Using NSPs New Flower Essences to Improve the Quality of Your ConsultationsWith Steven Horne, RH(AHG)
Principles of Good Consulting• Use intake forms to take a case history.• Don’t treat diseases, help people find balance.• Always look at the whole person, never base recommendations on just one “problem.”• Be aware that a person’s mental and emotional state plays a big role in their health.• Always do follow-ups to see how clients are doing and adjust programs.
Real Healing• To heal is to “make whole.”• Physical healing looks at the whole body, never at one “disease” or symptom.• Deeper healing looks at the alignment of body, mind and spirit (emotion).• Healing also extends into our relationships with others – we are all part of a greater whole.
We Are Three-Fold Beings• When our thoughts, feelings and actions are in alignment, we are internally “whole.”• When they are out of alignment we have internal disharmony. Image Copyright 2010 by Steven Horne
Emotions • They are the “mind-body” connection – the bridge between what we think and what we do. • Unresolved emotional conflicts create a disconnect between thought and action. • This prevents internal “wholeness” and healing. • Once these blocks are healed, energy flows freely again and healing can take place.
The Holistic Model Image Copyright 2010 by Steven Horne
Anger and Contraction• Anger is the energy that pushes things away that we don’t want; things that hurt us.• In the body, this equates to the processes of cleansing and immunity – how the body protects itself from toxins.• How we deal with anger affects both our eliminative systems and our immune function.
Healthy Anger• Healthy anger allows us to “stand our ground,” to assert our right to our own life, liberty of choices and the control of our own property.• No one has the moral right is deprive you of your right to be you, as long as you are not trespassing on the rights of others.• Healthy anger allows you to say “no” to that which does not serve your best interests or would cause you physical or emotional harm.• Healthy anger can identify exactly how your rights are being trespassed against and by whom.• Healthy anger allows you to maintain SELF-CONTROL.
Vented Anger• Tissue gets “angry” when it is irritated, just like we do. It becomes red and inflamed.• In the body, this often goes with feeling more agitated, frustrated and easily irritated.• When we vent anger, we try to use anger as a weapon to control others and deprive them of their rights to be who they are.• Vented anger can manifest as violence, threats of violence, deception and stealth, and emotional manipulation.• Venting anger is always a sign of a lack of love and respect for others.
“Keep Cool” Remedy• Calendula – helps a person become aware of how their words wound others, promotes warmth and receptivity in communication• Snapdragon – helps a person overcome verbal aggression, promotes balanced communication• Impatiens – relieves irritability and impatience• Vine – helps people who are domineering and controlling to find greater tolerance for others• Willow – helps overcome bitterness and resentment, helps a person be flexible and forgive others• Holly – for those who feel jealous and cut off from love, helps open one’s heart to feeling love• Tiger Lily – softens aggressive and competitive personalities
Suppressed Anger• When anger is suppressed, a person has a difficult time saying “no” to others. They sacrifice their own needs trying to please others and take care of them.• Suppressing anger causes you to lose your personal power and allows others to “leach” off of you, which ultimately drains your energy.• This results in low energy, which manifests as discouragement, fatigue, loss of enthusiasm and even depression.• This loss of energy manifests itself as a lack of immune “shielding,” which can result in frequent infections, parasitic invasions, auto-immune disorders and cancer.
“Find Strength” Remedy• Mariposa Lily – heals the wounded child, helps a person feel worthy of love and the good things they want in life• Pine – for people who suffer from excessive guilt, blaming themselves for the faults of others, promotes self-acceptance and self-forgiveness• Scarlet Monkeyflower – for people who are afraid of their own anger, helps a person face and accept their angry feelings, promotes honest communication• Centaury – for people who have difficulty saying no and serve others out of fear, helps them find strength to say no and serve from their own inner strength
“Find Strength” Remedy• Fuschia – for false states of emotionality, transforming anger into tears, helps a person acknowledge and express their real feelings• Pink Yarrow – for “emotional sponges” who soak up negative emotional energy from others due to excess sympathy, helps a person develop healthy emotional boundaries• Goldenrod – helps people who are too easily influenced by others to maintain their own individuality within a group
Supporting Supplements for Anger Vented Suppressed• Formulas • Formulas – Liver Balance – Blood Build – IF Relief – Mood Elevator• Essential Oils • Essential Oils – Bergamot – Frankincense – Rose – Lemon – Ylang Ylang – Mandarin• Single Herbs – Rosemary – Bupleurum • Single Herbs – Hops – Black Cohosh – Milk Thistle – Damiana – Oregon Grape – St. John’s Wort
Desire (Love) and Expansion• Just as the body contracts to push things away, it expands to let things in.• When we “love” something, our blood vessels dilate to increase blood flow to the senses and skin.• As a result, our skin “glows,” our eyes “sparkle,” we are “warm” and open to embrace life.• We also experience greater pleasure in our lives.• Desire allows us to say “yes” to what is pleasurable and good for us, both physically and emotionally.• This same energy allows us to more efficiently digest nutrients, pull oxygen into the body and provide oxygen and nutrients to the cells.
Healthy Grief• When we lose something we “love,” we grieve.• Grief is actually a form of shock. In shock, the blood retreats from the skin and moves into the internal organs, which creates a swelling sensation in our chest we call “heartbreak,” because it feels like our heart is going to “burst” or “break.”• Grief is more than crying, it is sobbing, wailing, moaning, sighing and even screaming. These actions forcefully redistribute blood to the surface of our body so we can experience pleasure again.• Tears are a sign that something has touched our heart – either great joy or great sadness can bring tears.• Healthy grief is actually an expression of love – of an open, vulnerable heart, capable of feeling love and connection.
Vented Grief• When we vent grief, we place the responsibility for filling the loss we feel onto other people.• We don’t want to feel and acknowledge the pain, so we seek sympathy from others as a “drug” to temporarily ease the grief.• This can become habitual, so we create a “story” around our victimhood, which we constantly tell, seeking sympathetic allies.• We become “victims,” whining, complaining and manipulating others into feeling sorry for us.
“Release It” Remedy• Self-Heal – helps a person find his/her own inner strength and healing• Love-Lies-Bleeding – for melancholy and anguish of the soul, helps one find meaning and purpose in one’s suffering• Chicory – for possessive, needy, demanding love; helps transform it to selfless love, given freely• Bleeding Heart – teaches the lesson that love must exist in freedom, we can’t control what we love; helps a person “let go” after divorce, death or other losses
“Release It” Remedy• Chrysanthemum – for fear of mortality and aging; helps a person identify with his/her spiritual rather than physical nature and accept the temporal (i.e., temporary) nature of the physical world• Borage – for heavy-heartedness; promotes cheerful courage when facing adversity; encourages hope and optimism• Star Thistle – for basing one’s actions on a fear of lack; helps a person trust in God and abundance
Suppressed Grief• Sometimes people decide that the pain of grief is a sign that love and vulnerability are dangerous. They close down their hearts to avoid feeling close to anything or anyone.• This causes them to fear love. They become “hard of heart” and lack empathy and compassion for others. A person with a closed heart can become inflexible, rigid and judgmental.• Criminal behavior is an extreme example of what can happen when the heart hardens due to suppressed grief.
“Open Heart” Remedy• California Wild Rose – opens and comforts the heart; primary remedy for healing the heart• Baby Blue Eyes – helps with defensiveness, cynicism and lack of trust; helps one rediscover innocence, the ability to trust and receive love• Yerba Santa – internalized grief and sadness, which causes constricted feelings in the chest; helps a person open up and acknowledge painful emotions, helps them “breathe freely” again
“Open Heart” Remedy• Evening Primrose – helps people who avoid commitment in relationships to commit to the process of love• Pink Monkeyflower – for shame and guilt that keep a person’s feelings hidden; promotes courage to take emotional risks• Golden Ear Drops – Helps a person contact and heal painful, suppressed childhood memories• Star Tulip - Helps people who feel hardened or "cut off" to find spiritual guidance
Supporting Supplements for Grief Vented Suppressed• Formulas • Formulas – AL-J – Lung Support – Breathe EZ – SugarReg• Essential Oils • Essential Oils – Eucalyptus – Geranium – Pine – Helichrysum – Rose – Rose• Single Herbs • Single Herbs – Black Walnut – Cordyceps – Cordyceps – Hawthorn – Thyme – Rose Hips
Fear and Equilibrium• Fear is the energy we feel when choices need to be made that have the possibility for great reward and/or great pain.• Fear strongly affects the systems that regulate body functions, such as the glandular system (particularly the adrenals and thyroid) and the nerves.• Fear and excitement are extremely similar physiological responses; it is how the mind interprets the body’s response that makes the difference.• When this energy of fear is channeled into constructive action through exercising courage, it builds excitement and self-confidence.
Vented Fear• When we vent fear, we look to others to tell us how to solve our problems. We aren’t just interested in exploring solutions, we’re literally giving away our power of choice to others, making them responsible for fixing our fears.• Excessive worry and blindly trusting “authority figures” are signs of vented fear.
“Be Courageous” Remedy• Mountain Pride – for vacillation and withdrawal in the face of challenges; helps a person confront and transform challenging situations• Aspen – for fears of the unknown, hidden fears and anxiety; promotes trust and confidence to meet the unknown• Scleranthus – hesitation and indecision, wavering between choices; promotes decisiveness and resolve• Mimulus – for facing known fears; promotes courage and self- confidence• Cerato – for people who are overly dependent on the advice of others; helps people to trust their own inner knowing• Blackberry – for the inability to translate goals into actions; helps a person direct their force of will• Red Clover – for susceptibility to group panic and hysteria; helps a person stay calm in a crisis
Suppressed Fear• When we suppress fear, we are suppressing an energy that is driving us to “do something.”• This means we need to find something “to do” to channel this energy.• Instead of making a choice to do something constructive, we chose to do something to distract us from our fear.• We may eat, drink, take drugs, go shopping, watch TV, play on the computer, count bathroom tiles, horde stuff, engage in promiscuous sex, or engage in any other addictive, compulsive or self-defeating behavior.
“Be Response-Able” Remedy• Red Chestnut – gives people the courage to confront and transform dark, abusive and/or addictive lifestyles or relationships.• Black Eyed Susan – helps a person see into his/her “shadow,” the painful part of their personality they avoid.• Milkweed – overcomes tendency to dull consciousness through alcohol, overeating and other addictions.• California Poppy – helps those who chase glamour, fame and “glitter” to find the true “gold” in their heart.• Agrimony – for people who hide their pain, fear and anxiety behind a mask of cheerfulness; promotes emotional honesty.• Mullein – helps a person be true to his/her conscience; overcomes the tendency to lie or deceive self and others.• Joshua Tree - Helps one separate from dysfunctional family or cultural patterns.
Supporting Supplements for Fear Suppressed• Formulas • Formulas – KB-C – Stress Relief – Adrenal Support – Stress-J• Essential Oils • Essential Oils – Clary Sage – Helichrysum – Myrrh – Rosemary – Sandalwood – Lavender• Single Herbs • Single Herbs – Eleuthero root – Chamomile – Ginseng, American – Kava Kava – Licorice root – St. John’s Wort
Distress Remedy• Arnica – for disassociation during shock or trauma; restores awareness and presence• Star of Bethlehem – heals shock or trauma; helps a person find spiritual guidance and comfort• Rock Rose – helps a person find courage to overcome fear, terror and panic• Impatiens – helps overcome impatience and irritability; helps a person flow with life and others• Clematis – helps a person be fully awake and focused in the present moment• Cherry Plum – overcomes fear of loss of self-control and emotional breakdown; promotes trust and surrender• Red Clover - helps prevent ones getting caught up in the group mindset