Domestic violence can be viewed from many different perspectives, however from a professional point of view it is viewed as a gender motivated crime with women usually being the victim. From a psychological perspective it can be viewed as symbolic interactionist.
Symbolic interactionist analyze how our behaviors depend on the way we define ourselves and others.
Studies also show that most children growing up in an abusive household are more likely to grow up and become abusive as well.
Criminal Domestic Violence: defined in South Carolina as causing physical harm or injury to a person’s own household member, or offering or attempting to cause physical harm or injury to one’s own household member
OTHER TYPES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Battering: a pattern of violence coercive behavior and threats that is intended to control another person’s thoughts and conduct. This abuse can be emotional, psychological, physical and /or sexual.
STALKING: a pattern of words or conduct that is intended to cause the targeted person to fear.
Different types of Stalkers
Love Obsession Stalker: develop a love obsession or fixation on a person with whom they have no personal relationship.(L.O. S.) represent 20 to 25 percent of all stalking cases.
Simple Obsession Stalkers: had a personal or romantic relationship before the stalking behavior began. (S.O.S.)represent 70-80% of all stalkers
Aggravated stalking: stalking accompanied by an act of violence.
Pattern: two or more acts within a ninety-day period.
Family :a spouse, child, parent , sibling or a person who regularly resides in the same household as the targeted person.
SIGNS OF A VIOLENT RELATIONSHIP
Does your partner:
Act extremely jealous of others who pay attention to you ? Or use jealousy to justify his/ her actions?
Control your finances, behavior and even whom you socialize with?
Make you afraid by using looks, actions, and gestures like smashing things, destroying your property or displaying weapons ?
Threatens to kill you or commit suicide?
Stop you from seeing or talking to friends or family?
Puts you down in front of other people, humiliates you ,plays mind games ?
Prevents you from getting or keeping a job?
Takes your money or deny you access to the family income ?
More signs of a violent relationship Do you…..
Become quiet when he /she is around and feel afraid of making him/ her angry ?
Cancel plans at the last minute ?
Stop seeing your friends and family members, becoming more and more isolated?
Find yourself explaining bruises to family or friends ?
Signs of an Emotionally abusive relationship.. .
Does your partner:
Call you names, insults you or continually criticizes you
Does not trust you and acts possessive or jealous.
Tries to isolate you from family or friends.
Punishes you by withholding affection
Expects you to ask permission.
Threatens to hurt you, the children , your family, or the family pet.
Monitors where you go, who you call or spend time with.
Signs of a physically abusive relationship
Has your partner ever…
Damaged property when angry( punched walls, kicked doors,ect.)
Pushed, slapped bitten, kicked or choked you.
Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you
Forced you to leave your home.
Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving.
Prevented you from getting medical help or calling the police.
Hurt your children
Used physical force in sexual situation
Signs of a sexually abusive relationship
Views woman as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
Accuses you of cheating or is jealous of your outside relationship
Wants you to dress in a sexual way
Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names.
Has ever forced or manipulated you into having sex or performing sexual acts.
Held you down during sex
Ignored your feeling regarding sex.
Myths about C.D.V.
Battered women are crazy.
Fact : a woman's’ personality is not in question nor is a person mental status justification for battering.
Drinking causes battering behavior.
Fact: there seems to be a correlation between alcohol and battering. Although alcohol may increase the likelihood of violence, it does not excuse or cause it.
The batterer is not a loving person.
Fact : when these men are not coercive, they are described as playful, attentive, sensitive and affectionate towards their partners.
Domestic violence is rare.
Fact: almost 4 million women a year are victims of severe assaults by boyfriends and husbands and one in four women is likely to be abused by a partner in her lifetime.
Domestic Violence is not a problem in S.C.
Fact: over 36,000 cases of C.D.V were reported to S.L.E.D. in 1998.
Depression, hopelessness, and other forms of emotional distress in teenagers are strongly associated with exposure to domestic violence.
Infants often fail to thrive. Children may exhibit bed wetting, sleep disorders, violence toward other children, stuttering and crying.
Children exposed to domestic violence have a tendency to identify with the aggressor and to lose respect for the victim.
Men who witness their fathers abuse their mothers are three times more likely to abuse their wives than men who have not been exposed to domestic violence.
A women who witness her father batter her mother has a much greater likelihood of being a battered woman .
Examples of C.D.V.
A woman was shot in the head by her husband while she slept with their infant daughter. He then shot and killed himself
A husband twisted his wife’s arm causing an open spiral fracture. Two years later he broke six bones in her face.
A husband broke his wife’s jaw and arm. And bruised her entire body, After beating and threatening to kill her in front of their children. He then dumped her in front of the emergency room and drove off.
An elderly woman died of infectious bed sores caused by the intentional neglect of her younger husband. She weighted (65) lbs at her death.
A woman suffered third degree burns on her stomach when her boyfriend help a hot iron to her in front of her children.
A husband severely beat his (20) yr old Hispanic wife, raped her with a pair of scissors and stabbed her in the chest.
A woman was shot in the face with a 12 gauge shot gun by her boyfriend at the plant where they both worked. He then shot and killed himself.
A husband crushed his deaf wife’s hearing aid and told her during the entire marriage that she was stupid. He sodomized her and urinated on her during every sexual encounter.
And still there is more..
A husband raked the dirt front yard so he could tell if his wife had left the house or if anyone had entered the yard while he was at work.
A husband beat his immigrant wife and threatened to have her and her son deported if she reported him to the police.
A woman was severely beaten in the head by her boyfriend. She survived in the hospital in a coma for several days but eventually died as a result of the blunt trauma
A South Carolina home health nurse who was attempting to end their relationship was shot to death by her boyfriend.
Why battered women don’t leave when we think they should.
she may be economically depended on him and see no real alternative
Love :she feels she is the only one who can help him overcome his problems.
Fear :often she is so terrified that she will deny abuse when questioned.
Beliefs about marriage : she may believe that battering is a part of every marriage.
Her children : the batterer often threatens to seek custody or withhold child support if the victim gains custody.
Physical danger: the most dangerous time is when the victim tries to leave. A plan of protection for the victim and children is needed prior to leaving.
More reason why she stays.
Frequency and Severity: he may convince her that this is the last time.
Isolation : after repeated efforts to help her, friends and relatives often withdraw support, leaving the victim even more isolated.
There Is Help
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And more help!!!!
National Domestic Violence Hotline @ 1-800-799-SAFE.
SOUTH CAROLINAS VICTIM ASST. NETWORK @803-750-1200.
SOUTH CAROLINA COALITION AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE…@803-256-2900
SOUTH CAROLINA BAR’S LAWYER REFERRAL SRV. @ 1-800-868-2284
SISTER CARE, INC. 24 HRS. HOTLINE IN COLA. @ 765-9428 OUTSIDE THE COLA AREA 1-800-637-7606
DON’T BE A VICTIM
IF YOU KNOW SOME ONE WHO IS A
VICTIM TO ANY OF THESE CRIMES, DON’T JUST SIT BACK AND LET IT HAPPEN . PUT A STOP TO IT AND SAVE A LIFE IF YOU CAN . THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME.