FAMILY Part of my Family Many people experience there most interpersonal and deep relationships amongst their family. The communication that occurs in a family is what Gender does not only have shape’s a person’s an influence amongst family “understanding of gender”. relationships, it also is the framework of organization in a family.
ORGANIZATION OF FAMILY All family trees are organized by gender through sex marked labels Mother Father Sister Brother Daughter Son Grandmother Grandfather Aunt UncleEach sex marked role in a family has specific expectations, responsibilities, and power based on the gender associated with their role.
ORGANIZATION OF FAMILY Mother & Daughter Fa t h e r & S o nWithin a family gender roles can be established which ultimately get passes down from generation to generation.
EXCEPTION Gender social script are the Many of us may feel like our rules that people carry family is the exception but around in their heads about in reality the fact that we are what they ought to be like as being judge by the norm. men or women and what others ought to be like as men and women.No one ever completely lives up to the gender social scripts so why are they still held as the norm?
“THE FAMILY” T h e Fa m i l y A Fa m i l y“The Family” refers to the idea of a nuclear family which is a “elusive traditionalfamily because historians cannot pin point to one specific time when this family structure actually predominated.
REAL FAMILIESA nuclear family consist of a married heterosexual family who fit the common gender roles. In reality the majority of families do not fit this model of a nuclear family. 38% marriages end in divorce 30% of marriages are head by single adult 52% of families have no children under 1873% of women with children worked outside of home 30% of children live in blended families
FAMILY IN MEDIA 1950’S During the fifties and early sixties media outlets helped facilitate the norm of a nuclear family. Shows like Leave It To Beaver constructed gender role norms like a man being the provider and mother as a caretaker. Click picture for a short clip!“Why this narrow, unrealistic concept of family became and remains pervasive?” (pg. 157)
FAMILY IN MEDIA 2012 The media has grown to accept the diversity of families over the years but still falls back on the nuclear family motif. The show Modern Family is a good example of the progress media has made inClick picture for clip! excepting the diversity of families.
INTERLOCKING INSTITUTIONS“Part of the nuclear family myth is that it is self sufficient, but it reality extended family, work, religion, schools, social services, media, and law influence it.” (157)
INTERLOCKING INSTITUTIONS Politics Work Compulsory Heterosexuality The world of The most There is a common norm politics tends to prominent existence amongst our society that of gender roles is refer to nuclear there is only one way to the division of family as the love and one form of household labor norm. family. between gender sex. Wives of “Passionate love is just one heterosexual form of love between sexual couples spend 5- partners, and it does not tend to 13.5 more hours a be the most enduring” (159) week with household labor then men.
FAMILY CONSTRUCTS (& CONSTRAINS) GENDER Many studies about family communication focus on the communication of the family as a whole. Our text book reviews examples of intrafamily communication to give evidence that these relationships are influenced by former family experiences and other social influences.
PARENT – CHILD COMMUNICATION Social Learning Model As a parent to a child you have an physical and emotional attachment that last a lifetime. With children being with their parents so often they unconsciously learn through observation gender roles. The division of household chores is a great example. Children tend to be assigned chores based on their gender/sex.
GENDER/SEX INTERACTIONS PARENTS INFLUENCE Parents tend to interact with children differently depending on their gender/sex. Many parent’s believe their choices of how they raise their kids will direct them towards a sexual orientation.“Girls who adopt traditional masculine behaviors raise their social status, but boys who adopt feminine behaviors risk losing social status” (162)
GENDER/SEX INTERACTION: CHILDREN’S INFLUENCEChildren play an active role in selecting their gender!Gender identity can be established as young as two to three years old. Once they establish an identity they can be selective to choose objects Click pic for video! or activities that are consistent with their identity. Even though parents typically choose gender-specific toys, children tend to steer towards toys that correspond to their identified gender once they are socialized to like them!
ADULT FRIENDS AND LOVERS From a young age children are These friendship barriers and pressured into heterosexual ideals of a heterosexual romantic relationships and seek marriage relationships are what sustain the as a life long accomplishment. ideology of heterosexual marriage and the nuclear family. Same-sex friendships are encourage because people believe they share similar attributes. Friendships between the opposing sex is frowned upon because the presumed sexual tension. The white wedding symbolizes heterosexual norms!
DATING RELATIONSHIPS The ideology of heterosexual dating relationships has persisted even though dating patterns, like delaying marriage, have changed over the years. Women spend countless hours primping themselves to attract the best man. Women focus more on men’s personalities then looks. Men focus much of their attention on physical attraction and physical intimacy when finding their women. The movie series Twilight emphasizes how media highlights heterosexual intimacy.
MARITAL COMMUNICATION Most research in marital communication is focused on marital conflict. The gender biases of our society can cause tensionamongst couples. Gender stereotypes can cause friction amongst couples. Also the different communication habits of male and females can cause conflict.Domestic violence is unfortunately more common then we want toadmit but persist because of gender social norms. Men are typically the perpetrator of domestic violence because of common social practices. Men are raised to be masculine beings which can initiate the ideal of violence being the solution to problems.
EMANCIPATORY FAMILIES Emancipatory families are the acceptance of multiple family forms to create a positive atmosphere. Concentrating on flexible gender roles would enable’s individuality and lessen social pressures.
CONCLUSION My finding through examining the relationship between gender/sex and family shows that it all comes back to societiesperception of a nuclear family. Society limits its ability to diversify but keeping the cultural ideology of the nuclear family. Family is a complex system that is not only influenced by genderbut organized by it as well. The multiple and diverse relationships within a family all have an effect from gender/sex biases. I have learned that our society needs to adopt a more diverseconception of family and this can be done by questioning gender biases.