1. “I will get to it someday.”
Someday doesn’t exist on the calendar and when you don’t put a time
frame around your wishes and dreams, then it’s far less likely to happen.
Even if it’s a year out, it still gives you something to look forward to with a
definite date. Instead, I want you to say: “I’ll get to it in June or next year
around summer time….”
2. “I don’t have a choice.”
Yes you do. You always have a choice. By declaring that you don’t have a
choice, you are still making a decision, albeit a poor one. When you say
this, you strip yourself of all power and control over your life and play the
victim. Don’t do it. Ban the phrase. Instead, I want you to say: “I have a
choice and I made this one.”
3. “They are probably right, so I must be wrong.”
We all see the world differently. It’s OK to go off the beaten path, as long
as you know why going a different way is right for you. Some people may
resent the freedom that you create in your life when you choose to be true
to yourself. If you come across these people, ignore them and carry on.
4. “This sucks.”
Throughout your life you will meet two kinds of people: those who are
a drain on your energy and try to derail your dreams, and those who
give you the energy to pursue your dreams. Ignore the first kind and
cherish the second. People that doubt, judge, and disrespect you are
not worth your time and attention.
5. “I hate you.”
Sometimes we don’t forgive people because they deserve it; we forgive
them because they need it, and because we cannot move forward
without it. To forgive is to rediscover the inner peace and purpose that
at first you thought someone took away when they betrayed you.
7. “I missed my chance.”
Maria Robinson said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but
anyone can start today and make a new ending.” This is your life; shape it,
or someone else will try for you. Strength shows not only in the ability to
hold on, but in the ability to start over when you must. You may not be
there yet, but you are closer than you were yesterday.
8. “Never mind… it’s not important…”
Speak up. Don’t hide your thoughts and feelings, especially
when you can make a difference. Be brave. Say what needs
to be said. There’s no greater sadness than holding on to
the words you never had the courage to speak.
9. “I am not good enough.”
Why do you even make this decision before you even give
yourself a chance? Instead, I want you to say: “I may not know
who to do this, but I can figure it out, I can learn, I can find the
answers, I CAN do it.” Or simply: “Yes, I am enough.”
10. “It’s their fault – they are to blame.”
Don’t try to put other people down in order to feel better. These
feelings will never serve you well in getting you what you want.
Instead, I want you to say: “I am responsible for my own life.”
11. “I wish I could do that.”
Saying this takes away all your chances of actually doing the thing in
question. You play the weak victim of circumstance instead of working
on how you can actually do that yourself. Instead, I want you to say: “I
plan on doing that.” “I might just do that – that sounds interesting.”
12. “They just got lucky.”
When you say that about others, you show your jealousy and also make
the success all about these outside factors that you cannot control,
and therefore, sadly, they cannot happen to you. Instead, I want you to
be happy for the other people’s success: “I am very happy for them.”
13. “Everyone would …”
You have no idea how the whole world will react to your decisions or
your actions. Most likely, few care as much as you. Be less judgmental
and more embracing of the world around you. Instead, I want you to
say “It’s possible most – or some – people would react this way.”
14. “I am busy – I don’t have time.”
We always make time for the things that matter to us, even when we
are madly busy. So in fact, you just don’t want to make time for that
particular activity in question. Instead, I want you to say: “I am just
over-committed right now.” “I am not able to make time right now.”
15. “If only …”
If only phrase robs you of any power of the present and probably the
future, and you go back into this blame mode instead of accepting things
for what they are and not being in a wishful-thinking state. Instead, I want
you to say: “We can’t change what happened but we can change what’s
happening right now.”
16. “I’m a failure.”
You are not a failure, in any way shape or form. Unless you give up on
yourself and insist on it. Then all hope is lost. So just don’t give up.
Believe. Trust. Have faith. You are alive, and you can still put your dent
in the universe. Alright?
17. “I’m ashamed.”
Your family is not ashamed of you. You have not let them down. You are not
a disappointment just because you didn’t do what they thought you should
do with your life. Don’t make assumptions, but also don’t ride your
happiness on their expectations. Please say, “I’m me and I have my way.”
18. “I don’t know what to do with my life!"
You are not the only one that does not know what to do with your life.
Everyone goes through a process of figuring it out. The more
successful they are, the more twisted their journey. You can’t compare
their end result to your beginning. It’s not fair! Focus on your journey.
19. “I’m lonely."
You are not born with desperation or loneliness like you are with brown
eyes or blonde hair. It is not who you are. You can feel desperate at times –
sure, who doesn’t – but you are not desperation itself. Loneliness may take
hold of you but it can also let go of you. It does not attach to you like super
glue. It is a condition that you can overcome and get past.
20. “I’m Not Happy."
Of course you deserve it, get any opposing thought out of your head.
Think bigger about who you are and what you can do for your world
and happiness will flood your home and your heart. In a good way of
course. Please say, “I’m happy right now at the present moment.”
Thank You Very Much
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