Anger Management

Grrr... I'm So MAD!

What is ANGER?

a person is hurt and frustrated Anger helps a person to release the build-up pressure in him. Anger happens when...

Violence, eg. fights
Uncontrolled anger

misery, stress
or guilt
Repressing Anger

Learn to deal with our own anger and that of other people is important !

Two Types of Anger Responses Effective Ineffective

It motivates us to improve
our surroundings.
anger responses are effective when… It helps us stand up for ourselves and fight injustices. It warns others not to take advantage of us.

Ineffective Anger Responses I HATE YOU!!
Shout/ use violent words
Dealing with difficult
Situations makes one angry
Trouble with obeying law
lead to violence & injury

Severe
Range of Angry Feelings Mild Moderate

MILD Annoyed Irritated Played Out Worn Out Fed Up

Moderate Frustrated Annoyed Jealous Disappointed Offended

Severe Enraged Maddened Agitated Provoked Disturbed

cry
yell
Fight
go to sleep
punch other objects
confront the bully
When people get angry…

Powerless, Unappreciated,
Stupid, Scared, Run away,
Want to fight back
When people are angry, I feel…

depression aggression Anger turned inwards Anger turned outwards

Causes of Anger

When the person feels unjustly treated or hurt
They may come from families that are disruptive and hardly communicate.
The person cannot get what he wants
When corrected for a mistake

Constant discomfort- sickness
Poor physical environment
Alcohol and drugs

Terrific Things
Beautiful art and craft
Soothing music
Soft lighting
Peaceful People
Peace maker
Upright person
Understanding, sensitive , kind
Pleasant Places
Seaside, beach
Parks & gardens
Back to nature
What Helps Us Calm Down

From Mad to Worse

Taming My Anger 5 Easy Steps

Taking my things Treated unfairly Being left out Rude remarks Being teased 1. Know what pushes your “anger buttons”

Thought Signals Action Signals
“ I hate myself/ them”
“ I feel like screaming /
breaking something…”
“ I’m going to hit him”
“ Nothing seems right!”
We may feel shaky/tremble
We may want to cry or scream
We may squeeze our hands to hit
Our head or stomach may
feel uncomfortable

Feel Hotter Clench fists Head hurts Want to yell 2. Know your body's anger "warning signs"

3. What else did I feel when it happened? What happened that made me angry? &

You have a CHOICE! COOL DOWN! 4. Cage your rage

Talk It Out Stand Up for Yourself Express Your Feelings 5. Decide what to do

6 Simple Steps to Manage Your Anger 1. Calm down, get ready to talk 2. Say the problem in a firm but respectful way 3. Listen to what the other person has to say 4. Talk about how you feel without blaming, using I- messages 5. Think of ideas to solve it 6. Choose an idea to try and set a timeframe

Ways to get the anger out

1. Breathing and Relaxation Breathe deeply and count slowly from one to ten. Slowly repeat calm word (eg. relax) to yourself while breathing deeply. Imagine you are in a calm and peaceful place.

Exercising Dancing Playing games 2. Change the environment, do something you like

Kicking and punching makes you more aggressive Do NOT do it!

VIOLENCE

Write/ Draw Your feelings Squeeze a ball Shout in a safe place Talk to someone 3. Release your anger

Writing in a diary…

I am a powerful person. His words do not affect me. I am strong. I will think of things that make me happy. 4. Work with your mind Positive Self- talk

Picture him as a parrot in a cage talking away. 5. Humour & Laughter Picture the name- calling literally! “ He talks so much, just like a parrot!” Adding humour takes your anger away!

Keep your COOL Eat right, sleep well Know your feelings Write down your thoughts and feelings Do relaxation exercises Learn to forgive and forget Choose friends to help you feel good Speak to a counsellor

The anger is yours.
You can choose NOT to be angry.
Remember:

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Anger Management

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