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Classroom guidance is delighted to announce the publication of “The Anti-Bullying Manual”
A complete Anti-Bullying Programme for 12 to 15 year olds
150 slide presentation free with ten appropriate video clips.
Keenly priced 27 page Manual for €4
Will offer one hour in school training for teachers delivering the programme (Croke Park Hours)
Available to give a parents talk on the Bullying and Cyber Bullying
Units covered are:
1. Is it Bullying
2. Types of Bullying
3. Cyber Bullying
4. Bystanders
5. How to Tell
6. Class Agreement
Order manuals for your student at www.classroomguidance.com

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  2. 2. 2 This Anti-Bullying Learner’s Manual © third edition was written by Brian Comerford of Classroom Guidance 2013 This resource can be used as the curriculum element of a “Friendship Week” or used as a stand-alone programme. Editor: Jennifer Rope
  3. 3. 3 Table of Contents PAGE Unit 1 – Is It Bullying? B1. Bullying Is… 1 B2. Is It Bullying? 3 Unit 2 – What Is Bullying? B3. Patrick’s Story 5 B4. Examples Of Bullying 6 Unit 3 – Cyber Bullying B5. Cyber Bullying 8 B6. Cyber Bullying Bar Chart 8 B7. Is It Cyber Bullying? 9 B8. How To Avoid-Cyber Bullying 10 B9. What Would You Do? 11 Unit 4 – Bystanders B10. Being A Good Bystander 12 Bullying Role Play 15 B11. Discussion 16
  4. 4. 4 PAGE Unit 5 – How To Tell B12. Advice for Telling 17 B13. How Can I Tell About Bullying? 19 B14. What Happens When I Tell In My School? 21 Unit 6 – Class Anti-Bullying Agreement B15. Personal Anti-Bullying Agreement 22 B16. Class Anti-Bullying Agreement 23 APPENDIX When & How To Contact The Service Provider 24 Mobile Phones 25 Useful Websites 26 Notes 27 Anti-Bullying Survey 28
  5. 5. 5 UNIT 1 - IS IT BULLYING? B1. Bullying Is… Bullying is HARD. It is: H ______________________ A ______________________ R ______________________ D ______________________ 1. Effects On The Victim Include 1. ___________________________________ 2. ___________________________________ 3. ___________________________________ 4. ___________________________________ 5. ___________________________________ 6. ___________________________________ 2. Aggression Is Involved It can be one or a combination of: 1. _______________________________________ 2. _______________________________________ 3. _______________________________________ 3.The Behaviour Is Repeated It may be once off but it is usually ______________
  6. 6. 6 4.The Behaviour Is Often Planned It can happen at the same________________________ or in the same _________________________________ 5. It is Hard For The Victim To Defend Themselves The victim has_________________________________ of ___________________________________________ 6. The Bullying Can Be Done By An Individual Or A Group Bullying behaviour can be done___________________ or for an _____________________________________ 7. There Is An Imbalance Of Power One person is ___________________________ stronger or ____________________________________ stronger. 8. The Bullying Behaviour Is Unprovoked The victim doesn’t ___________________ to be bullied.
  7. 7. 7 B2. Is It Bullying? Fill in the below table by ticking the appropriate boxes: Behaviour Yes No Not Sure 1. Darren bumps into Paul and knocks his books to the floor 2. Sophie pushes Tara again in the corridor 3. Mark keeps throwing things at Jack in class 4. Sean & Dave keep calling Michael’s mother hurtful names 5. Every time a student answers a question three students make noises 6. Jane whispers to Sarah in class 7. Leanne and Grainne keep giving Emily “the look” 8. Pat & his friends tell Jim they will “get him” after school 9. Karen & her friends always reserve the seats in the back row of the class for each other 10. Every time Sinead comes into the room a group of girls look at her, whisper and laugh 11. Mary accidentally falls off her chair and the others laugh 12. Martin continually copies Ramsha’s accent and jeers her about the food she eats 13. Amy’s mother will not let her stay over at Zoe’s house because of the area she lives in
  8. 8. 8 Behaviour Yes No Not Sure 14. Kieran keeps touching Tracey in a way that makes her feel uncomfortable 15. “Mary is a slut” is written on every door in the toilets 16. Gemma & her friends go to the cinema on Friday night but deliberately leave Aisling out again 17. Phillip gets others in the class to stop talking to Ross since he was picked as captain of the school team 18. On Monday Karen stops talking to Gemma and by the end of the week no one is talking to her 19. Anna spreads rumours that Clodagh fancies Jenny’s boyfriend 20. John keeps calling James gay 21. Someone keeps writing “lezzie” on Jane’s books 22. A hate page is posted on “Facebook” 23. Kate texts Louise to tell her she can’t go to the cinema 24. A student receives silent phone calls and hurtful texts everyday 25. When Tom raises his hand to answer a question the teacher never asks him 26. Two students keep ignoring a teacher’s instructions in class 27. Emma makes fake coughing noises during English class 28. A teacher gives a student detention for not doing homework again
  9. 9. 9 UNIT 2 - WHAT IS BULLYING? B3. Patrick’s Story Patrick was a student who became upset when things began to go wrong between himself and some boys in his class. He did not really understand why he was picked on because he never did anything to anybody else or said anything to annoy other people. Although Patrick was a bit of a loner - he enjoyed playing computer games and reading - other boys in his class were nice enough to him. Out of the blue things changed. It started out as slagging. Patrick was not very good at sports and sometimes in P.E. class when he missed shots or lost the ball to the other team he was called names. One boy, Jim, who was better at sport, was nasty to him and made fun of the way he played. Other boys laughed when Jim called Patrick “dopey” or “dumbo”. Being called names made Patrick feel even more awkward and less confident when he was playing. Jim and another boy started pushing him around and deliberately tackling him hard. They kicked him and warned him not to tell. He was threatened that if he did he would be beaten up after school. Patrick was very frightened by this and started making excuses to avoid playing games. He would deliberately forget his P.E. gear or write notes saying that he had a sprained ankle. Soon he was being slagged in class if he answered any teachers’ questions. He was called a “lick” and a “swot” and a bigger number of boys joined in the laughing. Pieces of paper or pens were thrown at him while the teacher wasn’t looking and drawings were sent around the class. One of the most hurtful things was when his mother was slagged by the other boys. They also jeered him because his sister was going out with a foreign student. He felt very ashamed that he could not defend himself or answer back. He did not want to tell at home because he did not want to worry his mother and he was afraid that his father would give out to him for not standing up for himself. It was not long before Patrick was being ignored and left out of things by everybody. He was never picked for teams and never asked along to matches or other fun activities outside school. He felt bad all the time. He could not concentrate in class and his work started to suffer. He could not get the bullying out of his mind and couldn’t sleep properly. Yet he still would not tell. He received silent phone calls and abusive text messages every day. Hate messages were left on his “Facebook” page and videos of him were posted “YouTube”. The thing that made him feel worst of all was when Jim started calling him gay. Soon everybody in the class and in his year joined in. Even students he did not know in other years pushed him around and called him gay. The last straw was when people shouted it out in the street after him. He just felt that he couldn’t take it anymore.
  10. 10. 10 B4. Examples of Bullying Most bullying falls into the main categories listed below. Read Patrick’s story again to find some examples of each type and list them below. Physical: Anything that hurts you or damages your property. 1. 2. Verbal: Anything hurtful said to you or directed at you. 1. 2. Psychological: Anything which affects how you think about yourself. 1. 2. Racial: Anything that insults your race, religion, culture or background. 1. 2. Sexual: Inappropriate or unwanted touching or comments. 1. 2.
  11. 11. 11 Homophobic: Anything that offends or insults a person’s sexual orientation. 1. 2. Cyber: Bullying using electronic means such as texting, e-mail and blogging. 1. 2. Relational: Damaging your friendships; exclusion or isolation. 1. 2.
  12. 12. 12 UNIT 3 - CYBER BULLYING B5. Cyber Bullying Define Cyber Bullying: ___________________________________ ___________________________________ _______________________________________ _______________________________________ _______________________________________ _______________________________________ B6. Cyber Bullying Bar Chart Complete the bar chart of survey results. 0 10 20 30 40 50 60 70 80 90 100 Read Or Spread Gossip Seen Fun Made Of Mates Online Cyber Bullying Survey
  13. 13. 13 B7. Is It Cyber Bullying? Fill in the below table by ticking the appropriate boxes. Cyber Behaviour Yes No Not Sure 1. Darren posts a message on Facebook saying Paul is gay 2. Sophie keeps texting Tara in class asking her to stop licking up to the teacher 3. Mark secretly videos his coach’s speech before a hurling match and uploads it to You Tube 4. Sean and Dave send out a tweet for people to vote for the most popular student in school 5. John’s Facebook page is hacked and his status is changed to married 6. Jane breaks up with Adam by text 7. Leanne Photoshop’s a picture of Grainne making her fat and posts it on Google images 8. Pat and his friends text Jim saying they will “get him” after school
  14. 14. 14 B8. How To Avoid Cyber Bullying Write down ten ways to avoid being Cyber Bullied: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10.
  15. 15. 15 B9. What Would You Do? Write down ten things you could do if you were Cyber Bullied: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10.
  16. 16. 16 UNIT 4 - BYSTANDERS B10. Being A Good Bystander Physical Bullying Give an example of physical bullying that is not a fight: _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ What could you do to help without putting yourself at risk? _________________________________________ _____________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ What might other bystanders say or do to support you? ________________________________________ ________________________________________ ________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________
  17. 17. 17 Cyber Bullying Classmates have created a hate page for another student. What could you do to help? ____________________________________ ____________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ Verbal Bullying What could you do or say to help the bullied student? ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ What would you like other bystanders to say to support you? ____________________________________ ____________________________________ ____________________________________ ____________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________
  18. 18. 18 Psychological Bullying Two friends have stopped talking to a third friend. How can you help? ________________________________________ ________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ Some students are making life miserable for a classmate by passing sexual comments. How can bystanders help the situation? ________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________
  19. 19. 19 Bullying Role Play It is in between classes and the students in 2A are waiting in their classroom for the teacher to arrive. If you don’t have a part, do not join in, laugh or cheer on the bullying. The Characters John is being bullied by a group of students. His books are knocked off his desk and he is being called gay. Ger is the biggest bully in the group. He always starts it off and the rest of the group are afraid to stand up to him. Ray knocks John’s books off the desk. He thinks Ger is really cool and enjoys the “messing” with John. Eddie calls John gay because he’s afraid of Ger and Ray and thinks if he doesn’t join in the messing they’ll start on him next. He doesn’t like what they’re doing to John but is too afraid to stop. Joe, Kate & Edel laugh when the lads start bullying John. Mary asks the lads to stop bullying John. Anne supports Mary and asks the boys to stop too. Frank supports Anne and Mary and decides after class to tell the teacher privately what is happening.
  20. 20. 20 B11. Discussion As a class, discuss the questions then fill in your answers. How did you feel about your role? Do you think Mary, Ann and Frank were good bystanders? Why? When might it become unsafe for Ann, Mary and Frank to continue intervening as bystanders? What should they do in that situation? Are Joe, Kate and Edel making things better or worse?
  21. 21. 21 UNIT 5 – HOW TO TELL B12. Advice For Telling I’m Too Afraid To Tell! Admitting that you are being bullied is never easy. You may be ashamed that you are not able to stand up for yourself, or you may feel that it is your own fault for being bullied. The main reason people don’t want to tell is because they are afraid that the bullying will get worse because they have “ratted”. Bullies know this, and rely on people being frightened. Secrecy is what allows the bullying to continue. Who to Tell? The first step is to tell someone. If you tell a friend they may understand and give you support. But the most important thing is to tell an adult you can trust, such as a Parent or Teacher. Research has shown that it almost always takes an adult to get it sorted. Telling Safely “Ratting” means telling tales to get others into trouble. People who “rat” feel they have got revenge on another person and are pleased that the person feels bad. Telling about bullying is not telling tales. It is telling to keep safe. A person who tells about bullying is doing everyone a great favour because telling will help stop people suffering at the hands of a bully.
  22. 22. 22 Telling at Home Ask a parent to telephone the school, write a letter or speak to a teacher. You may write a letter yourself and post it to a trusted teacher. You may get a friend to tell on your behalf. Telling at School Your school may have a system for telling teachers without anybody else knowing, e.g. an anti- bullying box or regular questionnaires. There may be certain teachers you can go to quietly or you may be able to tell a Senior Student. You could slip a note into a homework copy and hand it up to a teacher, or ask for help in a questionnaire.
  23. 23. 23 B13. How Can I Tell About Bullying? List below the names of some people who can support you if you’re being bullied: ______________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ Write down how telling someone will help you: ______________________________________________ ______________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ Explain what happens when people don’t tell: ______________________________________________ ______________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ Give two reasons why people are afraid to tell: 1. ___________________________________________ ___________________________________________ 2. _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________
  24. 24. 24 How can your parents get the school to help protect you? ________________________________________ ________________________________________ ________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ How can you tell a teacher without everyone knowing your business? ________________________________________ ________________________________________ ________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ Which teacher would you go to for help? _________________________________________________________ How can senior students in your school help? _________________________________________ _________________________________________ _________________________________________ _________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________
  25. 25. 25 B14. What Happens When I Tell In My School? Fill in the sanctions and supports that the school considers appropriate: First Incident Second Incident Persistent Bullying
  26. 26. 26 UNIT 6 – CLASS ANTI-BULLYING AGREEMENT B15. Personal Anti-Bulling Agreement Create your own personal anti-bullying agreement and write down three things you will do and three things you will not do to stop bullying: I Agree That I will ________________________________________ I will ________________________________________ I will ________________________________________ I will not _____________________________________ I will not _____________________________________ I will not _____________________________________ Signed ______________________________________
  27. 27. 27 B16. Class Anti-Bulling Agreement Discuss your answers from B15. (p22) as a class. Then list three things you all agreed you will do and three things you all agreed you will not do to stop bullying as a class: Our Class Agrees That We will _______________________________________ We will _______________________________________ We will _______________________________________ We will not ____________________________________ We will not ____________________________________ We will not ____________________________________ Signed _______________________________________ Class Name
  28. 28. 28 APPENDIX When & How To Contact The Service Provider To report content on YouTube: http://help.youtube.com/support/youtube/bin/request.py To report content on Flickr: http://www.flickr.com/report_abuse.gne To report content on Facebook: www.facebook.com/help To report content on Internet Chat Windows Messenger Live: https://support.live.com/eform.aspx?productKey=wlmessenger abuse&ct=eformts To report content on Skype: http://support.skype.com To report content on Yahoo Messenger: http://help.yahoo.com/l/us/yahoo/abuse/If you To report content on AskFM: http://ask.fm/about/safety - press the report button To report content on Instagram: http://help.instagram.com/527320407282978/ press the Report Inappropriate button
  29. 29. 29 Mobile Phones O2 Customer Care: 1909 (Bill paying customers) 1747 (Speak easy prepay) 1850 601 747 (from a landline) Vodafone Customer Care: 1907 (Bill paying customers), 1850 20 87 87 (Ready to Go) 3 Customer Service: From your 3 mobile 333, From other phones 083 333 3333 Meteor Customer Care: 1905 (Pay Later & Pay As You Go customers) Tesco 1749 From your Tesco Mobile
  30. 30. 30 Useful Websites www.internetsafety.ie Website of the Office for Internet Safety www.webwise.ie Provides parents, teachers and children with educational resources, advice and information about potential dangers on-line www.watchyourspace.ie Advice on managing children’s profiles on social-networking sites www.childline.ie Child Safety Issues www.hotline.ie Irish hotline for public to report child pornography and other illegal content on the internet. www.barnardos.ie Charity for the protection of children www.ncte.ie The National Centre for Technology in Education provides advice and support on technology in education www.o2.ie/childprotection Information on child protection Services offered by O2 www.npc.ie Website of the National Parents Council www.nyci.ie Website of National Youth Council of Ireland
  31. 31. 31 NOTES
  32. 32. 32 Anti-Bullying Questionnaire You can use this survey to get help for yourself or another student. Each student must write their name and class and circle “yes” or “no” as appropriate. …………………………………………………………………………………………………. Anti-Bullying Survey Name:_____________________________________________________ Class:_____________________________________________________ Are you being bullied? Yes No Do you know someone who is being bullied? _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ Any other comments? _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________