==== ====When you feel blah. . . .http://goodhealthinanutshell.com/2011/11/08/when-you-feel-blah-time-management-2-of-5-good-health-in-a-nutshell/==== ====I realize my headline seems a bit odd but if you give me a moment to explain I think youll see myreasoning.When youre having a tough time with something and the people around you (usually with themost sincere heart) try to encourage you, often they will use phrases like:1. "You can do it"2. "Ive seen you tackle much larger issues in the past"3. "Its not that bad"4. "Cheer up it will be in the past soon"5. "This is a great opportunity you should be excited"And your response to their "encouragements" would be along the lines of:1. "Yah but I dont want to"2. "Youre right but I cant get myself to do it"3. "Maybe "its not that bad" to you"4. "But its not in the past, thats the problem, I have to deal with it now"5. "Well if its so exciting than YOU do it"As people we want our feelings validated not denied or ignored.We already know "we can do it" or that "it wont be that bad" but right now in the moment it is "thatbad" and we just want someone to hear us and say "its ok to feel that way for now".Think about how you would feel if someone responded to you this way instead of as in theexamples above:1. "WOW, this does look like a huge project"
2. "It sure is tough getting motivated sometimes isnt it?"3. "This sucks doesnt it?"4. "Sometimes its hard to focus on the light at the end of the tunnel when youre in the middle ofthe tunnel"5. "Youre feeling BLAH about this arent you?"Now there is still a time for the "you can do it" speech but it usually goes over much better afteryou have heard and validated the persons feelings that have them stuck in the moment.Now I want to throw in a nugget of truth on how this concept can help you deal with your ownpersonal challenges, whether it is anxiety, procrastination, discouragement, certain projects,addictions or virtually any other issue where you can get stuck in your feelings or in your head.We tend to be our own toughest critic. People generally are quite hard on themselves and willconstantly deny and ignore their own feelings.Make a point of listening to what you tell yourself in the middle of a difficult situation.Often it will either be "Come on (insert name here) you can do this" or it will be "(insert name here)youre a loser, youll never figure this out"...either way you are not validating your feelings, you arefocusing exclusively on the problem at hand.Another common approach is when you may acknowledge the feelings inside but not in a healthyway.This is when you say "I have so much anxiety right now" or "I am so pissed off at the moment" or"Ive never been so discouraged"Often the problem here is although you are recognizing the feelings usually you are not givingyourself permission to feel that way but instead you are beating yourself up for being angry oranxious or discouraged.This approach would be like your well-meaning friend saying "Well I can see how this situationreally has you discouraged...that must be tough...now quit being such a baby and get over italready"My challenge to you today is to give this a try both with the people in your life and especially withyourself.Listen to your feelings and allow yourself to be ok with those feelings.Just this simple step of acceptance will lift much of the pressure and allow more "happiness" typefeelings to flow.
Jess Stanton (AKA Less Stress Jess) spent decades discovering what it took to win his own battlewith stress and now he shares his "no nonsense" real life anxiety treatment tips, tricks, freereports, posts and articles on his site and blog. Click the link above to visit now.Article Source:http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Jess_Stanton==== ====When you feel blah. . . .http://goodhealthinanutshell.com/2011/11/08/when-you-feel-blah-time-management-2-of-5-good-health-in-a-nutshell/==== ====