2. # 1. They leave space to love themselves too.
Happy people know self-love isn’t selfish. They put their needs first
because they see the power of showing up fully for others. When you
take care of yourself, you are better able to help the people you care
about. If you sacrifice all your needs in order to help them, you’re only
showing up as a shell of your true self.
3. # 2. They focus on effectiveness over popularity.
Never confuse popularity with effectiveness. Being popular means
you’re liked for awhile. Being effective means you’ve made a
difference. And it’s this feeling of knowing you made a difference
that matters in the end.
4. # 3. They don’t get caught up in other people’s drama.
The happiest people care less about what random people say about
them, especially if their remarks are rude. In fact, happy people are
often thankful for all the rude, obnoxious, and difficult people they
meet in life, because these people serve as important reminders of
how NOT to be. They simply smile and walk the other way.
5. # 4. They give to others whenever they are able.
In many cases, providing social support is actually more beneficial to
our happiness than receiving it. Happy people know this, which is
precisely why they are always looking for ways to help others, while
unhappy people stand around asking, “What’s in it for me?
6. # 5. They say “no” when they need to.
Saying “yes” to everything puts you on the fast track to being
miserable. We all have obligations, but a comfortable pace can only be
found by properly managing your yeses. So stop saying “yes” when you
want to say “no.” You can’t always be agreeable; that’s how people
take advantage of you. Sometimes you have to set clear boundaries.
7. # 6. They sincerely practice gratitude.
Gratitude is arguably the king of happiness. Consider how very
fortunate you are. Consider it every day. The more you count
your blessings, the more blessings there will be to count, and
the happier you will be.
8. # 7. They cultivate optimism.
No matter what the situation, the successful diva is the gal who will
always find a way to put an optimistic spin on it. She knows failure
only as an opportunity to grow and learn a new lesson from
life. People who think optimistically see the world as a place packed
with endless opportunities, especially in trying times.
9. # 8. They develop strategies for coping in hard times.
It’s hard to be happy when tragedy strikes, for instance. But who lives
longer and fares better after problems? How you respond to the hard times
is what shapes your character. Remember, you become what you
believe. Look at things objectively. Find the lesson and move forward. Don’t
let a hard lesson harden your heart for too long.
10. # 9. They are focused on the present.
Never let your past dictate who you are today, but let it be a lesson that’s
part of who you will become tomorrow. No regrets. No looking back in
anger. Just hold on to life and move forward. We have no way of knowing
what lies ahead, but that’s what makes the journey even more exciting –
that’s what makes life worth living today. Live in the present.
11. # 10. They are fully committed to their top priorities.
If you’re interested in something, you will do what is convenient. If you’re
committed to something, you will do whatever it takes. Period. And
ultimately, it’s commitment that creates outcomes worth smiling about.
12. # 11. They savor life’s little joys.
Happiness is a how, not a what – a mindset, not a destination. Happiness is
enjoying all the small things, while chasing after the big ones. When we
neglect to appreciate, we rob the moment of its magic. It’s the simple
things in life that can be the most rewarding if we remember to fully
13. # 12. They embrace the impermanence of life.
Just because something doesn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t
worth your while. As we grow older and wiser, we begin to realize what
we need and what we need to leave behind. Sometimes there are
things in our lives that aren’t meant to stay. And sometimes walking
away is a step forward.
14. # 13. They spend money on experiences.
“Experiential purchases” tend to make us happier for two key reasons:
1. Great experiences improve over time when we reminisce about
them. 2. Experiences are often social events that get us out of our
house and interacting with people we care about.
15. # 14. They dedicate time to meaningful pursuits
When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly
on it, it’s easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most
people do not honor even half of their dreams and end up dying
knowing that it was due to choices they made, or didn’t make. Good
health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.
16. # 15. They live a life they actually want to live.
Your hopes, your dreams, your goals… matter! Make choices that feel
right. Surround yourself with people who support and care not for the
“you” they want you to be, but for the real you. Say things you really want
to say to the people who need to hear them. Express your feelings. And
most of all, realize that happiness in most situations is a choice.