We never know when everything will change. When great opportunities
will pass. When everything we take for granted will be taken away. We
don’t know when later will be too late. Don’t let this reality depress
you; let it motivate you. Let it push you to say what you’ve been
meaning to say all along, to others and to yourself…
1. “I love you.”
If you appreciate someone today, tell them. If you love someone today,
show them. Hearts are often confused and broken by thoughtful words
left unspoken, and loving deeds left undone. There might not be a
tomorrow. Today is the day to express your love and admiration.
2. “Thank you.”
For my 17th birthday, my grandfather gave me four used flannel shirts he no
longer needed. Sadly, I thought they were an odd gift and I wasn’t
thankful. He died two days later from a sudden heart attack. The shirts
were the last gifts he ever gave me. I regret the small thing I didn’t say
when I had the chance: “Thank you Grandpa. That’s so thoughtful of you.”
3. “I am a good person who is worthy of my
own love and respect.”
The truth is, a partner, or even just a friend, can add lots of beauty to
your life, but they can’t fill a void that exists within you. You alone are
responsible for you own fulfillment. If you feel hopelessly lonely
whenever you’re alone, it means you’re in bad company. It means you
need to work on your relationship with yourself first.
4. “I can’t always win, but I can always learn and grow.”
Don’t confuse poor decision-making with your destiny. Own your mistakes. It’s
OK; we all make them. Learn from life experiences so they can empower
you! The knowledge that you are responsible for your actions and attitudes
does not need to be discouraging either, because it means you are free to
change your destiny.
5. “It’s time to do something positive.”
Somewhere within each complaint is a genuine desire to improve things,
but the complaint by itself is never enough to make it happen. So make the
choice not to aggravate a bad situation with your complaints. Choose
instead to improve it with your positive thoughts, ideas and actions.
6. “I CAN do this!”
What stops you is your belief that you can’t get past the obstacle. The
problem is, you’re waiting for perfect conditions that don’t exist. Don’t
make excuses for why you can’t get it done. Focus on all the reasons
why you must make it happen. There will always be challenges. And
there will always be things you can do to grow beyond them.
7. “Their drama is NOT mine to deal with.”
Honestly, you can’t save most people from themselves, so don’t get sucked
too deep into their drama. They don’t want their lives fixed by YOU. They
don’t want their problems solved, or their messes cleaned up. Because
what would they have left? They don’t know and they aren’t ready to know
yet. And it’s not your job to tell them.
8. “I’m sorry.”
The first to apologize is the strongest, and the first to move forward is the
happiest. Always. And of course, don’t bother apologizing if you’re just
going to continue doing the things you said sorry for. Say it and mean
it. Look the person in the eyes when you say it, and feel it in your bones.
9. “I forgive you.”
Forgive anyway, for your own sake, and then let what’s meant to be,
BE. Forgiveness allows you to focus on the future without combating the
past. Without forgiveness, wounds can never be healed, and progress can
never be made. What happened in the past is just one chapter. Don’t close
the book; just turn the page.
10. “Life right now is pretty darn good.”
Some people wait all day for 5pm, all week for Friday, all year for the
holidays, all their lives for happiness. Don’t be one of them. Don’t wait
until your life is almost over to realize how good it has been. The good
life begins right now, when you stop waiting for a better one.