Enchantment. slay the dragons, grab prince charming and have a ball
Enchantment. Slay The Dragons, Grab PrinceCharming and Have A Ball
I moved out of the city a few months ago and came to live in a small seaside town. I have always lived in the city and I was unsure if I could be happy living in a small town.I took the plunge anyway and it has worked out beautifully. Being enchanted I discover over and over again, is more about the inside than the outside world
Walking “aimlessly” is an absolute passion of mine. In a big city like Edinburgh there are endless opportunities to explore and find enchanted places.Not so easy in a small place. 20 or so years ago I was studying Buddhism and reading the Artists Way, by Julie Cameron and I discovered that I didn’t like my own company.
So I started to do what she suggested in the book, I took myself out on a date each week to find and lose myself. Edinburgh is a city rich in culture, beauty and history.Finding enchanted places was not so hard. Finding enchanted places within me was more challenging; inside I felt more like a landfill site than a magical castle.
One day I stumbled upon the oldest building in the city. I was (even for me) particularly unhappy that day. I wandered into a gallery, and discovered it claimed to be Edinburgh`s oldest building, built in the 12th century.
Upstairs and alone in the gallery I sat on a bench to take in the paintings, harp music began to play, my day was transformed by that magical setting and I began to take baby steps; tentative spiritual connections, a sense of awe, healing, getting out of my head and into creating an enchanted world for myself.It was a long journey to heal the emotion pain and to find inside me someone I could love and trust. This journey is possible for you too.
So here I am at 48 preparing to remarry. I wasn’t sure how I was going to take to living in a tiny town, with only one main street.Years of practise had given me a deep rooted grounding, a knowing that my enchanted place is within me now. Spiritual maturity ends the desire for new things and deepens our relationships with what we already have.
So I go to the same beach and harbour each day. I eat lunch in the same cafe, most days. I am learning to savour “keeping it simple” finding Enchantment in the ordinary.
It’s funny I find myself writing about enchantment because my husband to be (I refuse to use the word fiancé because I hate it) sometimes calls me princess. This word makes my toes curl with delight. It means to me that I have healed. I have all the fairytale elements to my story, I lost both my parents to drink, and I lived in a home without love, comfort, or joy. Left at such a young age, I was a lost soul for years, living in survival mode.
I was neglected, abused and unloved. Without a mother’s love, I became stone inside, without a fathers direction, I became hard and cheap.I had a tiny stone of rage that lived in the core of me and it took me years to soften that rage.
This princess living this enchanted life is no Barbie doll. I have a backbone of steel, developed from facing up to my character and transforming the rage to love. I studied for years and learnt how to be a wise and loving parent to myself and for others.True happiness comes from inner contentment.
Finding delight in small things. Adapting to life. Suspending judgement and accepting what is.Not demanding that things be your way. Simplicity. Seeking Solitude. Sharing. Love.
Happiness is a habit. Stop stressing and let your creativity flow from you. Baking a perfect scone is just as beautiful as writing a bestselling book or painting a masterpiece.If you chose to seek outside validation you are on the road to pain.YOU validate your worth. Approval and appreciation seeking are soul sapping weeds that choke the pleasure from living.
What one step can you take today, one step towards your enchanted future? Create a vision for yourself and believe that, like me, you too can create beauty and love in your life.Oh and I am very much in love with my new home, living in a small place is every bit as enchanting.Learn how to be happy :http://carolfinlayson.com/