“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” – Tony Robbins This post is my attempt to surface and share some of my favorite lessons from Tony Robbins. Tony Robbins is a living example of smart and gets results. He walks his talk. He’s a powerful combination of action, passion, and commitment to continuous improvement. When it comes to unleashing your best, Tony Robbins sets the bar. I actually think one of his super skills is bringing NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) to the masses and making it practical.
While it’s always a challenge to distill somebody’s greatness into a set of lessons, it’s especially challenging with Tony Robbins given his depth and breadth in the field of human excellence. He’s paved so many paths, turned over so many stones, and shared such a wealth of know-how, that I found it tough to pick the right lessons to share. It was that single experience that both convinced me he was the real deal, and that skills can make all the difference in life. Without further ado, here are my top 25 lessons from Tony Robbins.
Lesson 1 : 3 levels of mastery. Robbins says we move through three levels of mastery: intellectual, emotional, and physical. We might understand something intellectually, but not have any emotional reaction to it or be able to actually do it. When we do know something at the emotional level, we have an emotional reaction. This is a simple, but powerful model for thinking about stages of mastery, and it actually parallels Bloom’s Taxonomy.
Lesson 2 : 4 classes of experience. Robbins outlines four types of experience as a frame for thinking about what types of experience to do more of, and what to do less of: Good for you, good for other people; good for you, bad for other people, bad for you, good for other people, and bad for you, bad for other people.
Lesson 3 : 6 human needs. We go through cycles of needs and some seem at odds. Robbins says our 6 human needs are: certainty, uncertainty, significance, connection, growth, contribution. We have a need for certainty until we are certain, and then we need surprise and variety. We have a need to stand out and be significant and make our mark on the world, but we also have a need to blend in and be part of the crowd. We have a need to experience growth and to make our contribution and give back to others.
Lesson 4 : Act on it. Knowledge is power, and action is results. Start with something simple and build momentum. Decide and act. Take massive action. Have a bias for action. Take consistent action. Throw massive action at your problems. Robbins teaches us that smart’s not enough. If we’re smart, but don’t take action, we can end up smart and broke, smart and fat, or smart and alone. We need to take consistent actions and improve our results. Along those lines, it’s not enough to know what to do, you need to do what you know.
Lesson 5 : Ask better questions. Learn how to ask better questions to get more effective results. Thinking is asking and answering questions. If you want better answers, ask better questions. Take control of your question and answering process by asking empowering questions. Don’t ask “why” question (e.g. why can’t I do this?), ask “how” questions (e.g. how can I do this?) Ask happy questions or inspiring questions. Use precision and ask precisely instead of generalizing or abstracting.
Lesson 6 : Be a student of possibilities. Robbins teaches us to be open to other possibilities and continuous learning. Don’t let your attitudes and beliefs limit you. Change your internal representation – your belief about what’s possible. Find ways that work for you to uncover and change your limiting beliefs.
Lesson 7 : Be resourceful. To be resourceful, ask resourceful questions. (e.g. How might you solve this? Who can help? How can you leverage what you’ve got? ) By asking your brain the right questions, you’ll engage your RAS (reticular activating system) to help you solve your problems.
Lesson 8 : Build a library of profound knowledge. Find reference examples of greatness. Create a personal knowledge base of success patterns and distinctions. Study and collect stories of successful people that you can learn from and inspire you.
Lesson 9 : Change the frame to change your game. How you look at things determines what you think, feel, and do. A frame is how you see things. Reframe things to change your perspective. Practice the power of perspective and add new lenses you can use to see things a new way.
Lesson 10 : Focus on continuous improvement. Achieve physical, mental, financial, and spiritual wealth. Robbins suggests adopting a principle he calls CANI. It stands for Constant And Never Ending Improvement. According to Robbins, “You’re growing or dying … you’re either climbing or sliding.”
Lesson 11 : Know your rules. We all carry around a bunch of rules about things. When you have conflict, it’s usually because of a conflict in rules. Robbins makes the point that what you don’t know can hurt you, and by dumping it out, you know whether the rules are helping you or getting in the way, and you can better meet expectations for yourself or others.
Lesson 12 : Learn effective techniques for learning faster with improved results. Skill takes repetition and practice. Robbins says, “Repetition is the mother of skill.” Use repetition to improve your skills. If you use repetition with improvement, you create life mastery. People hate repetition, but it creates power. Be willing to do the boring things everyday to improve yourself. Don’t just do the same things over and over – improve the actions.
Lesson 13 : Learnhow to handle and solve problems more effectively. We become more of who we are by the problems we solve. Robbins says, “The only people without problems are those in cemeteries.” You improve your ability to solve problems by framing and reframing problems and by improving your communication to yourself and others. Adopt a healthy attitude towards your problems. Reframe problems as “challenges.” Adopt the belief that “resistance makes you stronger” and that we expand and grow ourselves the most by solving problems.
Lesson 14 : Learn how to set more effective goals. Use goals to help shape your destiny and unleash your best. To make your goals sticky, have a compelling reason for them. If you can’t write at least a paragraph on why you need to complete the goal, then it’s not compelling enough. Either find the right goal or find the right reason. Have a timeframe on your goals and start taking simple actions towards your goals, a day at a time. Robbins suggests, “stay committed to your goals, but flexible in your approach.”
Lesson 15 : Learn how to master your body. Robbins encourages several success patterns here including, breathing effectively, eating water-rich foods, eating less, and combining foods effectively. According to Robbins, if you like to eat a lot, the secret of eating a lot, is eating a little, because then you’ll be around long enough to eat a lot. Aside from learning from experts, Robbins also suggests exploring Natural Hygiene.
Lesson 16 : Learn how to master your communication with yourself and others. Robbins teaches us that the quality of your life is the quality of your communication, with ourselves and others. Learn more effective self-talk. You can be your best friend or your own worst enemy. Go from critic to coach. Robbins answers the question, “Why do we communicate?” We communicate to feel good or expand the feeling, get rid of a negative feeling, or to change a result. Focus on rapport before influence.
Lesson 17 : Learn how to master your emotions. Master your emotional intelligence. Robbins asks, “Why do we do anything we do?” – It’s to change our state or to change how we feel. Make positive emotions a habit. Don’t let other people push your buttons. Learn how to run your emotions or they’ll run you. Avoid throwing your emotions into a pendulum, by leading a balanced emotional life. Learn how to change your state. Motion creates emotion. Change your physiology to change how you feel.
Lesson 18 : Learn how to master your energy. It’s tough to go out and change the world if you don’t have the energy. Eat well, get enough sleep, and pay attention to how blood sugar levels make you feel.
Lesson 19 : Learn how to master your mind. Learn how your brain works to gain pleasure and avoid pain. Direct your mind with focus and questions. You get what you focus on. To change your focus, change your questions.
Lesson 20 : Learn how to master your relationships. Nurture and grow your relationships. People are your greatest resource. Make everyone your mentor and learn from everyone you know. Never question intent. You can question behavior, but not intent. When you question intent, such as “You don’t care about me” or “You wanted to hurt me”, judging can destroy communication.
Lesson 21 : Live with passion. Find your passion and unleash it in others. Robbins teaches us to “live with passion” and “happily achieve over achieve to be happy.” Follow your heart. Passion is our fuel for life. It’s our drive. Make work your play and play at your work.
Lesson 22 : Make meaning. You’re the most important meaning maker in your life. You determine the meaning that comes from something; it then becomes a reality to you. Choose a meaning that makes you more effective. Metaphors are a powerful way to shape how you think about things. Use metaphors that empower you.
Lesson 23 : Model success. Learn and model the success of others. Robbins teaches us that “success leaves clues.” Find the people that are the best at what they do and use them as reference examples. Find real-world examples of people or things with the results you want.
Lesson 24 : Raise your standards. If you want to dramatically change your life, raise your standards. Stop accepting certain things. Turn your “SHOULDs” into “MUSTs” and your “some days” into “today.”
Lesson 25 : Test it yourself. Does it work? The only way to really know is to test it for yourself. Robbins says don’t take his word for it, try it out for yourself. Let results be your judge.
Tony Robbins has the perfect way of saying some things that you already know to be true, but he makes them hit home, and he has a way with coming up with some incredibly profound insights. That’s a lot of lessons. Tony Robbins is a true careerist of personal development. He has accumulated so much practical knowledge in this field and yet he’s still capable to focus on what is important.
“Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” Thank You Very Much SompongYusoontorn