Unfortunately we all have unhealthy personalities buried deep within us that have the potentialto negatively impact our lives. Although we are all human and have our own ‘personality issues’,some ‘issues’ are, quite frankly, toxic. They are toxic to our happiness. They are toxic to ourrelationships. They are toxic to our self-esteem. And they are toxic to our dreams.
#1 : The negativity committeeYou can never fail in life or love; you just produce results. It’s up to you how youinterpret those results. Positive thinking is the ability to feel negative when youhave to and still maintain enough hope to keep on going. You cannot tailor-makethe situations in life, but you can tailor-make the attitudes to fit those situations.
You must view your life through a positive lens. Instead of slappingyour forehead and asking, “What was I thinking?” you must breathe and ask the more encouraging question, “What was I learning?”
#2 : The hoarder of pain and lossOne of the hardest lessons in life is letting go - whether it’s guilt, anger, love orloss. Change is never easy – you fight to hold on, and you fight to let go. Butoftentimes letting go is the healthiest path forward.
You‟ve got to emotionally free yourself from the thingsthat once meant a lot to you, so you can move beyond the past and the pain it brings you.
#3 : The jealous competitorDon’t be jealous of others. Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessingsinstead of your own. Stop comparing your journey with everyone else’s. Your journeyis YOUR journey, NOT a competition. You are in competition with one person and oneperson only – yourself.
You are competing to be the best you can be. If you want to measure your progress, compare yourself to who you were yesterday.
#4 : The maskNo matter what age, race, sex, or sexuality you are, underneath all your externaldecorations you are a pure, beautiful being – each and every one of us are. Weeach have light to shine, and missions to accomplish. Celebrate being different,off the beaten path, a little on the weird side, your own special creation.
If you find yourself feeling like a fish out of water, by all means find a new river to swim in. But DO NOT change who you are; BE who you are.
#5 : The superficial judgeDon’t always judge a person by what they show you. Remember, what you’ve seenis oftentimes only what that person has chosen to show you, or what they were drivento show based on their inner stress and pain.
Alas, when another person tries to make you suffer, it is usually because they suffer deep within themselves. Their suffering is simply spilling over. They do not need punishment or ridicule, they need help.
#6 : The busy bodyIt is extremely healthy to spend time in solitude. You need to be alonesometimes, to think and relax in a peaceful environment where you arenot defined by anyone else.
Today, take some time out to take care of yourself.
#7 : The perfectionistAs human beings, we often chase hypothetical, static states of perfection. We do so whenwe are searching for the perfect house, job, friend, or lover. The problem is that perfectiondoesn’t exist in a static state. Because life is a continual journey, constantly evolving andchanging. Perfect house, job, friend, or lover will eventually fade to a state of imperfection.
But with a little patience and an open mind, over time, that imperfect houseevolves into a comfortable home. That imperfect job evolves into a rewarding career. That imperfect friend evolves into a steady shoulder to lean on. And that imperfect lover evolves into a reliable lifelong companion.
#8 : The cheaterCheating is a choice, not a mistake, and not an excuse! If you decide to cheat, andyou succeed in cheating someone out of something, don’t think that this person is afool. Realize that this person trusted you much more than you ever deserved. Bebigger than that.
Don‟t do immoral things simply because you can. Don‟t cheat. Be honest with yourself and everyone else. Do theright thing. Integrity is the essence of everything successful.
#9 : The victimDon’t let your dreams waste away on another person’s promise. Stop givingopportunities to people who make you feel inferior and let you down as soonas it’s convenient for them.
Saying “no” to the „wrong‟ people gives you the time and resources required to say “yes” to „right‟ people and the „right‟opportunities. Stand up for yourself and take charge of your life.
#10 : The procrastinatorYou don’t have to see the whole staircase, you just have to take the first step; and the firststep to living the life you want is slowly leaving the life you don’t want. Taking this first stepis always the hardest. But then each subsequent step gets easier and easier. And witheach step you get closer and closer to the life you seek.
Until eventually, what had once been invisible, starts to becomevisible. And what had once felt unattainable, becomes a reality. Thank You Very Much Sompong Yusoontorn