There are many, many words that describe bullying behaviour. Be specific, and choose the word you mean. These words not only describe what the person(s) do to you, but also how they make you feel – which is equally if not more important. Bullying it not just about the act, but how it impacts on you.Terrorize: to fill with terror or anxiety: scare / to coerce by threat or violenceIntimidate: to make timid or fearful: frighten / especially: to compel or deter by, or as if by threatsAttack: 1: to set upon or work against forcefully 2: to assail with unfriendly or bitter words 3: to begin to affect or to act on injuriously <plants attacked by aphids> 4: to set to work on <attack a problem> 5: to threaten (a piece in chess) with immediate captureMalice: 1: desire to cause pain, injury, or distress to another 2: intent to commit an unlawful act or cause harm without legal justification or excuse. Harass: 1 a:exhaust, fatigueb (1): to annoy persistently (2): to create an unpleasant or hostile situation for especially by uninvited and unwelcome verbal or physical conduct 2: to worry and impede by repeated raids <harassed the enemy>Abuse: 1: a corrupt practice or custom 2: improper or excessive use or treatment :misuse <drug abuse> 3obsolete: a deceitful act :deception4: language that condemns or vilifies usually unjustly, intemperately, and angrily 5: physical maltreatmentWhat does terrorism look like? What does it look like online? What does it look like at school? – *Ask audience* for specific examples.(Use at least one of these questions for each word)Why is malice important? – IntentFrom a police perspective
Bullying is used describe a huge range of harmful activities. Being bullied has to do with how a particular act makes you feel.You could feel tormented, or provoked, or forced.You could feel like the bully was cruel, or menacing or abusive.You could feel like anyone who witnessed it was callous or aggressive or taunting.Using words beyond bullying helps communicate exactly how you felt and what the perpetrators did.
http://events.kidshelpphone.ca/en/informed/bullying/xml/whatisbullying.aspWhat Is Bullying?Bullying happens when someone says or does hurtful things to someone else on purpose (it's not an accident). These mean things don't just happen once, they happen a lot and the bullying may go on for a long time. Sometimes bullying happens between two people, but bullying can also involve a group. Bullying involves a power difference: the person who bullies uses power to control and upset or distress another. People who bully may have an advantage over those who are victimized: they may be bigger, stronger, or older; they may be more popular, or they may know something sensitive or hurtful about the other person. Because of the power difference, it is hard for the person being bullied to defend him or herself.Summary: The Tormenter feels as though their actions are justified, and thus gains power and attention from their confidence. The Target, in turn, feels ashamed or embarrassed and these feelings increase the Tormenters feeling of power, tipping the scale in their direction.Now lets look at specific actions, and what type of bullying applies.
http://events.kidshelpphone.ca/en/informed/bullying/xml/whatisbullying.aspWhat kind of bullying is: Kicking *Ask audience*Physical BullyingWhat could an individuals be charged with? *Ask audience*Assault: 265. (1) A person commits an assault when (a) without the consent of another person, he applies force intentionally to that other person, directly or indirectly. [Canadian Criminal Code]
http://events.kidshelpphone.ca/en/informed/bullying/xml/whatisbullying.aspPhysical Bullying: means using your body to cause harm. Here are some examples of physical bullying; Hitting or punching Shoving, kicking, spitting, stealing Breaking someone else’s belonging, such as school work, clothing or toys
Television Show: FlashpointSeason 2 Episode 11, Title: Perfect StormWhere is the bullying in this clip? List the instances. (Presenter Note: keep track, add to the list once the audience is done, and identify bullying that could be lead to charges).The Recap The push to make the kid fall down The kick by the kid on the ground Pinning down of the kid on the ground Forcing him to hit himself, eat garbage and repeat insults The name calling, ‘Loser’ Recording the incident Sending out of the recordingWhen could the bullied have sought help? Right after the incident After the video is out and he’s being harassed after the fact At any point, this does not seem like the first time he had been bullied by this guyWhere did this happen? What does it impact?- home, self, school, family, workWho could help and how?School PerspectiveProvides awareness Defence, strategies to dealPolice Perspective- Specifics for action/non-actionHome/Family Perspective- support, empathy, safe zoneSelf/ The Individualempowerment, awareness stay away, avoidance seeking help talking about it coping techniques – looking at how you cope, what you do to dealCoping Techniques he employedTook it Confronted it, when it was regarding someone else Stood up for someone else Lashed back, physically Succumbed to bully’s demandsLooking at what else he could have done? Other ways to cope
http://events.kidshelpphone.ca/en/informed/bullying/xml/whatisbullying.aspWhat kind of bullying is: Stealing *Ask audience*Physical BullyingWhat could an individuals be charged with? *Ask audience*Theft/RobberyDo you know the difference between theft and robbery? *CLICK* for next slide.
*Asking the audience*Do you know what the difference is?Do you know why it’s important?Which one do you think carries a heavier/longer sentence? Generally robbery...Theft: 322. (1) Every one commits theft who fraudulently and without colour of right takes, or fraudulently and without colour of right converts to his use or to the use of another person, anything, whether animate or inanimate, with intentto deprive, temporarily or absolutely, the owner of it, or a person who has a special property or interest in it, of the thing or of his property or interest in it [Canadian Criminal Code]Robbery: Considered under Extortion - 346. (1) Every one commits extortion who, without reasonable justification or excuse and with intent to obtain anything, by threats, accusations, menaces or violence induces or attempts to induce any person, whether or not he is the person threatened, accused or menaced or to whom violence is shown, to do anything or cause anything to be done.
http://events.kidshelpphone.ca/en/informed/bullying/xml/whatisbullying.aspWhat kind of bullying is: Put Downs *Ask audience*Verbal BullyingWhat could an individuals be charged with? *Ask audience*Harassment
http://events.kidshelpphone.ca/en/informed/bullying/xml/whatisbullying.aspVerbal Bullying: means using your words to hurt someone. Here are some examples of verbal bullying; Making fun of someone because of their family Name calling Teasing in a hurtful way Put downs (eg. Clothing, hair, habits) Threatening Making fun because of a difference (eg. Stuttering, overweight) Calling someone racist or sexist names
Television Show: FlashpointSeason 1 Episode 06, Title: Attention ShoppersWhere is the bullying in this clip? List the instances. (Presenter Note: keep track, add to the list once the audience is done, and identify bullying that could be lead to charges).The Recap The graffiti, insults and name calling Stalking and harassing her at home The gun hand motion – essentially terrorizing and intimidating her Intimidating her Ganging up and attacking her in the bathroom Pinning her down and cutting her hair Threatening, with words and by showing her the gun What kind of threat is it? A conditional threatWhen could the bullied have sought help?What could be done with this incident?School PerspectivePolice PerspectiveHome/Family PerspectiveFacts in IssueFacts involved with the issue – required to prove a point Threat – not just about the action, but how it makes you feel Thing about bullying, involves many different types of chargesPolice InterventionFacts – When, where, who – to build a case for a potential charge What kind of situation? Bullying, assault, criminal harassment, emotional abuse, threats, sexual assault To identify what an officer can do, he/she needs facts/figures to assertain what direction to take No criminal code definition of bullying – focus on the facts Physically, verbally, environmentally (socially) whats happened Is it just you, or someone else Who, howmany, group setting What happened, whats been done and said Cautioning could deter the bully enough from doing it again Warning, if it happens again or escalates, they will be charged Can only work within their codeWhen it comes to charging people, specific criteria has to be met Even its on the system, that a person has been cautioned previously
http://events.kidshelpphone.ca/en/informed/bullying/xml/whatisbullying.aspWhat kind of bullying is: Threats *Ask audience*Verbal BullyingWhat could an individuals be charged with? *Ask audience*Uttering Threats
http://events.kidshelpphone.ca/en/informed/bullying/xml/whatisbullying.aspWhat kind of bullying is: Texts *Ask audience*Cyber BullyingWhat could an individuals be charged with? *Ask audience*Harassment
http://events.kidshelpphone.ca/en/informed/bullying/xml/whatisbullying.aspCyber Bullying: means using technology (such as a computer or cell phone) to hurt someone. Here are some examples of cyber bullying; Sending mean and hurtful emails, text messages, and instant messages Posting embarrassing photos on the internet Developing websites that make fun of others Setting up websites to rate others’ appearance Pretending you are someone else by using their name
Television Show: GleeSeason 1 Episode 8, Title: Bad ReputationWhere is the bullying in this clip? List the instances. (Presenter Note: keep track, add to the list once the audience is done, and identify bullying that could be lead to charges).The Recap Invasion of privacy Stealing of personal property Sharing with others and posting online Making fun of her (Sue Sylvester) as when she’s walking down the hall Insulting the male teacher (Will Schuester) ‘babies ass’ Comments on the posted video The Glist – a list rating the Glee club members based on their hotness Slander, when talking about the Glee club, ‘sexual depravity’ Using examples of incidents at other schools to force the male teacher to do somethingSchool Perspective Limitations of technology – password was GleeClub, might not have been a glee club member
http://events.kidshelpphone.ca/en/informed/bullying/xml/whatisbullying.aspWhat kind of bullying is: Rumours *Ask audience*Social BullyingWhat could an individuals be charged with? *Ask audience*Defamation
http://events.kidshelpphone.ca/en/informed/bullying/xml/whatisbullying.aspSocial Bullying: means using your friends and relationships to hurt someone. Here are some examples of social bullying; Spreading rumours Talking about others in a mean way behind their back Excluding others from a group (eg. Project, lunch, parties, sports) Breaking up friendships on purpose Making others look foolish or unintelligent
Television Show: Degrassi, The Next GenerationSeason 10 Episode 25, Title: Don’t Let Me Get Me, Part 1Where is the bullying in this clip? List the instances. (Presenter Note: keep track, add to the list once the audience is done, and identify bullying that could be lead to charges).The Recap Spreading rumours and gossiping Trash talking, slander, name calling Threats of physical violence Invasion of privacy Sending out of personal pic, without knowledge or consent
What can you do? Talk about it with someone you trustGet advice anonymously Kids Help Phone 800.668.6868 ~ www.kidshelphone.caCybertip ~ www.cybertip.caReport it to the policeCrime Stoppers (Anonymously) 416.222.8477 ~ www.222tips.comToronto Police Service 416.808.2222 ~ 9-1-1
BY ANY OTHER NAMESo many issues with one word
BY ANY OTHER NAME Terrorize Intimidate Attack Malice Harass Abuse
USE YOUR WORDSBrowbeat Intimidate Bluster Torment Threaten Sting BulldozeMenace Terrorize Badger Scare Coerce Harass Lean on Bait FrightenPush Strong-arm Alarm Ride Hound Tease Force Dismay Terrify Enforce OppressShake Bother Spook Aggressive Terrorizing Overbear Swagger TyrannizeWalk heavy Annoy Goad Pester Daunt Dishearten Rattle SubdueDisconnect Trouble Bully Weigh Worry Loom Flaming Domineer BugHeckle Needle Plague Drive Pressurize Repress Duress IntimidationMenacing Persuasion Embarrass Unnerve Faze Dispirit Put off HorrifyDistress Irk Vex Henpeck Fleece Disturb Taunt Criticize InstigateInciteProvoke Abuse Abusive Persecute Burn Roughshod TortureTurn on the heat Imperious Give the business Harry Hassle Importance NudgeWork on Mean muggin High Pressure Hinder Restrict Shotgun Urge RidiculeAbuse Trolling Harsh Insist on Lord it over Stink eye Put the chill onPut through the wringer Twist one’s arm Boss around Call the shotsKeep under their thumb Give a hard time Ice Bleed Dampen CompromiseJeopardize Influence Blackmail Cut eye Malicious HatefulSpiteful Malevolent Nasty Cruel Wicked Unkind Hurtful Brutal VindictiveMerciless Heartless Vicious Callous Cold-blooded
TIPPING THE SCALES Bullying involves aTarget Tormenter power difference: the person who bullies uses power to control and upset or distress another.
WHAT TYPE OF BULLYING IS... Kicking Physical Assault
PHYSICAL BULLYING Physical bullying means using your body to cause harm.
WHAT CAN YOU DO?Get advice anonymously Report it to the police Kids Help Phone Crime Stoppers 800.668.6868 (Anonymously) www.kidshelphone.ca 416.222.8477 Cybertip www.222tips.com www.cybertip.ca Toronto Police Service 416.808.2222 9-1-1