Welcome to Achieving Life Balance: Coping With Stress @ Work and @ Home
Seminar Goals  <ul><li>Eliminate any misconceptions about stress management  </li></ul><ul><li>Learn to avoid or eliminate...
Stress is Life  <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ If you want to avoid worry live in a day-tight compartment...
Stress Busters  <ul><li>Questions Worth Answering: </li></ul><ul><li>What is creating stress in your life? </li></ul><ul><...
Life is About WIIFM’s <ul><li>Questions Worth Answering: </li></ul><ul><li>How satisfied are you with where you are in you...
What’s Your WIIFM? <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Those who cannot tell what they desire or expect still ...
The Attitude Challenge <ul><li>Does everyone have an attitude? </li></ul><ul><li>Are they all the same? </li></ul><ul><li>...
Attitude  <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Change what you can – influence what you will – and give up all ...
Your Attitude is a Choice <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Everything can be taken away but one thing: The ...
Choice  <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Once the  what  is decided the  how  always follows. We must not m...
Change Model  <ul><li>C  – Commit – to a new beginning  </li></ul><ul><li>H  – Habits – break old and start new  </li></ul...
Good Habits = Good Results <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ As long as you keep doing what you’ve been doin...
Change as Opportunities  <ul><li>Questions Worth Asking:  </li></ul><ul><li>Why must organizations change? </li></ul><ul><...
Stress? <ul><li>Questions Worth Answering:  </li></ul><ul><li>What is stress? </li></ul><ul><li>What do we know for certai...
Relax – You’re Alive  <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Bless this stress. It helps me see that I’m such a m...
Functional Dysfunctional Excitement Comfort Boredom Low Balanced High Frustration Stress Level
Three Methods for Coping with Stress <ul><li>Eliminate the stressor or change your response to it </li></ul><ul><li>Use th...
1. Most Critical Issues 2. 4. Least Critical Issues 3. Able to Change Difficult to Change High Priority Low Priority
Most Critical Issues  <ul><li>Your most critical stress issues are those you feel are a high priority to change and you ar...
Least Critical Issues  <ul><li>Your least critical stress issues are those with a low priority and are very difficult to c...
Balance <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too m...
The New Reality  <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ I thought 24/7 was a new kind of Mac’s Milk not a new way...
Just Say No  <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the no...
My De-Stressor  <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change...
Relationship Coping Resources <ul><li>Problem Solving  -- the ability to deal directly with the difficult situations you f...
Relationship Coping Resources <ul><li>Closeness  -- the degree to which you have developed a supportive social fabric in e...
Personal Coping Resources <ul><li>Self-Esteem   -- feeling good about yourself and perceiving yourself as having inherent ...
Personal Coping Resources <ul><li>Spiritual Beliefs  -- believing in a set of values external to yourself </li></ul><ul><l...
Problem Solving refers to your ability to deal directly with the difficult situations you face and make positive changes t...
To Improve Your Problem Solving Skills <ul><li>Deal with the problem as soon as you perceive it </li></ul><ul><li>Define t...
To Improve Your Problem Solving Skills <ul><li>Determine your desired outcome </li></ul><ul><li>Make a list of creative an...
Problems  <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expec...
Communication is the ability to share thoughts and feelings with others in order to promote mutual understanding, even und...
Communication Patterns <ul><li>Gender Patterns </li></ul><ul><li>Generational Patterns </li></ul><ul><li>Geographic Patter...
Communication Realities <ul><li>You cannot not communicate  </li></ul><ul><li>Whenever contact is made communication occur...
“ We only hear half of what is said to us, understand only half of that, and remember only half of that.” --Mignon McLaugh...
Active  Listening <ul><li>Listen to understand, not to judge </li></ul><ul><li>Focus on the message sent </li></ul><ul><li...
Listening Realities  <ul><li>Humans have the ability to listen at a rate of _______________ words per minute  </li></ul><u...
Effective Speaking <ul><li>Use “I” statements when you speak </li></ul><ul><li>Be respectfully assertive </li></ul><ul><li...
Speak with Purpose  <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Let us say what we feel, and feel what we say; let spe...
Closeness refers to the degree to which you have developed a supportive social fabric in each area of your life.
“ We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men...” --Herman Melville
Life is a TEAM Sport  <ul><li>T   –  Together  </li></ul><ul><li>E  –  Everyone  </li></ul><ul><li>A  –  Achieves  </li></...
“ Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.” --Henry Ford
Developing Closeness <ul><li>Make relationships a priority </li></ul><ul><li>Share your personal feelings </li></ul><ul><l...
Flexibility Indicates both the degree of  structure in your life and how  comfortable you are with situations that are uns...
Developing Flexibility <ul><li>Be open to diverse ideas </li></ul><ul><li>Brainstorm ideas without judging </li></ul><ul><...
“ The most successful people are those whose success is the result of steady accretion.  It is those people who carefully ...
<ul><li>For stressors you CAN change, develop a specific plan of action for creating change, then follow through with that...
<ul><li>Stress is not always bad.  Moderate stress can help you be more creative, energetic, focused, and productive </li>...
<ul><li>Problem Solving  -- the ability to deal directly with the difficult situations you face and make positive changes ...
<ul><li>Closeness  -- the degree to which you have developed a supportive social fabric in each area of life </li></ul><ul...
<ul><li>To Improve Problem Solving Skills: </li></ul><ul><li>Deal with the problem as soon as you perceive it </li></ul><u...
<ul><li>To Improve Listening Skills </li></ul><ul><li>Listen to understand </li></ul><ul><li>Focus on the message sent </l...
<ul><li>To Improve Speaking Skills: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Use “I” statements when you speak </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Be ...
<ul><li>To Develop Closeness : </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Make relationships a priority </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Share your p...
<ul><li>To Develop Greater Flexibility: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Be open to diverse ideas </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Brainsto...
<ul><li>C ommit yourself to a specific goal </li></ul><ul><li>H abits…break old and start new </li></ul><ul><li>A ction…ta...
7-Steps to Less Stress  <ul><li>It’s a Matter of Being FOCUSED©  </li></ul><ul><li>F  – Forgiving of others and yourself  ...
Your Reality Check  <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ You can either get  FOCUSED  or get STUFFED. The choic...
Thank You <ul><li>Thank you for participating in this workshop. I hope you got your WIIFM. </li></ul><ul><li>Brian Smith <...
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    1. 1. Welcome to Achieving Life Balance: Coping With Stress @ Work and @ Home
    2. 2. Seminar Goals <ul><li>Eliminate any misconceptions about stress management </li></ul><ul><li>Learn to avoid or eliminate stressors when possible </li></ul><ul><li>Build upon your current coping resources and stress-management skills </li></ul><ul><li>Develop new coping resources </li></ul>
    3. 3. Stress is Life <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ If you want to avoid worry live in a day-tight compartment and don’t stew about the future. Just live each day until bedtime.” </li></ul><ul><li>- Dale Carnegie </li></ul>
    4. 4. Stress Busters <ul><li>Questions Worth Answering: </li></ul><ul><li>What is creating stress in your life? </li></ul><ul><li>What can you do about it? </li></ul><ul><li>What are you prepared to do about it? </li></ul>
    5. 5. Life is About WIIFM’s <ul><li>Questions Worth Answering: </li></ul><ul><li>How satisfied are you with where you are in your career, your home or social life? </li></ul><ul><li>If you could make a change in your career, your home or your social life what would it be? </li></ul><ul><li>What do you need to do to make that happen? </li></ul>
    6. 6. What’s Your WIIFM? <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Those who cannot tell what they desire or expect still sigh and struggle with indefinite thoughts and vast wishes” </li></ul><ul><li>- Ralph Waldo Emerson </li></ul>
    7. 7. The Attitude Challenge <ul><li>Does everyone have an attitude? </li></ul><ul><li>Are they all the same? </li></ul><ul><li>Do you own 100% of yours? </li></ul><ul><li>Does your attitude have an impact on the outcome in any given situation? </li></ul>
    8. 8. Attitude <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Change what you can – influence what you will – and give up all of those things that you cannot control” </li></ul>
    9. 9. Your Attitude is a Choice <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Everything can be taken away but one thing: The last of human freedoms – To choose ones attitude in any given set of circumstances. To choose one’s own way” </li></ul><ul><li>- Viktor Frankl </li></ul>
    10. 10. Choice <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Once the what is decided the how always follows. We must not make the how an excuse for not facing and accepting the what.” </li></ul><ul><li>- Pearl S. Buck </li></ul>
    11. 11. Change Model <ul><li>C – Commit – to a new beginning </li></ul><ul><li>H – Habits – break old and start new </li></ul><ul><li>A – Action – take one step at a time </li></ul><ul><li>N – Never – never give up – be persistent </li></ul><ul><li>G – Goals – set SMART targets </li></ul><ul><li>E – Evaluate – your plan & reward yourself </li></ul>
    12. 12. Good Habits = Good Results <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ As long as you keep doing what you’ve been doing then you are going to keep on getting what you’ve been getting. Change the habit – change the result” </li></ul><ul><li>- Zig Ziglar </li></ul>
    13. 13. Change as Opportunities <ul><li>Questions Worth Asking: </li></ul><ul><li>Why must organizations change? </li></ul><ul><li>Why must you change? </li></ul><ul><li>What gets in the way of change? </li></ul>
    14. 14. Stress? <ul><li>Questions Worth Answering: </li></ul><ul><li>What is stress? </li></ul><ul><li>What do we know for certain about stress? </li></ul><ul><li>What do we know for certain that can help us cope with the negative health side-effects of stress? </li></ul>
    15. 15. Relax – You’re Alive <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Bless this stress. It helps me see that I’m such a mess” </li></ul><ul><li>- Loretta LaRoche </li></ul>
    16. 16. Functional Dysfunctional Excitement Comfort Boredom Low Balanced High Frustration Stress Level
    17. 17. Three Methods for Coping with Stress <ul><li>Eliminate the stressor or change your response to it </li></ul><ul><li>Use the coping resources available to you </li></ul><ul><li>Develop new coping resources </li></ul>
    18. 18. 1. Most Critical Issues 2. 4. Least Critical Issues 3. Able to Change Difficult to Change High Priority Low Priority
    19. 19. Most Critical Issues <ul><li>Your most critical stress issues are those you feel are a high priority to change and you are able to change them. If it is blocking you from achieving your goals then it should be a high priority. </li></ul>
    20. 20. Least Critical Issues <ul><li>Your least critical stress issues are those with a low priority and are very difficult to change. For those stressors that you can change - develop a plan. For those stressors that you can’t change - than you need to change your response to them. </li></ul>
    21. 21. Balance <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they’ve started.” </li></ul><ul><li>- David Allen </li></ul>
    22. 22. The New Reality <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ I thought 24/7 was a new kind of Mac’s Milk not a new way of life. This new technology was suppose to improve the quality of our lives – not compound it” </li></ul>
    23. 23. Just Say No <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists of eliminating the non-essentials.” </li></ul>
    24. 24. My De-Stressor <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you are thinking about it” </li></ul><ul><li>- Mary Engelbreit </li></ul>
    25. 25. Relationship Coping Resources <ul><li>Problem Solving -- the ability to deal directly with the difficult situations you face and make positive changes to resolve them. </li></ul><ul><li>Communication -- the ability to share thoughts and feelings with others in order to promote mutual understanding, even under difficult circumstances. </li></ul>
    26. 26. Relationship Coping Resources <ul><li>Closeness -- the degree to which you have developed a supportive social fabric in each area of life </li></ul><ul><li>Flexibility -- the degree of organization in your life and how comfortable you are with unstructured and unpredictable situations </li></ul>
    27. 27. Personal Coping Resources <ul><li>Self-Esteem -- feeling good about yourself and perceiving yourself as having inherent worth as a person </li></ul><ul><li>Mastery -- feeling competent and in control of your life </li></ul><ul><li>Social Support -- having a network of friends and family you can count on </li></ul>
    28. 28. Personal Coping Resources <ul><li>Spiritual Beliefs -- believing in a set of values external to yourself </li></ul><ul><li>Nutrition -- dietary habits and motivations </li></ul><ul><li>Exercise -- physical activity that maximizes or minimizes your ability to cope with stress </li></ul>
    29. 29. Problem Solving refers to your ability to deal directly with the difficult situations you face and make positive changes to resolve them.
    30. 30. To Improve Your Problem Solving Skills <ul><li>Deal with the problem as soon as you perceive it </li></ul><ul><li>Define the problem carefully </li></ul><ul><li>Separate people from the problem </li></ul><ul><li>Separate emotions from the problem </li></ul>
    31. 31. To Improve Your Problem Solving Skills <ul><li>Determine your desired outcome </li></ul><ul><li>Make a list of creative and practical solutions </li></ul><ul><li>Don’t get trapped into thinking there is only “one” resolution </li></ul>
    32. 32. Problems <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem.” </li></ul><ul><li>- Theodore Rubin </li></ul>
    33. 33. Communication is the ability to share thoughts and feelings with others in order to promote mutual understanding, even under difficult circumstances.
    34. 34. Communication Patterns <ul><li>Gender Patterns </li></ul><ul><li>Generational Patterns </li></ul><ul><li>Geographic Patterns </li></ul><ul><li>Cultural Patterns </li></ul><ul><li>Educational Patterns </li></ul><ul><li>Occupational Patterns </li></ul>
    35. 35. Communication Realities <ul><li>You cannot not communicate </li></ul><ul><li>Whenever contact is made communication occurs </li></ul><ul><li>Meanings are in people not in words </li></ul><ul><li>Meanings cannot be transferred from one mind to another … only words can be transferred. </li></ul>
    36. 36. “ We only hear half of what is said to us, understand only half of that, and remember only half of that.” --Mignon McLaughlin
    37. 37. Active Listening <ul><li>Listen to understand, not to judge </li></ul><ul><li>Focus on the message sent </li></ul><ul><li>Use “reflective listening” to summarize the other person’s message </li></ul><ul><li>Praise others for sharing </li></ul>
    38. 38. Listening Realities <ul><li>Humans have the ability to listen at a rate of _______________ words per minute </li></ul><ul><li>Humans have the ability to speak at a rate of _______________ words per minute </li></ul><ul><li>That gives humans ________ words per minute to tune out. </li></ul><ul><li>- Dr. Ralph Nichols </li></ul>
    39. 39. Effective Speaking <ul><li>Use “I” statements when you speak </li></ul><ul><li>Be respectfully assertive </li></ul><ul><li>Speak for a purpose </li></ul><ul><li>As for feedback </li></ul>
    40. 40. Speak with Purpose <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ Let us say what we feel, and feel what we say; let speech harmonize with life” </li></ul><ul><li>- Seneca </li></ul>
    41. 41. Closeness refers to the degree to which you have developed a supportive social fabric in each area of your life.
    42. 42. “ We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men...” --Herman Melville
    43. 43. Life is a TEAM Sport <ul><li>T – Together </li></ul><ul><li>E – Everyone </li></ul><ul><li>A – Achieves </li></ul><ul><li>M – More </li></ul>
    44. 44. “ Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.” --Henry Ford
    45. 45. Developing Closeness <ul><li>Make relationships a priority </li></ul><ul><li>Share your personal feelings </li></ul><ul><li>Find quality time together </li></ul><ul><li>Focus on the positive and give praise </li></ul><ul><li>Focus on future goals </li></ul>
    46. 46. Flexibility Indicates both the degree of structure in your life and how comfortable you are with situations that are unstructured and unpredictable
    47. 47. Developing Flexibility <ul><li>Be open to diverse ideas </li></ul><ul><li>Brainstorm ideas without judging </li></ul><ul><li>Avoid judging “right” or “wrong” </li></ul><ul><li>“Try on” other people’s ideas </li></ul>
    48. 48. “ The most successful people are those whose success is the result of steady accretion. It is those people who carefully advance step by step, their minds becoming wider and wider, and progressively better able to grasp any theme or situation, persevering in what they know to be practical, and concentrating their thought upon it, who are bound to succeed in the greatest degree.” --Alexander Graham Bell
    49. 49. <ul><li>For stressors you CAN change, develop a specific plan of action for creating change, then follow through with that plan </li></ul><ul><li>Change your response to those stressors you CANNOT change </li></ul><ul><li>Improving stress management capabilities can increase personal and business productivity, emotional well-being, and relationships </li></ul>Achieving Life Balance
    50. 50. <ul><li>Stress is not always bad. Moderate stress can help you be more creative, energetic, focused, and productive </li></ul><ul><li>When stress increases beyond our ability to easily cope with it, we begin to feel its negative effects </li></ul>Achieving Life Balance
    51. 51. <ul><li>Problem Solving -- the ability to deal directly with the difficult situations you face and make positive changes to resolve them </li></ul><ul><li>Communication -- the ability to share thoughts and feelings with others in order to promote mutual understanding, even under difficult circumstances </li></ul>Achieving Life Balance
    52. 52. <ul><li>Closeness -- the degree to which you have developed a supportive social fabric in each area of life </li></ul><ul><li>Flexibility -- the degree of structure in your life and how comfortable you are with situations that are unstructured and unpredictable </li></ul>Achieving Life Balance
    53. 53. <ul><li>To Improve Problem Solving Skills: </li></ul><ul><li>Deal with the problem as soon as you perceive it </li></ul><ul><li>Define the problem carefully </li></ul><ul><li>Separate the people from the problem </li></ul><ul><li>Determine your desired outcome </li></ul><ul><li>Don’t get trapped into thinking there is only “one” resolution </li></ul>Achieving Life Balance
    54. 54. <ul><li>To Improve Listening Skills </li></ul><ul><li>Listen to understand </li></ul><ul><li>Focus on the message sent </li></ul><ul><li>Use “reflective listening” to summarize the other person’s message </li></ul><ul><li>Praise others for sharing </li></ul>Achieving Life Balance
    55. 55. <ul><li>To Improve Speaking Skills: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Use “I” statements when you speak </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Be assertive </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Speak for a purpose </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Ask for feedback </li></ul></ul>Achieving Life Balance
    56. 56. <ul><li>To Develop Closeness : </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Make relationships a priority </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Share your personal feelings </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Find quality time together </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Focus on the positive and give praise </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Focus on future goals </li></ul></ul>Achieving Life Balance
    57. 57. <ul><li>To Develop Greater Flexibility: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Be open to diverse ideas </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Brainstorm ideas without judging </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Avoid judging “right” or “wrong” </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>“ Try on” other people’s ideas </li></ul></ul>Achieving Life Balance
    58. 58. <ul><li>C ommit yourself to a specific goal </li></ul><ul><li>H abits…break old and start new </li></ul><ul><li>A ction…take one step at a time </li></ul><ul><li>N ever give up…lapses might occur </li></ul><ul><li>G oal-oriented…focus on the positive </li></ul><ul><li>E valuate and reward yourself </li></ul>Achieving Life Balance
    59. 59. 7-Steps to Less Stress <ul><li>It’s a Matter of Being FOCUSED© </li></ul><ul><li>F – Forgiving of others and yourself </li></ul><ul><li>O – Organized – invest time wisely </li></ul><ul><li>C – Consistent – develop good habits </li></ul><ul><li>U – Understanding – show empathy </li></ul><ul><li>S – Sincere – help others be successful </li></ul><ul><li>E – Energized – live your dreams </li></ul><ul><li>D – Determined – never give up </li></ul>
    60. 60. Your Reality Check <ul><li>Worth Remembering … </li></ul><ul><li>“ You can either get FOCUSED or get STUFFED. The choice is yours” </li></ul>
    61. 61. Thank You <ul><li>Thank you for participating in this workshop. I hope you got your WIIFM. </li></ul><ul><li>Brian Smith </li></ul><ul><li>Power Link Dynamics </li></ul><ul><li>[email_address] </li></ul><ul><li>www.pldynamics.com </li></ul>
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