When Mom Or Dad Ask To Be Your Facebook Friend 0609 Rev


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"When Mom or Dad Asks to be Your Facebook Friend" is a presentation for parents of incoming first year students on how to communicate with their children in the world of social media.

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When Mom Or Dad Ask To Be Your Facebook Friend 0609 Rev

  1. 1. When Mom or Dad Asks to be Your Facebook Friend<br />Tips for How to Best Communicate with your Student <br />in the World of Social Media<br />
  2. 2. Shift Happens<br />
  3. 3. The class of 2012 has grown up in an era where computers and rapid communication are the norm. They have seldom utilized landlines during their adolescence..<br />They will continue to live on their cell phones and communicate via texting<br />
  4. 4. The Class of 2012 Mindset List<br />IBM has never made typewriters<br />Caller ID has always <br />been available on phones<br />WWW has never stood for <br />World Wide Wrestling<br />
  5. 5. The Class of 2012 Mindset List<br />Students in the Class of 2013 were<br /><ul><li> 7 when Google was founded
  6. 6. 10 when iPods, BlackBerry’s, and Wikipedia were introduced</li></li></ul><li>Preferred Means of Communication for College Students<br />source: eroi.com<br />…..e-mail is a dying channel, especially among students...students are using email primarily to sign up for social networking sites and receive e-mail alerts.<br />
  7. 7. Chico State Graduating Seniors’ Media Use<br />
  8. 8. Social Media Used by Parents and Students<br />Used by their Students<br /><ul><li>88% Facebook
  9. 9. 79% Texting
  10. 10. 65% MySpace
  11. 11. 15% Skype
  12. 12. 5% Twitter
  13. 13. 5% Blog</li></ul>Social Media Used by Parents<br /><ul><li>75% Texting
  14. 14. 58% Facebook
  15. 15. 18% LinkedIn
  16. 16. 15% Skype
  17. 17. 5% Twitter
  18. 18. 2% Blog</li></li></ul><li>2009 Parent Communication Survey<br />307 responses for a 5.7% response rate. Parents had children in all class levels; 34.8% had children who were freshmen<br />How Often Do You Communicate with your Student?<br /><ul><li>14% More than once per day
  19. 19. 11% Once a day
  20. 20. 50% Several times per week
  21. 21. 20% Once a week
  22. 22. 4% Less than once a week
  23. 23. 2% Every few weeks</li></li></ul><li>2009 Parent Communication Survey<br />Please Rate Your Communication Methods<br />Frequently: Phone Calls and Texting<br />Occasionally: E-mail and Face-to-Face<br />Seldom: Mail<br />Never: Social Media<br />
  24. 24. Advice from Parents to Parents received 224 comments from current parents<br />“Take the cues from your student. Some like more communication than others.”<br />“Give them space but agree on an appropriate amount of communication time. Let them be in the driver’s seat about that as long as they are honest about it. Learn how to text if you don’t already. They will respond to it. Forget Facebook. They make fun of parents who do it.”<br />“Send them little goodies in the mail now and then.”<br />
  25. 25. Advice from Parents to Parents received 224 comments from current parents<br />“As a freshman it’s important to contact students often to make sure everything is going good. I think texting is great along with a weekly phone call to check in with them. I think several visits throughout the year is good as well.”<br />“Stay connected without stalking.”<br />“If you have webcams on your computers, you can use Skype for video calls. It’s free on the internet. You can see them and they can see you, the house, pets. etc...”<br />
  26. 26. Advice from Parents to Parents<br />“…discuss how you will communicate with your child and how often before they go to school<br />… Leave them a media of their own that they can use for communication among their friends.<br />…we all need our privacy and don’t necessarily need to have each other know everything.”<br />TEXT--Unlimited TEXTing Plan--Learn to TEXT--TEXTing is least interferring--TEXT often--Text! Text! Text!--TEXTing is fun, easy,<br />and cool.<br />
  27. 27. There Are a Few Parents Who Feel......<br /><ul><li>“I started with “if I am paying for your tuition, etc. I should have access to all your information.”
  28. 28. “Our children must allow us to be friends on internet social sites.”
  29. 29. “Threaten them that if excess drinking and bad grades happen they will be back at home in their boring room going to boring community college. My kids know this is what will happen in a split second. My husband and I will follow through with every threat and we have no problems.”</li></li></ul><li>However, the Majority of Parents Feel<br />“You have to trust that you did your job”<br />“Give the kids their space”<br />“Help them, do not control them”<br />“Find out how they communicate”<br />“Let go”<br />“Find a way you like to communicate together”<br />“Don’t be a helicopter parent”<br />“Have an open dialogue with them as to why you want to stay in touch”<br />“Don’t take everything personally”<br />“Take the cues from your student”<br />
  30. 30. http://myparentsjoinedfacebook.com<br />
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  34. 34. Tips for Communicating with Your Student on Facebook<br /><ul><li>Talk to your student before you “friend” them
  35. 35. Determine boundaries for both of you
  36. 36. If you are already “friends” determine if your online relationship will change as your student transitions from high school to college</li></li></ul><li>Tips for Communicating with Your Student on Facebook<br /><ul><li>Discuss privacy settings and limited profiles
  37. 37. Avoid family humiliation
  38. 38. Don’t “friend” your student’s “friends”
  39. 39. Once it’s on the Internet, it’s permanent</li></li></ul><li>