What can you do when you are Feeling Blah?

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When you feel blah. . . .
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I realize my headline seems a bit odd but if you give me a moment to explain I think you'll see my
reasoning.
When you're having a tough time with something and the people around you (usually with the
most sincere heart) try to encourage you, often they will use phrases like:
1. "You can do it"
2. "I've seen you tackle much larger issues in the past"
3. "It's not that bad"
4. "Cheer up it will be in the past soon"
5. "This is a great opportunity you should be excited"
And your response to their "encouragements" would be along the lines of:
1. "Yah but I don't want to"
2. "You're right but I can't get myself to do it"
3. "Maybe "it's not that bad" to you"
4. "But it's not in the past, that's the problem, I have to deal with it now"
5. "Well if it's so exciting than YOU do it"
As people we want our feelings validated not denied or ignored.
We already know "we can do it" or that "it won't be that bad" but right now in the moment it is "that
bad" and we just want someone to hear us and say "it's ok to feel that way for now".
Think about how you would feel if someone responded to you this way instead of as in the
examples above:
1. "WOW, this does look like a huge project"

2. 2. "It sure is tough getting motivated sometimes isn't it?"
3. "This sucks doesn't it?"
4. "Sometimes it's hard to focus on the light at the end of the tunnel when you're in the middle of
the tunnel"
5. "You're feeling BLAH about this aren't you?"
Now there is still a time for the "you can do it" speech but it usually goes over much better after
you have heard and validated the person's feelings that have them stuck in the moment.
Now I want to throw in a nugget of truth on how this concept can help you deal with your own
personal challenges, whether it is anxiety, procrastination, discouragement, certain projects,
addictions or virtually any other issue where you can get stuck in your feelings or in your head.
We tend to be our own toughest critic. People generally are quite hard on themselves and will
constantly deny and ignore their own feelings.
Make a point of listening to what you tell yourself in the middle of a difficult situation.
Often it will either be "Come on (insert name here) you can do this" or it will be "(insert name here)
you're a loser, you'll never figure this out"...either way you are not validating your feelings, you are
focusing exclusively on the problem at hand.
Another common approach is when you may acknowledge the feelings inside but not in a healthy
way.
This is when you say "I have so much anxiety right now" or "I am so pissed off at the moment" or
"I've never been so discouraged"
Often the problem here is although you are recognizing the feelings usually you are not giving
yourself permission to feel that way but instead you are beating yourself up for being angry or
anxious or discouraged.
This approach would be like your well-meaning friend saying "Well I can see how this situation
really has you discouraged...that must be tough...now quit being such a baby and get over it
already"
My challenge to you today is to give this a try both with the people in your life and especially with
yourself.
Listen to your feelings and allow yourself to be ok with those feelings.
Just this simple step of acceptance will lift much of the pressure and allow more "happiness" type
feelings to flow.

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When you feel blah. . . .
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health-in-a-nutshell/
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