The Burlington Housing AuthoritysFamily Self Sufficiency Program presents A method for Life-long goal setting
Going for the Goal How and Why to Use This Workbook By completing the activities in the workbook you will become more familiar with the process of setting goals in the FSS style. You will also be better prepared to set effective, realistic and achievable goals that will take you far. As a prospective participant of the FSS program, it is obvious that you want to move forward, improve your life and become more successful. Just like embarking on a journey, you need a road map to get where you are going. You want to get there by following a set path and you want to know you are headed in the right direction. Goals will be your road map on your journey to success! Goals will help you stay headed in the right direction and keep you from getting lost. The most important part of this work book is the “Draft Contract” on the final page. Make sure you complete this before meeting with your Case Manager. The draft will serve as a jump off point to create your official FSS contract. It is the basis of your actual FSS contract that you will complete with your Case Manager. Goals give you direction in life!
Contents• Dreams/Vision/Goals• S.M.A.R.T. Goals-Setting goals in FSS style• Personal Benefits• Priorities• Sequencing• Motivation• Goal Busters• FSS Draft Contract
What will you doWith your one, wild and Precious life? ---Mary Oliver
Going for the GoalFinding, setting, exploring, and achieving your goals isthe point of participating in the FSS program.If you dont have goals, or arent motivated to find any,this program will not be of use to you.However, should you choose to do the work, therewards could change your life forever, entirely for thebetter.
Going for the Goal (Please use page 2 of your workbook) The following pages each contain a somewhat inspirational or insightful quotation on our subject. As you read through them take note of which one speaks to you the most, and why. Write it down on Page 2 of your workbook to share with your FSS Case worker!
Try?There is no try...there is only DO, or DO NOT. -Yoda
The first step towardgetting somewhereis to decide that youare not going to staywhere you are. -anonymous
WHATEVER YOU CAN DO OR DREAM YOU CAN, BEGIN IT ~ BOLDNESS HAS GENIUS, POWER, & MAGIC IN IT. -GOETHE
WIN WIN WIN EVERYONE HAS A SUCCESS MECHANISM, AND A FAILURE MECHANISM. THE FAILURE MECHANISM GOES OFF BY ITSELF. THE SUCCESS MECHANISM ONLY GOES OFF WITH A GOAL. EVERY TIME WE WRITE DOWN AND TALK ABOUT A GOAL, WE PUSH THE BUTTON & START THE SUCCESS MECHANISM. - Charles “Tremendous” Jones
The man whocannot believe in himself cannot believe in anything else….. -Roy Smith
IF IT’S TO BE,IT’S UP TO ME! -anon
Until one is committed, there is only hesitancy - Goethe
A goal without a plan is no more than a dream.
Keep your thoughts positive, because your thoughts become your actions Keep your actions positive, because your actions become your habits. Keep your habits positive, because your habits become your values Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny -Ghandi
What about Wishing on a Star? (Write down your answers on page 3 of your workbook.)1. Describe a dream or vision you have for your life.2. What is one of your goals? What do you see as the difference between a dream and a goal?
Is There a Difference Between aDream and a Goal? "A g o a l i s s o m e t h i n g y o u w o rk to a c h i e ve , th e e n d to th e m e a n s , s o t o s p e a k ." The process of setting goals and targets allows you
It’s All in the "Doing"(Write down your answers on page 4 of your workbook.) Think of a goal youve had in the past that you reached. What happened as a result? How did you feel?
Why Set Goals?o to find direction in all areas of lifeo to gain control over your lifeo to create long-term visiono to achieve moreo to improve performanceo to increase motivation to succeedo to increase your self confidenceo to eliminate attitudes that hold you backo to identify resultso to challenge yourself to grow
People Who Set Goals... • SUFFER LESS stress & anxiety • Concentrate better • Show more self confidence • Perform better • Are happier and more satisfied
Did You Know… • Only 3 % of the population engages in some kind of goal setting. • Only 1 % of those write their goals down. • The 1% who write down their goals are the highest achieving, highest paid people in the world!
Brainstorm Some Goals (Write down your answers on page 5 of your workbook.) Take a few minutes to come up with and WRITEDOWN three goals youd like to set for yourself inlife. (For FSS purposes, include an employment and financial goal...example: own a house, become a medical receptionist, clear up mycredit, etc.)
Setting SMART goals What are SMART goals? S - SPECIFIC M - MEASUREABLE A - ACTION-ORIENTED R - REALISTIC T - TIMELY
Setting SMART GOALS... SMART GOALS, the technique we use in FSS to set & attain realistic goals! Specific - Our minds need specific targets to work effectively. State exactly what you wish to accomplish. Measureable - A goal needs to be measureable so we can tell exactly when that goal has been reached - there must be a benchmark! Action-Oriented - Goals are not met without doing some work. There are action steps youll take in the process of achieving your goals. Realistic - Meaning, that it is practical and can be achieved... setting the goal of being the next American Idol isnt realistic if you cant carry a tune! Timely - A goal must have a target date! Having a deadline will help to motivate you.
SMART GOALS..... continuedRe-write your list of goals from page 5 of the workbook on to pages 7,8 & 9 using the SMART Goal formula. See examples below. Example Goal: I want to buy a house.SMART Goal: I want to buy a house by January 1, 2015. See the difference?Example Goal: I want to go back to school.SMART Goal: I want to enroll in CCV for an Associates Degree in Business byJanuary 1, 2011. Starting to get it now? One more…Example Goal: I want to clean up my credit.SMART Goal: I want to be debt free with a credit score of 680 by April 15, 2013. Still have questions? See your FSS Case Manager.
Personal Benefits.....What’s in it For You?? People can’t set goals for anyone but themselves. Your goals must be for YOU, and you must know WHY you aresetting these goals. You need to be aware of what youre getting out of your hardwork in reaching these goals. These PERSONAL BENEFITS will be your STRONGESTMOTIVATORS to keep going. Theyll give you the drive anddetermination to push past obstacles and have success!
So, whats in it for you? (Write down your answers on page 10 of your workbook.)Look at your goals from pages 7, 8 &9. How will you benefitwhen you reach them? Write down these personal benefits.See below for examples. Example 1 SMART Goal: I will enroll at CCV for an AA Degree in business by April 1, 2012 Personal Benefit: I will get a better job so I will have more money to support my family. I will not have to worry about bills. I may be able to take vacations! Example 2 SMART Goal: I will own a reliable car by June 1, 2011. Personal Benefits: I can get to work on time. I can go where I want when I want. I won’t have to borrow a car, bug people for rides, take a cab or ride the bus!
PrioritizingPrioritizing means putting your goals in order of importance.Many people get overwhelmed and confused because they dontknow where to start! Two ways of prioritizing your goals are: By Category By Timeline (This is what we use in the FSS program.)Category: This method separates your goals into themeslike work, school, family, recreation etc. Some goals willactually fall into more than one category.Timeline: In FSS we set goals by timeline…long-term andshort-term. Often we need to work on our short-term goalsfirst because completing them is part of reaching the long-term goal.
Prioritizing..Remember in FSS, we work by TIMELINELong Term goal (your Final Goal): At program completion, 5 years from whenyou enroll in FSS.Short-term Goals (Your Interim Goals): Anything sooner than 5 years toaccomplish (ie. Graduating CCV within 2 years) Activities (Your Action Steps): Any steps you need to take right away in order tomeet the short or long term goals (i.e. To graduate CCV, you first need to see a CCVcounselor, then register for classes.)Now review the three goals you have been workingwith and prioritize them by timeline using page 11of your workbook. Do you feel you have your priorities straight?
Sequencing….. When Do I Do What???(Use page 12 of your workbook) After prioritizing your goals you put them into logical order otherwise known as SQUENCING. In your workbook mark which in the list below should come 1st, 2nd, and 3rd... Goals: o __ Buy a house o __ Develop a budget that works o __ Make a payment plan with creditors to pay off debts
OBSTACLES!! Plan for ‘em • Being prepared is CRUCIAL to goal setting! Many people dont anticipate things getting in their way, and they get completely stopped in their tracks. • The most successful people keep going no matter what, or they figure out ahead of time what can go wrong, and then take the steps to stop obstacles before they even happen!
Obstacles(Use page 13 of your workbook)• Review the three goals you have been working with then write down some obstacles that might get in your way.• Think about how you can avoid some pitfalls that stopped you in the past, or that might happen in the future. Write down some solutions to the potential obstacles.• Take your time with this one! Life happens to everybody - how you deal with it is what counts!
Staying Motivated• Remind yourself of your personal benefits... keep your eyes on the prize!• Increase the frequency of personal rewards• Tell others about your goal• Enlist the help of others• Keep re-evaluating your goal Using page 14 of your workbook, write a little bit about what motivates YOU.
Goal Busters Below are some examples of goal busting behaviors. Don’t let them derail you! • Setting unrealistic goals • Setting TOO MANY goals • Lack of supporting resources • Lack of focus • Fear of failure • Fear of success • Lack of support (trying to do it all alone!) • Lack of self-confidence What are your own goal busters? Write them down on page 15 of your workbook
REMEMBER: Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you NOT to be? Your playing small doesnt serve the world. Theres nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people wont feel insecure around you... and as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fears, our presence automatically liberates others. - Nelson Mandela
When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the Service of my vision, it becomes less and lessimportant whether I am afraid.
CONGRATULATIONS!The next step will be to complete the FSS DRAFT CONTRACT in your workbook, and schedule a meeting with Rhonda Freed or Emily Cameron and enroll yourself into FSS! Be sure to bring your workbook with all of your answers written out!