Intro• Topic: – Proverbs 31 wife seems calm & in control. She’s not stressed out of her tree!!
Proverbs 31 Traits• V 10 – Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. • Valuable • Capable • Virtuous• V 11 – Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life • Competent
Proverbs 31 Traits• V 12 – She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. • Builds her man up• V 13 – She finds wool and flax and busily spins it. • Manufacturer
Proverbs 31 Traits• V 14 – She is like a merchant’s ship, bringing her food from afar. • Resourceful• V 15 – She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls. • Cook • Organized • Manager
Proverbs 31 Traits• V 16 – She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard. • Business woman • Manages money well • Realtor • Farmer
Proverbs 31 Traits• V 17 – She is energetic and strong, a hard worker. • Hardworking• V18 – She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night. • Brings in money • Watches for bargains
Proverbs 31 Traits• V 19 – Her hands are busy spinning thread, her fingers twisting fiber. • Hands are not idle • Seamstress• V 20 – She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy. • Charitable
Proverbs 31 Traits• V 21 – She has no fear of winter for her household, for everyone has warm clothes. • Plans ahead • Budgets• V 22 – She makes her own bedspreads. She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns. • Royal
Proverbs 31 Traits• V 23 – Her husband is well known at the city gates, where he sits with the other civic leaders. • Respected• V 24 – She makes belted linen garments and sashes to sell to the merchants. • creative
Proverbs 31 Traits• V 25 – She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. • Rooted in God• V 26 – When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. • Wise • Kind
Proverbs 31 Traits• V 27 – She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. • Driven • Aware• V 28 – Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her. • Good mother and wife
Proverbs 31 Traits• V 29 - 31 – “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!” Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise. • Fears the Lord • Find a woman who had more than beauty • Her achievements are a result of her Godly lifestyle.
Woman of Valor• Eshet Chayil – Jewish Men sing the poem to his wife every Sunday before eating the Shabbat evening meal. – Meant as a tribute to their wife, a blessing. – The poem is an acrostic poem: each line begins with a letter of the Hebrew alphabet.
Woman of Valor• Eshet Chayil – Eshet = woman – Chayil • to be firm or endure (Job 20:21) • Physical strength (Ps 18:40) • Moral strength (Ps 18:32) • Army (Ex 14:4) • Wealth (2 Ki 15:20)
Woman of Valor• The eshet chayil in Proverbs 31 is wealthy• The other eshet chayil in the old testament is Ruth: poor and a refugee• Boaz says to Ruth: – “And now, my daughter, don’t be afraid. I will do for you all you ask. All the people of my town know that you are a woman of noble character (an eshet chayil).” Ruth 3:11 • Cared for Naomi and worked hard in the fields.
Considers• Proverbs 31:16 AMP – She considers a [new] field before she buys or accepts it [expanding prudently and not courting neglect of her present duties by assuming other duties]; with her savings [of time and strength] she plants fruitful vines in her vineyard.
Considers• “considereth” (2161) – Hebrew: Zamam (Zaw-mam) • To have a thought, devise, plan, consider, purpose. • To consider, fix thought upon • To plot (of evil intent) – (The KJV old testament Hebrew Lexicon)
Considers• It is more than inspecting the land• It is also knowing how the purchase will affect her life and the lives of her family.• It is committing the matter to prayer before jumping in.• Could this be our connection to her apparent calmness?
Considers• When we take on too much, we can start to get stressed out. When we try to keep up with the people around us. When we let the world dictate what we need to do with our lives. Perhaps she seems calm is that she doesn’t rush into a decision, and she carefully considers how anything new will affect her and her family.
She is busy, not idle• Proverbs 19:15• 2 Thessalonians 3:6-12• 1 Timothy 5:11-15
Remember to rest• Psalm 127: 1-2• 1 Peter 5:7• Mark 6:31 (Jesus actively seeks out rest)• 1 Peter 3:4• Psalm 131:2 (learn to calm & quiet ourselves)• Philippians 4:6-7
Balance• Balance – Not too busy, not too idle. – To carefully consider all things without anxiety, weighing it to scripture, surrendering it to prayer.
Conclusion• Topic: – Proverbs 31 wife seems calm & in control. She’s not stressed out of her tree!!
Conclusion• Being calm, in control and not stressed out comes from prayer, petition and thanksgiving. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. (phil 4:6-7)