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  • 1. Peer Relationships and Dating
  • 2. Bell Ringer
    List all of the qualities you can think of that you would want in a friend. (5 min)
    Go around and have everyone name one
    List them on the board
    Talk about “in order to have this kind of a friend, you have to BE a friend like this”. (10) min
  • 3. Friendship
    • Common attribute s of friendships:
    • 4. Similar values, interests, beliefs, and attitudes
    • 5. Open and honest communication
    • 6. Sharing of joys, disappointments, dreams, and concerns
    • 7. Mutual respect, caring, and support
    • 8. Concern about each other’s safety and well-being
    “Researchers have found that people generally form close relationships with individuals who share similar goals, values, or interests. Other studies suggest that people get along better with individuals whose personalities compliment their own.”
  • 9. Different Types of Friendships
    Casual Friendships
    Share interests but not deep emotional bonds
    Close Friendships
    Strong emotional ties. Feel comfortable sharing thoughts, feelings, and experiences.
    Platonic Friendships
    A friendship with a member of the opposite gender in which there is affection but the two people are not considered a couple.
    One-Sided Friendships
    is a friendship in which one person does most of the giving and the other person does most of the receiving.
  • 10. Building Strong Friendships
    Good Friends:
    Reinforce your values
    Motivate you
    Show empathy
    Treat you with fairness
    Share your interests
    Accept you for who you are
    Support you
    Loyalty
  • 11. “A true friend is someone who is willing to take you the way you are, but leaves you better than they found you.”
  • 12.
  • 13. Cliques
    • A clique is a small circle of friends, usually with similar backgrounds or tastes, who exclude people viewed as outsiders.
    • 14. Mean Girls Clip (5 min)
    • 15. Do you think YOU are a member of a clique?
    • 16. How can cliques be harmful?
  • 3 Purposes of Dating
  • 17. Dating Activity
    20 minutes
    Split up the boys and the girls
    Give them each a paper with two columns
    Dating “Do”’s and Dating “Don’t”’s
    10 minutes to come up with lists
    10 minutes to share
  • 18. Fun Dating Ideas
    Bookstore
    Ice-blocking
    Board Games
    School plays/University Plays
    Hide and go seek in Wal-Mart
    Batting Cages
    Color me Mine
    Service Projects
    Make a treat and doorbell ditch them
    Finger-painting
    Frisbee Golf
    Play at a playground
    Laser light show in Salf Lake
    Dollar Store Date
    Bowling
    Fondue Party
    Build a snowman
    Water –balloon fight
    Side-walk chalk
  • 36. Personal Dating Stories
    5-10 minutes
    Mrs. Day’s First Date
    Ms. Stephan’s First Prom
    Mrs. Day’s Homecoming
  • 37. Fun Things We’ve Done
    Horseback riding
    Alpine Slide at Park City
    Laser Tag
    Starburst Bowling
    Make ugly Christmas sweaters
    D.I. Date
    Thanksgiving Point
    Tumbling Gym
  • 38. 5 Love Languages
    Words of Affirmation
    • Giving compliments and encouragement
    Quality Time
    • Not only being with them but giving them all of your attention
    Receiving Gifts
    • Gifts can be visual symbols of love
    Acts of Service
    • Giving simple acts of service like giving them your coat or opening the car door
    Physical Touch
  • 39. Love, Lust, and Infatuation
    • Lust: physical attraction which is interpreted as love.
    • 40. Infatuation: temporary strong feelings of passion and/or admiration.
    • 41. So what is love???
    • 42. “When you love someone, his or her happiness becomes as important, or even more important than your own.”
  • Love, Lust, and Infatuation
    “Perhaps it is no coincidence that the American divorce peak corresponds perfectly with the normal duration of infatuation –2-3 years.”
    - Helen Fisher, PhD
  • 43. Setting Limits in Dating
    Why is it important to set limits?
    • Avoid late hours
    • 44. Avoid bedrooms and closed doors
    • 45. Avoid being alone at home
    • 46. Don’t “park”
    • 47. Avoid sexually explicit material
    • 48. Don’t use drugs or alcohol
    • 49. Remember thoughts proceed actions
    • 50. Show true caring and respect for each other
  • The Benefits of Abstinence
    More self respect and more respect for each other
    Security that you are not being pursued for sexual reasons
    Greater chance of faithfulness in marriage & trust in your partner’s ability to control him/herself with other people
    Chance to develop more in-depth relationships
    Freedom from pregnancy, consequences of making abortion/adoption decisions, and raising a child while you are still a child yourself.
    Freedom from sexually transmitted diseases.
    Freedom from emotional injury, uncertainty of your partner’s motive/commitment, feeling sexually used, and scars from past memories.
    The consequences of your decisions impact the rest of your life. It allows or restricts future choices and freedoms.
  • 51. *Why Wait to Date?
    • Ageof First date % of People who had Pre-marital Sexual Relations
    12 91%
    13 56%
    14 53%
    15 40%
    16 20%
  • 52. Qualities of an Unhealthy Relationship
    Controlling
    Manipulation
    Verbal insults
    Mean language
    Put downs
    Physical violence
    Isolation from family and friends
    -If you find yourself justifying them
    Intimidation or threats
  • 53. Dating Violence
    • 1 in 11 teens report being a victim of physical dating abuse each year
    • 54. 1 in 4 teens report verbal, physical, emotional or sexual abuse each year
    • 55. 1 in 5 teens report being a victim of emotional abuse
    • 56. 1 in 3 teens report knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched, kicked, slapped, choked or otherwise physically hurt by his or her partner
    • 57. Nearly 80% of girls who have been physically abused in their dating relationships continue to date their abuser
    • 58. Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend had threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a break-up
    • 59. Almost 70% of young women who have been raped knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or causal acquaintance
    • 60. Teen dating abuse most often takes place in the home of one of the partners
  • I have the right to:
    Be treated with respect always
    My own body, thoughts, opinions, and property
    Choose and keep my friends
    Change my mind-at any time
    Not be abused-physically, emotionally, or sexually
    Leave a relationship
    Say “NO”
    Be treated as an equal
    Disagree
    Live without fear and confusion from my boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s anger
  • 61. Video Clip
    Rhiana and Dating Violence (5-10 min)
  • 62. Getting Help
    Tell your parents, friends, and trusted adults about whets going on
    Have fun with good friends
    Its okay to be sad
    National Domestic Violence Hotline
    800-799-SAFE