2. STAGES OF TALENT DEVELOPMENT 18 1 Romantic Stage —“This is fun!” 2 Technical Stage — doing it “right” 3 Mature Stage — high level

3. STAGES OF TALENT DEVELOPMENT Take Aways: • Beware of cutting the Romantic Stage too short • Manage the transition from Stage 1 to Stage 2 – avoid sacrificing fun • Talent is not obvious early • Support makes the difference 19

4. POSITIVE COACH MENTAL MODEL A Positive Coach is a “Double-Goal” Coach ®

5. POSITIVE COACH MENTAL MODEL A Positive Coach is a “Double-Goal” Coach 1. Winning (IMPORTANT) 2. Teaching Life Lessons (MORE IMPORTANT) ®

6. POSITIVE COACH MENTAL MODEL Three Principles of Positive Coaching

10. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition 24 Mastery Definition

11. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results 24 Mastery Definition Effort

12. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning

13. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK

14. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE

15. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE Research shows: * Mastery Climate = Anxiety goes down = Self-confidence goes up

16. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE Mastery gives players a feeling of c______

17. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE Mastery gives players a feeling of c ontrol

18. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE Mastery gives players a feeling of c ontrol > work harder > stick to it longer

23. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK E-Tank is like a gas tank 28 EMPTY Less coachable FULL More coachable

24. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK Fill Drain 29

25. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK Fill Praise (truthful & specific) Drain Criticize/Correct 29

26. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK Fill Praise (truthful & specific) Express Appreciation Drain Criticize/Correct Sarcasm 29

27. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK Fill Praise (truthful & specific) Express Appreciation Listen Drain Criticize/Correct Sarcasm Ignore 29

28. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK Fill - REWARD Praise (truthful & specific) Express Appreciation Listen Nonverbal Drain - PUNITIVE Criticize/Correct Sarcasm Ignore Nonverbal 29

29. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK 5 : 1 “ Magic Ratio” (positives to criticisms) 31

30. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK 5 : 1 “ Magic Ratio” (positives to criticisms) 31

31. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK 2 : 1 Criticism Sandwich (positives to criticisms) 31

32. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS The Keys to a strong coach/child relationship: 57

35. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 3. Listen! — vs. waiting to talk 57

36. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 3. Listen! — vs. waiting to talk • It’s a gift you give your child • Ask rather than tell 57

37. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 3. Listen! — vs. waiting to talk • It’s a gift you give your child • Ask rather than tell • Ask open-ended questions 57

38. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 3. Listen! — vs. waiting to talk • It’s a gift you give your child • Ask rather than tell • Ask open-ended questions • Show you are listening 57

39. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 3. Listen! — vs. waiting to talk • It’s a gift you give your child • Ask rather than tell • Ask open-ended questions • Show you are listening • Resist the urge to “fix” it 57

40. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 57 Let the child set the terms • Follow the child’s emotional schedule • Connect through activity • Be patient and persistent

41. HONORING THE GAME 10 Gets to the ROOTS of positive play 36

42. HONORING THE GAME 4 Gets to the R OOTS of positive play RULES • Refuse to bend the rules to win 36

43. HONORING THE GAME 4 Gets to the R O OTS of positive play RULES OPPONENTS • “ Fierce and friendly” 36

45. HONORING THE GAME 4 Gets to the ROO T S of positive play RULES OPPONENTS OFFICIALS TEAMMATES • Never do anything to embarrass our team 36

46. HONORING THE GAME 4 Gets to the ROO T S of positive play RULES OPPONENTS OFFICIALS TEAMMATES SELF • Live up to your own standards even when others don’t! 36