Poly and single: Tips for Poly Dating

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Session given at Poly Living West, October 23, 2010. Poly dating tips from a single poly gal.

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  • Poly and single: Tips for Poly Dating

    1. 1. Poly and Single Tips and Tricks for Poly Dating
    2. 2. Where? @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    3. 3. Where? Hmmm... Hot Bi Babe seeks couple @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    4. 4. Where? @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    5. 5. Where? • OK Cupid @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    6. 6. Where? • OK Cupid • FetLife @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    7. 7. Where? • OK Cupid • FetLife • Pagan events @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    8. 8. Where? • OK Cupid • FetLife • Pagan events • Renaissance Faires @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    9. 9. Where? • OK Cupid • FetLife • Pagan events • Renaissance Faires • Gaming/sci-fi conventions @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    10. 10. Where? • OK Cupid • FetLife • Pagan events • Renaissance Faires • Gaming/sci-fi conventions • Burning Man @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    11. 11. Where? • OK Cupid • FetLife • Pagan events • Renaissance Faires • Gaming/sci-fi conventions • Burning Man • Bisexuality events @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    12. 12. Know thyself @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    13. 13. Know thyself @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    14. 14. Your user manual @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    15. 15. Your user Tab A goes into Slot B? manual @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    16. 16. User Manual: Part A Family history • Parents: relationship/major events • Siblings: relationships/major events • What are your basic traits? • What is your baggage? • What do you value in life? @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    17. 17. User Manual: Part B How you work emotionally @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    18. 18. User Manual: Part B How you work emotionally I need to feel... • Included • Supported • Opened up to • Understood @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    19. 19. User Manual: Part B How you work emotionally I need to feel... Here, let me help • Included • Supported • Opened up to • Understood @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    20. 20. User Manual: Part C How you work sexually @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    21. 21. User Manual: Part C How you work sexually I hope he puts these in my butt! What a lovely pattern! @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    22. 22. User Manual: Part C How you work sexually • What makes you giggle/feel weak? • Which touches turn you on? • What gestures are especially meaningful? • What is a special date for you? @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    23. 23. User Manual: Part D What is sex? @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    24. 24. User Manual: Part D What is sex? Wait... what?! We’re having sex right now! @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    25. 25. User Manual: Part D What is sex? • What is your take on casual sex? • What is sex? • What are you into? • Tried and true turn-ons? • What are you willing to try? • What are your turn-offs? @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    26. 26. Second to NONE! @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    27. 27. Secondary’s Bill of Rights You have the right to... @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    28. 28. Secondary’s Bill of Rights You have the right to... • spend time alone with your lover @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    29. 29. Secondary’s Bill of Rights You have the right to... • spend time alone with your lover • spend time with your metamour @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    30. 30. Secondary’s Bill of Rights You have the right to... • spend time alone with your lover • spend time with your metamour • spend time together with both partners @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    31. 31. Secondary’s Bill of Rights You have the right to... • spend time alone with your lover • spend time with your metamour • spend time together with both partners • know what rules and restrictions are being placed on you (emotional and sexual) and if and when they will be lifted @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    32. 32. Secondary’s Bill of Rights You have the right to... • spend time alone with your lover • spend time with your metamour • spend time together with both partners • know what rules and restrictions are being placed on you (emotional and sexual) and if and when they will be lifted • state and clarify your own needs and wants @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    33. 33. Secondary’s Bill of Rights You have the right to... • spend time alone with your lover • spend time with your metamour • spend time together with both partners • know what rules and restrictions are being placed on you (emotional and sexual) and if and when they will be lifted • state and clarify your own needs and wants • expect regular STD testing @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    34. 34. Secondary’s Bill of Rights You have the right to... • spend time alone with your lover • spend time with your metamour • spend time together with both partners • know what rules and restrictions are being placed on you (emotional and sexual) and if and when they will be lifted • state and clarify your own needs and wants • expect regular STD testing • explain what you want from the relationship @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    35. 35. Your responsibilities • Ask about ground rules • Ask about your partners • Ask about STD testing and current forms of protection • Check in regularly @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    36. 36. Your responsibilities Did you remember to get tested? • Ask about ground rules • Ask about your partners • Ask about STD testing and current forms of protection • Check in regularly @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    37. 37. How to date a couple @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    38. 38. How to date a couple No, dear, tonight we find a Hot Bi Babe! @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    39. 39. What to do when they’re fighting @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    40. 40. Warning signs • “She’s OK with it” • Comparisons • “She doesn’t understand that” • Life-changing decisions during NRE @cunningminx www.polyweekly.com
    41. 41. Poly and Single Tips and Tricks for Poly Dating

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