"Mens natures are alike; it istheir habits thatseparate them."
About 2500 years ago there lived a man calledConfucius. He was Chinese philosopher and thinker and he has had a big influence on life and thought systemsin countries like China, Korea and Japan for a long, long time. His teachings became the system of philosophy called Confucianism. Today Id like to share a few of my favorite happiness tips from Confucius.
Habit # 1 : What goes around, comes around.A very simple rule for how life often works. The Law of Reciprocity is strong in people. How you treatothers, they are likely to treat you. So be honest and think about what you do to others and whatthey are doing to you. And think about how you can change and improve what you do to them.
"What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others."
Habit # 2 : You have to do to understand.This is a key piece of advice. Its easy to confuse what you read in a book or see happen to someoneelse as having an idea of how it is to do or experience such a thing for yourself. Sometimes it givesyou a good idea of what it is about. Other times its quite different than you thought it would be. Thekey to really understanding what something is about is to do it yourself.
I hear and I forget. I see and I remember.I do and I understand.
Habit # 3 : Shoot for somethingThe most important thing is to start and to do. You may fail, you may stumble. And thatsOK. You may not wind up exactly where you wanted to go. And thats OK too. But if youdont try then nothing will ever get started. Youll probably just spend days, months andyears sitting around waiting for something to happen.
"If you shoot for the stars andhit the moon, its OK. But youvegot to shoot for something. A lot of people dont even shoot."
Habit # 4 : Focus on what you want.Changing what you think about most of the time can change the world around you radically.Things you never noticed before come into focus. If you replace negative thoughts with positivethoughts then you will probably start to take more positive action in your world and so your worldtends to become a better world. And so a positive, upward spiral of thought and action can grow.
"The more man meditates upongood thoughts, the better will behis world and the world at large."
Habit # 5 : Let go of the past.Now, just saying that you should drop negative stuff that happened to you in the past is easy. Doing itisnt always that easy. These memories have a tendency to want to cling to you. Or jump out at youonce again even though you thought you had moved past them. But with time, they can becomeless and less frequent visitors. Until one day, you may even have forgotten about them altogether.
"Things that are done, it is needless to speak about...things that are past, it is needless to blame."
Habit # 6 : You are here.You are right here right now. Most of the moments you spend thinking and feeling about the pastor future is simply you being stuck in an unnecessary habit and it is a distraction from what is herein front of you. So return to where you are right now by focusing on your breathing for a minute ortwo. Or by focusing on what is in front of you and around you right now. Then be where you are.
"And remember, no matterwhere you go, there you are."
Habit # 7 : Delay the impulse and avoid the consequences.No matter if you train your mind, you are still human and in the heat of the moment its easy totake less helpful path. In those moments its good to look into the future. It is easy to get lost inthe anger and act based upon that. But is it worth it? And what may happen if you do? Whenanger rises, take 10 breaths and think about that.
"When anger rises, think of the consequences."
Habit # 8 : Examine yourselfOur primary work lies within ourselves: to work on ourselves and improve will automatically takecare of the outside world if we use our abilities then. "When we see men of a contrary character, weshould turn inwards and examine ourselves." Success and happiness can only be found by workingon ourselves. It also entails the spiritual message to look inside and to discover ourselves fully.
"If you look into your own heart, and you find nothing wrong there, what is there to worry about? What is there to fear?"
Habit # 9 : Look at things as they areHere we have to look at things as they are. Just like a newborn child would look at things. Thenwe are able to really see again, without instant labeling of what we see and therefore onlyreally seeing our label. If we become able to do this – just for a second without judgment, wecan see that everything in nature is as it should be. And in this natural perfection lies beauty.
"Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it."
Habit # 10 : Recognize the simplicity of life.The mind loves to think. Dont get lost in details and unimportant things. Realize what is mostimportant in your life and discard what you dont need. Then spend more time and energyon the important things in your life. And stop thinking so much and instead take action togain a better understanding of life and of yourself.
"Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated."
Many of them are universal and timeless in their beautiful and simple truth and they are asvalid today as on the day they left Confucius’ mouth. Now It is only what you do. It is onlythe behaviors that you engage in. It is only the habits and actions you choose to undertake.And out of your actions come all the elements of your life. Live your life simply my friends!!!
"He who learns but does not think, is lost. He who thinksbut does not learn is in great danger." Thank You Very Much Sompong Yusoontorn