
Compares you with the achievements of others
Ignores your accomplishments or strengths .
Magnifies your weaknesses
LOW SELF-ESTEEM MASKS
Used to hide true feelings from others.
Used to impress others
Self-esteem can’t develop with the use of masks
Boasts to cover feelings of inadequacy
Stretches the truth to impress others
Boasts about the way he does things and the important people he knows
I’m the greatest!
Acts tough to hide feelings of being scared
Boasts about fights and verbal abuse
Too many curse words when speaking
Talking about unpleasant events or problems to gain attention
Complains about poor health, problems with friends and relatives
Wants to be liked
Friendly and helpful
How nice she/he is!!! Characteristics Masks
LET’S THINK TOGETHER… “ We’re born princes and the civilizing process turns us into frogs.” Eric Berne
HOW TO ENHANCE SELF-ESTEEM CREATING A POSITIVE SELF-IMAGE Practicing Self- Renewal Gaining Self- Awareness Learning Self- Acceptance Taking Charge of Your Life Managing Yourself With Success
YOU BECOME WHAT YOU THINK
SELF-ESTEEM IS AN INSIDE JOB SHAPED BY YOUR OWN
CREATE YOUR DESTROY YOU LIFE TRANSFORM SELF-LIMITING BELIEFS INTO EMPOWERING ONES
Let’s share with the person next to you the following basic truths:
You are far more competent than you can imagine.
You are far more lovable than you think.
You are the primary source of your self-esteem.
You are the master of your destiny.
You choose your thoughts and feelings.
You are okay just the way you are.
No one is perfect: we have strengths and weaknesses.
What makes the difference is who you think you are.
YES I CAN! If you think you are beaten, you are, If you think you dare not, you don’t. If you’d like to win, but think you can’t, It’s almost certain you won’t. If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost, For out in the world we find, Success begins with a fellow’s will, It’s all in the state of mind. If you think you’re outclassed, you are, You’ve got to think high to rise. You’ve got to be sure of yourself before, You can ever win a prize. Life’s battles don’t always go To the stronger or faster man, But sooner or later The person who wins Is the person who thinks he can! Anonymous
LET’S WORK ON OUR SELF-IMAGES!
Self-image: a belief system you have constructed about yourself.
Take 5 minutes to answer these questions:
What are your dominant negative beliefs? (Example: “I’m unattractive”, “I’m a loser.”)
What are the primary sources of these beliefs? Parents, teachers, school mates, etc.?
How valid are these beliefs? Are they based on facts? Consider the possibility that they are erroneous or just represent one way of looking at things.
Let’s share our findings with the person next to you.