Challenges of Being Single


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Challenges of Being Single

  1. 1. Ch 7 Challenges of Being Single <ul><li>By: </li></ul><ul><li>Kiarah Albert </li></ul><ul><li>Jonathan Davila </li></ul><ul><li>Zachary Gomez </li></ul><ul><li>Alyssa Perez </li></ul><ul><li>Jasmine Roth </li></ul>
  2. 2. Coping with Loneliness <ul><li>Solitude is the pleasurable, preferable experience of being alone. </li></ul><ul><li>Loneliness is the painful, undesired experience of aloneness. </li></ul><ul><li>Stay in touch with family and friends and go seeking new friendships. </li></ul><ul><li>Many times people let themselves become lonely and neglect the many ways they could add love and meaning to their lives. </li></ul>
  3. 3. Being a Single Adult <ul><li>Single adults commonly complain that they don’t know how to meet people. </li></ul><ul><li>They let themselves become lonely and neglect the many ways they could add love and meaning to their lives. </li></ul><ul><li>They view being single as a “holding pattern” until they can find someone to marry. </li></ul>
  4. 4. Living Together <ul><li>Living together before marriage is not a new idea. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Occurred in Western Civilization. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Discarded long ago because it caused personal and social problems. </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>St. Augustine condemned unmarried couples living together. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>He experienced living together before marriage and learned its problems the hard way. </li></ul></ul></ul>
  5. 5. Living Together <ul><li>Church disapproves living together. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>However, concubinage was practiced during the medieval times by laity and clergy. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Concubinage – living together with an exclusive partner. </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Some viewed as form of marriage. </li></ul></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Can be compared to common-law marriages. </li></ul></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Laity – persons who are not members of the clergy. </li></ul></ul></ul>
  6. 6. Living Together <ul><li>The Church and society became lesser tolerant of people cohabiting. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Cohabiting – living together as a couple without being married. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Left women and children abandoned without legal recourse for financial support when the live-in father left the family. </li></ul></ul>
  7. 7. Why Couples Live Together <ul><li>Financial security </li></ul><ul><li>Emotional security </li></ul><ul><li>Convenience </li></ul><ul><ul><li>“ Safe sex” </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Necessary for marriage </li></ul><ul><li>Hope will lead to marriage </li></ul><ul><li>Spend so much time together they practically already live together </li></ul><ul><li>Pressured by friends who cohabit. </li></ul>
  8. 8. Why Couples Live Together <ul><li>Single women from unhappy family backgrounds tend to cohabit for security. </li></ul><ul><li>College life seems overwhelming which causes loneliness and people to cohabit. </li></ul>
  9. 9. Why Couples Live Together <ul><li>Problems that arise when people live together: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>More females support live-in-partners than males which leads to jealousy and feelings of being used. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>More violence occurs in live-in relationships than marriage. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Occurs in 1/3 of these relationships. </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>One person expects/endures more than another person. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>More likely to develop depression and be unhappy if treated poorly </li></ul></ul>
  10. 10. The Effect on Personal Happiness <ul><li>Living together is not good preparation for marriage. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Does not insure compatibility or increase success in marriage. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Causes unresolved conflicts after marriage. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Show less respect towards their spouse than married couples who did not live together. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Vast majority of these relationships do not last. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Tend to emphasize self-fulfillment and self-interest more. </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Disregard religious, family, and social traditions. </li></ul></ul></ul>
  11. 11. The Effect on Personal Happiness <ul><li>Individuals continue these live-in relationships. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Continue to experience broken hearts and shattered expectations. </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Strongly committed married couples know it takes strength and determination to get through life’s challenges. </li></ul>